Husband's healthy diet...not!

I don’t think it’s awful either, (but I have a sweet tooth too!) I’d be really annoyed if my husband deleted what I want to eat from the weekly shop. I don’t want a diet that has no treats, how joyless is that?

If the rest of his diet is also “policed” by you, and he doesn’t sit on a sofa all day, why not let him eat what he enjoys?

I could never get my son, around 10 years of age, to eat a single vegetable or piece of fruit.....even while the class was doing a project on healthy eating. Then came a bout of flu, which floored the entire class, except one. As he smugly told me, ‘It’s my healthy diet, mum’.
PS. At age 40, he is currently vegan!

Over the course of 7 days and if his diet meal wise isn't loaded with carbohydrate I don't think it's horrendous. You haven't given the size of cake, bottle of beer, tub of ice cream so won't be too quick to judge.

My DH is 67, a diet controlled diabetic, has high blood pressure, high cholesterol and a slight kidney problem. A recipe for disaster, you could say. He’s on medication for the last 3 ailments to keep things in check. No diabetes check since before COVID, which concerns me. He doesn’t know the meaning of a healthy diet, no matter how much I tell him, although the meals I serve up are in the main healthy. But he does like to snack - a pleasure in life you could say. He’s also slightly overweight with a large tummy. As I’m typing this, I’m feeling more and more angry! He has free will, of course, and I’ve desperately tried to get him round to my way of thinking, but to no avail. If I sound like a nag, i’m sorry, but I’m concerned about his health now and into the future. I don’t want him to become ill, to risk stroke, heart attacks, major kidney problems and be more at risk of COVID. I would say he has a balanced diet though, so that’s better than nothing and he does have a walk every day and does some DIY and gardening. I dread to think of what he would live on if I weren’t around. I’m getting maudlin now so I’m signing off. Very best wishes to your DH, M0nica.

I’d say be careful what you wish for, I’d never dream of stopping my Partner there treats. His life, his health. Least he’s not propping a bar up somewhere.

Marg75. Will he expect you to look after him if he loses his sight or has a leg amputated from diabetes?!?

Two family members with type 2 diabetes: one told eating bananas in moderation is OK, the other not. Both have food suggestion sheets which include hot cross buns! Both have lists of acceptable vegetables. Both told to avoid high sugar foods, one told to avoid sweeteners as well.
One told to avoid high fat content because of other health issues, one told to avoid potatoes, bread, pasta and rice.
I was good at courgette-pasta and cauliflower rice before lockdown. Must brush up my skills.

My husband has been a type 1 diabetic for many years, has problems with his feet, eyes had quadruple heart bypass surgery and is still overweight! His diabetes is reasonably well controlled. He often refers to being fat etc. I was a bit overweight and through hard work have managed to loose a stone through sensible eating over the last couple of months. Meanwhile he keeps snacking on cheese biscuits, penguins etc. I’ve decided that it’s his choice - I can’t control what he eats.

Fine for people to overload their bodies with sugar, but the cost falls on the NHS who has to treat them.

There’s a huge change in opinion on what’s bad for us - sugar now appears to be the baddie rather than fat so addictive it’s very hard to stop eating it and it’s in nearly everything! What with that and worrying about Corona! We could spend our lives worrying - everything in moderation ?

Add white cider white wine and ready meals loads of cakes and sweets that's my husbands diet we never eat together I don't drink and eat healthy but who cares its up to him how he treats his body

GrannyHaggis

If that lasts him a week, then I don't see what's wrong with it. If he's getting through it in a day, then he does have a problem.

You can’t see a problem?

Every single day with no exception he would be eating
A slice of lemon drizzle cake
A mince day (except one day)
A snack size snickers
A large scoop of ice cream
5/7 days he would have two bottle of beer and 2/7 one bottle beer

Every. Single. Day
And this is just his “treats”.

My DH had type 2 diabetes, and he did do the low-carb high fat diet, the result is he lost weight and is no longer diabetic. I know it is difficult but it's a choice between getting in control or the slide into uncontrolled high blood sugars which will end in having to inject insulin. Put like that he knew what he had to do. We have an adult child with type 1, and he didn't want to end up injecting.

If that lasts him a week, then I don't see what's wrong with it. If he's getting through it in a day, then he does have a problem.

Marg75, it is much harder when you have insulin resistance which goes on to be diabetes to eat the right things. Your body craves sugar and research shows that the way you taste food may actually downplay the sweetness of food. I have been diabetic for a long time now and find that once I get "in the zone" with my blood sugars at the right level, it is relatively easy to stay on track but once they start to creep up, I'm lost. I liken it to being an alcoholic. If I fall off the wagon, I'm done for. Most diabetics know they are committing slow suicide if they don't get their blood sugars down so it shows how difficult it is, despite having that knowledge, when they continue to eat the wrong stuff.
It is always the people who don't have a problem with sugars who can be sure they would do things the "right way" if they had diabetes but can't really understand because they have never suffered from the problems and are never likely to get it!

I used to worry about my husband's eating habits, and have now come to the conclusion that I can't change anything. He has Type 2 diabetes, and is overweight. I have told him that if I had Type 2 diabetes I would never touch another sweet thing in my life, and I would try to lose weight, but to no avail. The thing is to understand I think is, that it is his life, and he must take responsibility for it. I know this sounds as though perhaps I don't care, I do very much, but some things in life you cannot change and have to come to terms with it.

He is an adult. He can eat what he wants. You are treating him like a child. How would you feel if he was listing things you eat on an open forum by the way?

Baffled that he can be aware of increased vulnerability to covid re weight and have a diet like this

Basically the diet of someone (presumably not a spring chicken) heading for a heart attack.

Diabetes looms

Mine has no sweet tooth whatsoever so I don't buy or make cakes etc. Good for me as I am not tempted. If we have cake left over from visitors (pre Covid!) I feel compelled to eat it so as it doesn't go to waste.

Nadateturbe

My husband passed me the shopping list to double check before we place the order.
His sweet treats for the week as follows:

Lemon drizzle cake
9 snack size Snickers (will only eat 7 )
6 mince pies
Tub of vanilla ice cream
12 bottles of Peroni beer

I might have a small slice of cake. The rest is his. How could anyone consume all that as well as their three meals?

Sounds like you should go on Eat Well For Less!

I was always very aware of what i was eating but since this second lock down my diet has gone to pot. It doesnt help that my DH keeps saying 'what does it matter at your age!! I know it does, healthwise but cant seem to stop finding my way to the biscuit tin!!!

Sounds like my ideal shopping list, substitute the beer for Rose wine though.
Sadly common sense means I won’t buy it all in the same week.

My husband has repeatedly been told to lose weight over the years without success and was down for a knee operation just before covid struck. He didn’t lose the required weight anyway. He has now come to the conclusion himself that he needs to lose weight as his knee has got much worse. Problem is, I don’t think he has the willpower to do this. Again, he has a sweet tooth and has treats and anxiety.