Noisy neighbours

I have a few words about your neighbour, none of them flattering. Sorry you had to go through that.

Neighbours and noise is a dreadful mix and I feel very sorry for you
I presume up to now you have got on ok or you wouldn’t have given permission for him to come onto your land etc
Hopefully this was just a Christmas booze up and he will go back to normal afterwards personally I think it’s a shame your husband went round at 3 am as that may have made matters worse
Hopefully he will have forgotten about it in his hazy state and you can regain your neighbourliness

Thank you Ocean mama, I have given the edited version of what OH said to him .

Blue Belle,it's happened on many occasions with his music and we have not said anything, but at 3 am on Christmas morning we had enough, my hubby doesn't need this stress with his illness .

I totally understand * lindylou* it’s awful to have noisy neighbours I remember my mum nearly having a breakdown from an upstairs neighbour, unfortunately the more she complained the more they did to annoy her, even at one point bouncing a ball non stop on the floor above her bedroom when she was trying to sleep it was like water torture
I don’t know the answer it’s unbelievably difficult to solve this sort of problem My mum moved in the end and never looked back but you shouldn’t have to move should you and that’s far from the answer, in mums case she was not in her own home so it was not so bad.nMy cousin has recently done the same again it fitted in with her plans anyway, but it’s awful to even have to consider that.
I hope you can resolve it without any nastiness

It's outrageous you have to put up with that behaviour. It must have been very frightening for your husband to be threatened, but you must do what you can to nip it in the bud, as it will escalate, because your neighbour will feel he has carte blanche to continue. Act now, to show him you won't be bullied and report it to your local council. There is a page on the gov.uk website with details.

Best of luck!

Keep a log of what's going on. In the meantime try to talk to him when he's not likely to be under the influence, maybe when you have some sort of support? Perhaps you could use the access issue as a bargaining tool? What about other neighbors are they disturbed by this? It would be a good idea to try to difuse the situation if at all possible. Having said that check out the environmental services section of your local authorities website. I am sorry that you are being subjected to this and hope you can get some peace.

In the interim noise cancelling headphones do work.