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Do you still send Christmas Cards?

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vegansrock Wed 25-Nov-20 07:29:40

I remember my late mother in law writing what seemed like hundreds of Christmas cards to everyone she had ever known . She also loved receiving lots back. Given the financial and environmental concerns, it seems card sending is going out of fashion, particularly among younger people. How many cards do you send? Will it be fewer ( or more) this year? I quite like cards to decorate the house, but wonder if anyone would notice if I didn’t send any. My DH never sends any - so is there an age/ gender divide?

aonk Wed 25-Nov-20 11:57:10

Yes I send cards. I bought some charity ones before the shops closed. Plenty of supermarkets sell them too and also M and S so you can buy on line if you wish. There are people who I’m only in touch with via the annual Christmas card. I keep the ones I receive for a couple of weeks and they’re part of my decorations. I would be so sad to see this tradition die out. Perhaps it won’t as I know my GC love exchanging cards with their friends.

RosesAreRed21 Wed 25-Nov-20 11:59:20

Yes I still send lots of Christmas cards although I have tried cutting down as the price of postage is a lot. I love getting cards through the post

KathrynP Wed 25-Nov-20 12:12:46

I thought that this year I’d get to do my cards early with lockdown ..... no. Still not done! Where does the time go!

sodapop Wed 25-Nov-20 12:19:27

You are not bringing anyone down Lucca we are just sympathetic to you feeling sad at this time of year. If it helps then that's what GN is good at.
Hope you feel better as the day goes on.

Aepgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 12:20:48

Yes, I send Christmas cards. Every year I ‘prune’ my list a little, and then find myself adding someone who has meant a kot to me over the year. However, it was a shock to find that a 2nd class stamp is now 65p!

Aepgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:07

lot, not kot.

Dearknees1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:23

I don't see a charity donation as an alternative to Christmas cards. I'd prefer it if people simply said they weren't sending cards. I feel as if I'm being made to feel guilty for 'wasting' money that could go to charity when there are plenty of opportunities to donate. Personally I love cards. When I see them on display I feel remembered and surrounded by love. I hope other people feel the same way so I keep on sending them.

Annaram1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:21:49

When my husband was alive I used to send around 40 cards and we got about the same number back. Now I rarely send cards but I might send an ecard by Jackie Lawson to those whose email addresses I have. I saved all the cards I got last year and will put them up in my living room together with any new ones so it will look as if I am very popular.

Annaram1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:23:26

PS I usually buy Christmas cards after Christmas when they are reduced.

EllanVannin Wed 25-Nov-20 12:25:43

A good 30+ or so and receive pretty well the same because they're all over the place grin, mantlepiece, hearth, sideboard and blue-tacked at the back of the door.

Unigran4 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:29:12

I love sending Christmas cards (about 70) each with an individual personal letter (not a round robin - I hate those). And the envelopes are decorated with Christmas stickers, (one per envelope) and always the return address on the back.

I cannot stress enough the importance of a return address on the back of the envelope. Many a misunderstanding has been caused because the recipient has either died or moved and the new occupant has no way of letting you know - a card simply signed "with love from Gran" doesn't give anything away. At the very least, Royal Mail will return it to you with a sticker letting you know why it cannot be delivered (assuming the recipient puts it back in the post box marked "unknown" ) . Even if it means you no longer have contact, at least you know not to send to that address again.

I worked for Royal Mail for 20 years and one of my duties was to send piles of returned Christmas cards (and gifts) to the Dead Letter Office because there was no return address on the back. The DLO open these letters to try and find a return address inside, in which case they will reseal it and return it, but 90% of these letters are just loving Christmas cards, signed with good wishes and no other clue who they're from. These are destroyed. Here endeth the Royal Mail lecture, but if you have any questions, I would be happy to answer.

LovelyLady Wed 25-Nov-20 12:32:37

Yes of course I send Christmas Cards. Christmas is a time to celebrate and acknowledge our faith and tradition.
When some say that they don’t send them but give to charity instead, this makes me cringe. Charity, we traditionally have been taught, is a private matter that will not be made public or discussed. Of course we give to charity too! It’s not an either or. Remember the Widows mite.
Please send cards, it’s positive teaching for the young and comforting for the elderly who know they’re being remembered. Ok it’s not cheap but it gives such comfort. Some of the elderly can’t send cards but do appreciate receiving the distant hug.

NannyC2 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:55:26

Yes, I do. Not as many as when I was working. Postage is expensive now though. After the past year I think it more important to send cards to let people know we are thinking of them.

Alioop Wed 25-Nov-20 12:57:19

Love giving and receiving cards, but a lot of family now gone and others don't seem to bother anymore. I got my stamps the other day and cards all sorted ready for the postbox or letter boxes. Stamps are a ridiculous price now so the dog and I go for walks dropping cards through the doors where I can.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:00:25

I send a card to my sisters-in-law and their husbands and to two cousins who aren't on the Internet.

Cards here cost over £1 apiece and postage is expensive too.

For years now, I have send a Christmas e-mail to all my friends and family who use computers.

I simply cannot afford to send something like fifty cards.

Lollin Wed 25-Nov-20 13:18:30

Yes (and easter and occasional card at some random point in the year). I think of the cost as the equivalent of going for a coffee with the friend or relative but the card as lasting longer

Scrappydo Wed 25-Nov-20 13:26:16

I love sending & receiving cards. I cut the costs by getting them in the January sales & pack them away with the decorations ready for the next Christmas. I do spend a lot on stamps due to entering loads of competitions which is my guilty pleasure.

Cuckooz Wed 25-Nov-20 13:36:35

Oh Luca, your post is really sad but it also made me realise I feel the same way so you are not alone. Sending you a bunch of ?

Cuckooz Wed 25-Nov-20 13:38:48

Sorry Lucca - auto correct to Luca. ?

Musicgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 13:38:53

I always send quite a lot of cards to family and friends. I also write a card for each of my piano and violin pupils and, in normal years, they get to have two sweets (usually Cadbury's Heroes). I have been teaching online since March so will post them instead - complete with sweets.

Musicgirl Wed 25-Nov-20 13:41:26

I am another one for January sales cards and I like as many of them as possible to be charity cards. I like traditional Nativity scenes, robbins and the twelve days of Christmas cards.

PollyDolly Wed 25-Nov-20 13:47:22

Fewer the better! I just do nôt see the point in sending a Christmas card to people we never see from one year end to the next, neighbours who never acknowledge when we say "hello" and every Tom , Dick & Harry in between.

We have special friends and neighbours as well as family who we always exchange cards with and sadly that list gets shorter every year.

buylocal Wed 25-Nov-20 13:50:10

I don't send (or receive) any and donations to charity for me have no relationship to Christmas cards.

Panda25 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:56:01

I love sending cards to people whether Christmas, Easter, birthday, anniversary, thinking of you ect.

NannyC1 Wed 25-Nov-20 14:01:09

I don't send any. My mum put me right off when used it as a competition to see who received the mostangry. I always used to donate the total cost to a charity. Now I use the amount to buy nice christmassy things for the food bank.