Goodbye

Could it be time to leave well alone?

rafichagran

I hope teetime returns. Hetty you are not realistic, you were wrong, you came across as patronising and nasty.

And the pile on is coming across as nasty, vindictive and sanctimonious . FFS

What Chewbacca said.

Hetty58

Teetime, BlueSky is quite right. People who leave do just that - they disappear.

I tend to think the 'I'm leaving' posts are from those who welcome the 'Please stay' replies.

I don't think we're negative, we're just realistic. Maybe you'd be happier on the 'Rose tinted glasses' forum?

Pretty sure if you’d just said you were sorry for your wording n your original post that might have gone down better !

I hope teetime returns. Hetty you are not realistic, you were wrong, you came across as patronising and nasty.

Oopsminty posted on Thursday:
I'll be disappearing through that door you opened
which she seems to have done.

I think that is a great shame because she is a kind poster and has apologised for her post. She was probably mortified at upsetting Teetime but has explained on this thread why she posted as she did and apologised for it.

I hope both Teetime and Oopsminty return.

Puzzler61

Good post honeyrose.
My mum had a saying “if you can’t say anything nice, be quiet”.

Thank you, Puzzler61. I try to use that as my mantra. I haven’t always been a diplomatic person, but have learned with age that it’s the best way to be.

I don't think we're negative, we're just realistic = acerbic, harsh, judgemental, condemnatory, brusque, hyper critical, unkind, bossy, overbearing, conceited and full of self importance

Juliet27

I picture some of the more outspoken posters on GN as spiders lurking and ready to 'have a go'. Come into my parlour said the spider to the fly.

You sound nice - this thread has descended into a typical GN bun fight. Nothing more fitting than a sanctimonious pile on to vindicate Teetime’s sensible decision to leave.,

I picture some of the more outspoken posters on GN as spiders lurking and ready to 'have a go'. Come into my parlour said the spider to the fly.

If you were at a meeting and somebody put you down, would you want to go again? I doubt it. Why do some people think it’s acceptable to make acerbic remarks because they are “invisible” on here when they probably wouldn’t do it face to face or if they did would have no friends. There was no need to be rude and hurtful about Teetime and her dh. Posters need to think before they reply, and if you hurt someone, even inadvertently, apologise. A lot of posters do apologise.

How unpleasant this has become. ?

Once again a thread has descended into nastiness. Why don't posters stop and think of the consequences of their posts and the effects they may have on other's wellbeing!

Good post honeyrose.
My mum had a saying “if you can’t say anything nice, be quiet”.

Totally agree with momb

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I would be keeping a low profile if I were you Hetty58

You might think you are realistic, but others might describe you in other words.

Mumofmadboys you haven’t got the name wrong.

Hetty- are you trying to be helpful??? If I remember rightly you were one of the people who made harsh comments on the original thread. If it was you, an apology would not be amiss. If I have got the name wrong I am sorry.

Well teetime I have no idea what happened on the other thread, but I would ask you to reconsider. I’ve only ever seen lovely posts from you, and supportive posts. You will be missed.

Teetime, BlueSky is quite right. People who leave do just that - they disappear.

I tend to think the 'I'm leaving' posts are from those who welcome the 'Please stay' replies.

I don't think we're negative, we're just realistic. Maybe you'd be happier on the 'Rose tinted glasses' forum?

Because you had an opinion ☹️☹️Come back

Sorry to see you go, Teetime. I don’t actually know about the issue that prompted this departure. I have only been on GN for about 5 or 6 months and love it - the variety of topics and opinions is wonderful and I look at GN every day. I do feel, however, that some responders can be rather insensitive. I think that responses, if worded more thoughtfully and carefully, would be better received and therefore more helpful. We certainly don’t always have to agree with one another - we’re all different after all - but a bit of diplomacy and sensitivity goes a long way. Please be tactful everyone. We all need a bit of support from time to time and GN can be a great source of support - but please be kind. I know that most of you are - but some are less so.

Thank you May! I too have found kindness and support, some comments might come across as abrupt, but you can choose to ignore or answer back.