Son doesn’t want children/partner does

This is for the girlfriend to decide, your DS has made his decision, stay out of it and don’t get involved.
Friend of ours wanted children, he didn’t, they split up And she now has 6 and he has been with another lady for over 20 years, no children but a couple of dogs.
But, it was a mutual decision, he met someone who wasn’t pressured into deciding not have children.

Eight months is nothing. Just let them sit on it a while.

Things do change over time.
My lovely friend never had children although they are still a great joy to him. He fell in love with someone who didn't want them and so that was that.

One son fell in love with someone who did want a family and he says he doesn't. They seem to have settled on large dogs! They have been together for maybe eight years now. I don't think they will have children.

My daughter really really wants children. She says she will adopt if she doesn't find the right person soon. I think she would move on if the two disabled children didn't live with him.

It will work it's way out without you. Easy to say, but try to relax. We love our children and want them to be happy. They will talk about it together and will have to find a way through one way or another.
Thinking of you.

How do you all not feel like your own heart is breaking when you know that your children are sad???

She is a girlfriend of about 8 months

Grandmabatty, he does often ask advice.... and he is being very pragmatic about it I must say.
I just find I’m taking it on board too much I think

I find it hard to disassociate!
My son was on the phone yesterday and to see him so upset is heartbreaking

I think you are taking it too much to heart. Of course you care about your boy and his wishes, however it is up to him and his gf to sort this out or not. Is he in the habit of asking for relationship advice from you or was he maybe just venting? If he's looking for advice, I would be very cautious. If he's venting, then sympathetic sounds and, "what are you going to do about this?" with the emphasis on you. Ultimately his gf is entitled to her feelings and if she wants children and he doesn't it may be the parting of the ways for them.

No it was a typo!

They will have to work this one out themselves. I think ultimately the relationship is going nowhere with such a fundamental problem, I’m sorry to say.

It sounds like it's time for his girlfriend to move on then and he needs to find someone who doesn't want children.

Do the other children live with him? Is the disability passed down from him and does this affect his thinking?
Is the girlfriend the same age?

New girlfriend? How new? Or is that Now girlfriend?
either way its up to them of course, nothing for you to be concerned about. Sad though for the girlfriend.
Try not to get involved.

Sorry, cross posted

Sorry, I don't know how the term TV fits here?

I meant to say, so happy for the first time in several years.... not TV! Sorry