I`m worried...daughter`s 3rd marriage

At the end of the day she will do what she wants to do it’s her life, but I can see why you would be concerned, I would be too as it’s pretty quick to get married again, but saying that if she’s happy who is really to say she shouldn’t, yes I’d go to the wedding, and what a fantastic grandson you have!

Spot on Beverley!

Sadly , some women have such a low opinion of themselves that they believe they are only worthy if they are married to somebody - anybody , without barely leaving time between marriages to even learn what colour their husband's underpants are!
Your daughter is an adult as are her children and there is little that you can do .
There is nothing to say that this marriage will end up the same way as the others did. You say nothing about what her fiance is like as a person and he may just be at long last your daughters Mr Right !

Go to the wedding. It will please your daughter and the others will get over it. Try not to worry - doesn't help anyone - especially you.

Why the rush? If he is so wonderful why not just wait. Live together. Do everything up to legally binding them together.

If she owns is she going to try and legally protect her assets?

There isn’t a lot you can do. The children aren’t ‘children’ but can still be negatively affected by her choices.
Just be the wonderful GM you have always been.

Marriage does not work for some people try as they might, be they male/ female.What does marriage entail?
It is not about the needs/ expectations of just one but of two persons .Failing to understand /to acccept /to give / not just take. What more reason for breakdown.?

Everyone makes mistakes and bad choices. My first wasn't a good choice at all. No one trusted my now DH when he came into my life and went so far as to ignore him on our wedding day. It's our 10th anniversary in August 2021. Despite what people thought/think he's a good man.

Maybe your daughter is making a good choice or maybe it's a bad choice. There is no way of knowing yet but give them a chance. Who knows it may be third time lucky

What a lovely compliment to get from your grandson boodymum67. Just carry on being a safe haven for your family. That is the best thing you can be.

thank you all for your kind words of support.

Callistimon...that is just what I am hoping for.

Whenever our grandson (now 22) sends me a birthday, Christmas or whatever card, it always has reference to what a safe haven he deems me to be. Makes me feel good.

All you can do is support them.
Your grandchildren are anxious, which is natural, but I do hope they and your DH will feel able to go to the wedding (if allowed) and wish them all the best.
You can't make them, of course.

Someone dear to me has been married three times and I must say it is third time lucky and has lasted 30+ years now.

I agree with sodapop
The gchildren are off doi g their own thing now.
Not to dismiss the emotional and physical ramifications their mothers remarriage will have on them.
Just keep doing what you have in the past, being supportive.
If you can, find time to do more things you enjoy.
The gc will gradually disconnect as time goes on and you dont want to find yourself worrying endlessly, and nothing to fill your time with.

Is there any point in having a quiet & private concerned chat with new man? Perhaps that's a step too far?

You can only do your best. As sodapop says, it’s your daughter’s life...she has to live it. Just support as much as you feel able, and let everyone else do the same. If you want to go to the wedding....then do so. Don’t push others who don’t. I would say they might regret it later, especially your husband, but that would be for a first wedding, not third!

Keep well, look after yourself, be there if she needs you...if you can. Hope it all goes well for you all.?

Difficult situation to be in boodymum you can give your adult grandchildren a safe place to come when they are upset or worried. Your daughter has to live her life as she sees fit but you can support your grandchildren as well. It's hard trying to help everyone isn't it.