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Applegran Wed 11-Nov-20 23:06:00

It is really sad to see unkindness, lies and the real pain many people suffer, wherever they happen. But we can begin to feel that the world is not a good place for us, when we look at the news, or hear, for instance, about the really unkind things which can happen on social media. But I think there are millions and millions of acts of kindness and love to friends, family and strangers every day all over the world. Small acts mostly, and some great ones. But they are there and it’s easy to forget that they must outnumber the unkindnesses. Our societies hold together in the end because of kindness and trust and generosity at some level. Small acts of kindness do not get into the news, so we are reminded of them less often. But you would step forward to help someone, for instance, who you saw trip and fall, or a lost child in the days when we were able to be in crowds. Maybe it would be good on Gransnet to share stories of acts of unselfish kindness and love which we don’t hear about but make a huge difference.
I can think of many in my life – here is just one example:
We were travelling with small children on holiday, and we took a long time getting out of a small airport to go to the bus station where we were meant to catch a bus to our hotel for the night. When we finally got to the bus station – our bus had gone and there were no more that day. Another bus driver, whose route was at first the same as ‘our’ bus, contacted the driver of the bus we should have been on, and arranged to take us to meet our bus in a lay by. We got to our destination safely and in good time.

GrandmasueUK Thu 12-Nov-20 23:26:55

We were staying at a remote countryside holiday house in Ireland, with extended family. One morning daughter and I decided to walk into the village. A car drove past us going in the opposite direction and the lady driver waved to us and we waved back. A few minutes later it drove past us going the other way and stopped. She wanted to know if we needed a lift to the village, which was lovely, but we said no, as it was a lovely day. She then drove off and turned round again and we all waved. Such friendly people there.

Notinthemanual Thu 12-Nov-20 23:38:22

Loving this thread Applegran - thank you.

Daisymae How wonderful that someone went to the expense of installing that light! Wouldn't it be great if that came as standard on all cars.

Years ago, I lost my holiday money on a bus. A little girl handed it in and the police forwarded my thank you letter and reward to her. She replied telling me all about the barbie doll she'd bought with it.

FarNorth Thu 12-Nov-20 23:40:12

Just yesterday, I hopped into my car and it wouldn't start - flat battery.

Postie arrived just then and had two goes at shoving the car, to help me get it off the drive and into the sloping road for a jump start.
That was so good of him.

ginny Fri 13-Nov-20 18:48:26

Two happy moments for me today. DD1 called to say that her second lot of medical tests had come back and we are nearly at the edge of the woods . A little way to go but hopefully looking far more positive .

Secondly , our next door neighbour of 27 years , moved house yesterday. Today a bouquet of flowers arrived . She was thanking us for being lovely neighbours.

Applegran Fri 13-Nov-20 19:29:56

What heart warming stories! Every act of kindness makes a difference.

Spangler Fri 13-Nov-20 21:10:20

My wife misses seeing her sister. Sister-in-law still lives in London, like the rest of us, restrictions prevent them travelling to see one another.

In my wife's email box this morning was a very grainy photograph, sister-in-law had come across it and passed it on. That photo has a great significance to both of us.

Back in our youth we partnered each other in Latin & Ballroom dancing, we had aspirations of becoming professional, but it didn't happen.

Competing at dancing was quite expensive what with the costumes and travel. To help reduce our costs I asked her Dad for permission to share a hotel room.

Dear, oh dear, I never got, single beds of course, out. Her Dad crossly said that if I wanted to sleep with his daughter I would have to marry her.

In that photo I told her what her father had said, adding: What would you say if I asked you to marry me? To which she replied, "Nothing would make me happier."

And as this is the happier thread, now you all know.

farview Fri 13-Nov-20 21:42:12

Well I dont go into the living room until about 7.45p.m...when H goes to bed...( long story and irrelevant)....had a stressful day...but earlier..was in the guest bedroom, ..lay on the bed and on my phone ,on you tube,played meditation music for about half an hour...brilliant..feel so relaxed....happier ?

PollyDolly Fri 13-Nov-20 23:48:37

My daughters car broke down on the way home from the weekly shopping trip on a particularly hot afternoon. My car was off the road at the time too. She had called the breakdown service when a lovely lady stopped to ask if she was alright. Daughter said she was ok but coyly asked the lady if she would mind bringing daughters grocery shopping to my house as the frozen food was likely to defrost. Sure enough, this lady pulled up outside my house and promptly carried all my daughters shopping into my kitchen. We were so grateful for her kindness, didn't know her from Adam and she refused any recompense for her trouble.

Kate1949 Sat 14-Nov-20 13:09:40

Our two (grown-up) nephews have just put a box of biscuits in our porch and we had a distanced chat smile

Tweedle24 Sat 14-Nov-20 15:59:55

I was taking a disabled friend to an evening charity quiz last year when my clutch went on a steep hill. A woman driving down stopped to offer to call for help for us on her phone. It wasn’t necessary as I had already called the RAC but, it was appreciated.. Then a young man stopped and helped manoeuvre the car into a safer position. Lastly, a couple returning to their home nearby took us indoors and sat us down in the warm with a cup of tea each until the rescue vehicle arrived. Humanity and charity is still around.

Applegran Sat 14-Nov-20 17:42:53

In an airport I wanted to buy a bottle of water - but had run out of the currency for the country I was leaving. A man standing near me insisted on paying for the water for me. When I thanked him, he gave me his card - he was the mayor of the largest town in the next country we were visiting! He invited us to visit him, but our plans didn't allow for that. But a lovely act of kindness.

Applegran Sat 14-Nov-20 17:44:27

Just had another thought - someone I know offered to donate a kidney to a stranger. Wow! That really is kindness. In the end it turned out that her health would not allow her to do it, but that really is greatness of heart.

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 18:41:19

Cant top the kidney but
We ran out of petrol in the middle of nowhere (A habit of Orlin’s but that’s another story).
A couple of hells angels stopped, took our petrol can and a fiver, admit we both felt a bit dubious but twenty minutes later they were back with a can of petrol and a hot Cornish pasty for each of us. It wasn’t until they rode away that we found the fiver in the bag with the pasties.
Never found out who they were but lovely men.

Lucca Sat 14-Nov-20 18:48:55

Laura I’ve just twigged about Orlin......

25Avalon Sat 14-Nov-20 19:04:15

Many years ago when I was in digs my car was outside in the road when someone came in to tell me the side of my car had been damaged. I didn’t have much money in those days so was full of gloom. When I looked there was a note tucked under the wipers, apologising, and telling me to get it fixed and where to send the bill too. Very honest and kind.

Kate1949 Sat 14-Nov-20 19:10:31

My husband donated his bone marrow to a complete stranger in another country. He went on the bone marrow register after our nephew died of leukemia.

MellowYellow Sun 15-Nov-20 08:21:10

Yesterday in Tesco a student who was obviously in a hurry stopped in his tracks to help reach some ground almonds down from a high shelf for an elderly, stooped lady. He didn't have to. It moved me a bit.

LauraNorder Sun 15-Nov-20 12:33:01

Lucca grin

Tweedle24 Sun 15-Nov-20 15:15:42

When my daughter was a teenager, she desperately wanted to go to Live Aid. I allowed her to go with her friend but, to ensure they would get in, they queued all night. I gave her a cheque for the entrance fee for both of them but, the man at the door would not accept it without the bank card. A young man behind them in the queue kindly paid for them to go in. He said they deserved to get in after queuing all night. She did get his name and address so I was able to reimburse him with a grateful thank you note. He did not know he would get that money back though, did he?

Applegran Mon 16-Nov-20 11:15:24

A woman in a super market had a toddler in noisy melt down - an older woman went up to the Mum, asked if it was ok to talk to the child, and then chatted to the little girl about her shoes, her T shirt and nothing much at all, as well as reassusring the mother that everyone who had had children was empathising with her. The little girl stopped screaming - distracted by the chat about her clothes.

Namsnanny Mon 16-Nov-20 11:54:32

Lovely photo memory Spangler

Granarchist Mon 16-Nov-20 16:10:01

soon after I passed my driving test I was towing a trailer with two horses in it and got a puncture on the trailer. Middle of nowhere. A van stopped and two men got out - even in those days I was nervous - they were mechanics and had every known bit of kit with them - they helped me unbox the horses, and while I held them the two chaps replaced the tyre in minutes - it was so so kind of them.

Alishka Tue 17-Nov-20 01:02:21

What a lovely threadsmile

Applegran Wed 18-Nov-20 12:09:12

We were lost in the car and asked a couple walking on the pavement if they could direct us - it was complicated and the husband offered to come in the car with us and tell us the way! We protested but they said it would be fine and he could easily walk home afterwards. He declined an offer of a drink or meal at the hotel we were headed for - but it really mattered to me as it was to join a friend of my daughter's whom we knew well and now lives in Australia.