petunia you are presupposing that there is some universal experience that is shared by all women or all men. I think many of the postings on this thread reveal that isn't true. I've been roundly condemned and accused of all sorts of things including "hating all women" because I've posted about some of the ways some women sometimes behave. So how can there be universal female feelings or for that matter universal male feelings? Are my feelings and opinions because I know women who do not behave always as victims not a woman's opinion?
The one thing we can be certain of is that most of us are comfortable- male and female- with the way we present to, and are accepted by, the general population. But there are people who do not share that comfort. Sometimes this is just a feeling that means we are labelled as "more masculine"- usually used about a woman who has authority or "more feminine" usually used about a man who demonstrates more emotions. At the extreme ends of this spectrum are the people who genuinely believe their physical gender does not match the one they believe they are. And for them there is a shared feeling of exclusion. We who are comfortable can never fully appreciate how that feels.
As for the concept that there are male feelings and female feelings I completely reject that. It implies that all women have perhaps sympathy and understanding (there are so many women who have no such things. As an example I give you Pritti Patel). It implies that all men are perhaps agressive or lack empathy. It in fact drives a wedge between the two sexes which cannot be overcome.
I prefer instead to think of a spectrum where some people share certain feelings and emotions at the caring end and some share more at the agressive end. Their place upon this spectrum is not dependant on sex or gender.
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