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Am I being over sensitive

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lemsip Sat 14-Nov-20 21:32:11

bet his wife took care of it when they went inside so forget lt! some people have no filter!

CanadianGran Sat 14-Nov-20 21:20:02

I would have taken it as an insult as well. I like Merlot's response. Perhaps next time you see him, you can mutter something about an 'itchy rash'.

merlotgran Sat 14-Nov-20 21:09:46

I don't think it's ever a good idea to call somebody out and ask what they mean. It makes you the victim.

Just a curt, 'How rude' or a sarcastic, 'Clearly Lockdown has been an advantage for you then.' would have made him realise you were not impressed.

If you have to be in his company again ignore any intimidating remarks.

Be the better person.

welbeck Sat 14-Nov-20 20:54:07

it does sound and feel unpleasant to me. avoid them.

B9exchange Sat 14-Nov-20 20:50:17

I think it depends how it was said. With a grin it would be a [possibly bad] attempt at a joke, with a straight face I might have been tempted to ask him what he meant?

EllanVannin Sat 14-Nov-20 20:48:19

I'd have laughed ! But that's my sense of humour which can confuse some.

suziewoozie Sat 14-Nov-20 20:46:08

You are not being over sensitive at all - it was a rotten thing to say and he did mean something by it. There’s nothing to over analyse at all - he’s horrible, that’s quite simple.

merlotgran Sat 14-Nov-20 20:22:53

Don't let it upset you but be one step ahead the next time you meet him. Have a few retorts up your sleeve just in case.

Nothing worse than a smart a**e. grin

MrsThreadgoode Sat 14-Nov-20 20:17:16

I’m with Summerlove I would have been upset, but I would have asked him to explain why he said that.
Get it out in the open, rather than think they are talking about it behind closed doors.

lemongrove Sat 14-Nov-20 20:16:12

Just a clumsy response to you, I doubt it means anything, let it go and don’t over analyse.

Summerlove Sat 14-Nov-20 20:15:35

I’d be quite hurt by that honestly.

Try to let it pass you by, but pay attention to cues once socialising is allowed again.

If something is mentioned in the future, I’d ask right away what that meant,

Lexisgranny Sat 14-Nov-20 20:15:24

Don’t take it to heart, he has probably got the lockdown blues.. I think Covid has left some people remaining much the same, with a few ups and downs, some are sensitive and others a bit grouchy. Please don’t upset by a single remark, it’s just not worth it, the he time you meet he will probably have forgotten all about it.

Luckygirl Sat 14-Nov-20 20:10:42

I think you need to let this wash by - sometimes people open their mouths and put their foot in it with no negative intent. I am sorry it has upset you.

avitorl Sat 14-Nov-20 20:08:34

I wouldn't over think it.He probably meant nothing by it.

ttgran Sat 14-Nov-20 20:03:09

Someone who I socialise with at sport and social known for twenty years passing their garden wife says hello not seen you for a while husband says "yes normally you are over us like a rash"
Bear in mind not spoken or rang them for six weeks but pre covid we met as a group weekly.Thought we got on but obviously not