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Sending a Hug to the Keyboard Warriors

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Notinthemanual Sat 14-Nov-20 08:20:26

That was quite a week for unpleasantness. I’ve wondered why some Grans are that way. Do they feel unheard IRL and vent their frustration here?

I saw an anecdote elsewhere recently… A mother had told her young son off for being cruel to his school friends. The child replied “They are dumb, and they need to know that.” I’ve known some really smart, self-reliant, resilient, well-dressed adults who never needed to make sure everyone knew that are others were less so. They had healthy self-esteem, compassion and were wise enough to know that not everyone’s reality is the same.

There are ways to disagree without being disagreeable. There is a preview box. And of course, the guideline to not say something that you wouldn’t say face to face. Perhaps those Grans are as forthright with people they barely know IRL. Perhaps that is why they are here.

I don’t take the good advice to just skip past their posts – I think I have some fascination with the horrible. But I have come to a new conclusion. IMO those Grans need a hug. I’m sending love and smiling; imagining them indignantly trying to bat it away with a fly swatter; my good wishes drifting through the mesh and settling on them.

It also occurred to me that they might just need to up their fluid and vegetable intake.

Thankfully, those Grans are a tiny minority. The rest of you lovely people brighten my day with your kindness, wisdom and good humour.

GrannyMosh Sun 15-Nov-20 20:02:16

Thanks, everyone, and apologies for hijacking the thread somewhat. I'm not usually so whingy, but things definitely got on top of me today. Onwards and upwards! xx

AGAA4 Sun 15-Nov-20 16:18:00

GrannyMosh flowers and hugs for you.

Ellianne Sun 15-Nov-20 15:34:11

GrannyMosh flowers

Callistemon Sun 15-Nov-20 15:31:38

GrannyMosh I am sorry to hear of the tough time you're all having at the moment and hope your son makes a good recovery. The children are lucky to have you to care for them. flowers and a hug if it will help.

I think a lot of us may be having a tough time and for some having a joke online is a way of relieving the stress so I hope you will feel up to joining in some of the lighthearted threads.

Geoffrey was Geoffrey Hayes who appeared with his pals Zippy, George and Bungle on children's TV for very many years in the programme Rainbow.

Callistemon Sun 15-Nov-20 15:21:51

Lucca

Callistemon I seem to have lost the plot somewhere...what was the start of the youth hostel thing ?

It was a bit of lateral thinking, Lucca
A misread post > gin as bug repellent > Jungle formula > I'm a Celebrity GMOOH > Gwrych Castle this year > was Gwyrych Castle a Youth Hostel aeons ago?

Clear as mud?
grin

Maggiemaybe Sun 15-Nov-20 15:14:13

GrannyMosh, I’ve just read your post and am so sorry that you have so much to contend with.

Sending you thanks and strength, and all best wishes for your son’s speedy recovery.

Greenfinch Sun 15-Nov-20 14:35:47

You have a lot to cope with GrannyMosh.Please try to find some time for yourself which is not easy in your situation.

GrannyLaine Sun 15-Nov-20 14:34:07

And can someone please tell me who Godfrey is? I can only think of the dear old chap in Dad's Army

GrannyMosh I don't know about Godfrey but there was some banter about Geoffrey from Rainbow last night. Remember Bungle and Zippy?
So sorry to hear of your troubles, sending you a virtual hug or two (()) and flowers

Aldom Sun 15-Nov-20 14:32:13

GrannyMosh I read your post and thought you might like some flowers to help you find the strength to get through this difficult time. Wishing a speedy recovery to your son and warm wishes to you.

Charleygirl5 Sun 15-Nov-20 14:29:42

I also have just read your post- sorry, I do not do hugs but you have my heartfelt sympathy. I do hope your son is on the mend.

Smileless2012 Sun 15-Nov-20 14:23:16

Just read your post on page 6 GrannyMosh and sending a BIG hug your way. I hope your DS will be OKflowers.

GrannyMosh Sun 15-Nov-20 13:49:47

Thanks, dragonfly46. Funny, how when one has been strong for so long, the offer of a genuine hug can reduce one to tears. x

dragonfly46 Sun 15-Nov-20 13:13:34

GrannyMosh this maybe off topic but sending you lots of hugs and flowers

LauraNorder Sun 15-Nov-20 13:08:09

Lucca I think it was re ‘I’m a Z list celebrity trying to boost my career get me out of here’ Being filmed in a castle in North Wales that may or may not once have been a youth hostel

Lucca Sun 15-Nov-20 12:45:09

Callistemon I seem to have lost the plot somewhere...what was the start of the youth hostel thing ?

LauraNorder Sun 15-Nov-20 11:53:27

Sorry Grannymosh our posts crossed.
I’m sure an exception can be made for a hug for you.

LauraNorder Sun 15-Nov-20 11:51:06

A thread called ‘I Am Cloning Grand Mothers and Other Halves‘ May get you some attention Callistemon

GrannyMosh Sun 15-Nov-20 11:48:47

I'd be glad of a hug or twelve, as long as they are gentle ones. In the last 4 weeks, my best friend of over 30 years has died of pancreatic cancer, without me being able to visit her. My favourite aunt (and godmother) has died of Covid. And now my son is in hospital with heart problems, probably brought on by stress. I have fibromyalgia and am helping to care for my three grandchildren despite suffering from constant pain and exhaustion. Not waving, but drowning here. Overwhelmed by grief.
Notinthemanual, I suspect your offer of hugs was a genuine one, albeit misunderstood by some of the people who have commented. If that's the case, please send them my way, and have thanks in return.
And can someone please tell me who Godfrey is? I can only think of the dear old chap in Dad's Army.

Blossoming Sun 15-Nov-20 11:47:24

Good morning Bigjohn and anybody else in this thread smile

Bigjohn Sun 15-Nov-20 11:34:09

Good morning everyone

Callistemon Sun 15-Nov-20 11:26:16

Thank you all!

When a thread is started on IACGMOOH (?) perhaps I'll ask again.
I can find nothing about it being a YH and it was a very long time ago.

Blossoming Sun 15-Nov-20 11:17:28

Happy memories of trips to Wales. My bones and joints are too old for youth hosteling now, and OH has never been a fan of roughing it. Our one and only camping trip together was a total disaster grin

Ellianne Sun 15-Nov-20 11:13:56

It looks like it would make a super adventure holiday place. Really close to the coast tto.

Lexisgranny Sun 15-Nov-20 11:08:14

Callistemon. If I remember correctly it was used for Jewish children from the kinderstransport, so if it had been kitted out to accommodate them, maybe it would be a natural progression to becoming a Youth Hostel. Maybe someone more local will know, we are some distance away although still in Wales.

Ellianne Sun 15-Nov-20 10:56:03

Please no unkind comments today again.
I fail to see the connection between the two threads.