Helpful husband

My husband will cook a nice meal on the weekends, and does occasionally whip around with the vacuum, but he needs so much praise, I can’t remember the last time anyone complimented me on my cooking.
Also, when he vacuums, he says things like, well I don’t know when you last moved that sofa, or that hearth rug needed a good shake out!
How did I get so lucky, he’s just so perfect!!!

No complaints from me. My husband (aka The Wonderful Man) occasionally has to do more than his fair share of household chores and he does so willingly. I'm often unwell so he's used to just getting on with doing the shopping, cooking, laundry etc. He doesn't 'see' some jobs that need doing (sinks clean themselves obviously), but I'd be slightly put out if he could do without my input entirely.

My DH once offered to put the weekly shop away for me.
Pack of facial cleansing wipes turned up in the chiller box of the fridge.
"Oh, I thought it was Mozzarella".

LucyLocket you Made me laugh! Yes my DH is king of various household jobs, every time he comments or re-does what I’ve just done, it becomes his task!

Back has been bad again this weekend - only stretched for something on the top shelf. But he helped with changing the bedding and cooked lunch and dinner! Think he is getting the message

Yes, flicked him on the arm with a rubber glove! He could see I was really mad! I've calmed down now, it was in the 70s!

Stung him with the Marigolds????

Fortunately, my mother's advice when I married was 'don't be too capable'. Just after we married, my husband said cleaning the toilet was my job. I stung him with the Marigolds and said don't ever think I'm not your equal. If he still thinks cleaning the toilet is beneath him, he's wise enough not to say it.

My friend's husband thought he shouldn't have to clean the bath after he'd used it. She said that was fine by her, she'd clean it just before taking her own bath and then leave it dirty for him.

Yeah, I can laugh about it too - now!

Made me laugh too GrandmaKT

GrandmaKT - you made me laugh!

Why not stopping vacuuming and other chores that hurt your back, hoping you get better soon?

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Ha Ha Tizliz. Your post made me recall an incident many years ago with my own DH.
I was struggling with 2 children under 5. One evening I said to him in a meaningful and exhausted way over dinner - "Do you know Anne has a cleaner, and now Sue is looking for one?". Quick as a flash, his reply came back - "Why don't you apply?"!!

If the housework was left to DH this place would be minging.

Around every six months he gets a bit of a blasting from me about not helping me at all with housework stuff.

His response to the last blasting of around 5 months ago
- bought me a new mop (I kid you not)
- fixed the dishwasher - which we had never used since moving here 5 years ago - admitedly this had been a help
- said he would start cleaning the inside of the windows. saying he would be better at it than I was. Now, one thing he is very good at is ordering stuff on line. He bought all this stuff (maybe about 5 years of window cleaning paraphenalia, and .......yes, you guessed it, its all still in the delivery boxes it arrived in.

Oh well.......

janeainsworth

TizLiz I’ve been married to an engineer for more than 50 years. In later years, he moved into Project Management.
‘Mansplaining’ doesn’t come anywhere near it.
But he’s currently clearing up after lunch so mustn’t grumble

Why is it that they think we might be interested in how the mill/lathe etc work - in great detail?

Babs758

To the original poster, nick his credit card and buy yourself a robot cleaner!

I had thought of this but think all the dog hair would choke it up and the dogs would think it is a new toy!

I used to tell DH that he did the vacuuming so much better than me, and lo and behold he took it on as his job!

Some things are timeless. My grandmother told us that her four sons were going off to have fun somewhere and asked whether she was coming with them. She replied that she couldn't as she had a kitchen full of dirty dishes to clear up. "You shouldn't be doing those while we enjoy ourselves!" said one of them. "Leave the dishes, Mum. You can do them when we get back."

When we were first married in the 60s, we both worked full time. My dh used to say he had done the washing up, hoovering etc ‘for you’, I put him right pdq.
Friends used to say how ‘lucky’ I was that he ‘helped’. That made me just as cross. That’s when I found feminism.

TizLiz I’ve been married to an engineer for more than 50 years. In later years, he moved into Project Management.
‘Mansplaining’ doesn’t come anywhere near it.
But he’s currently clearing up after lunch so mustn’t grumble

DH has just offered to take over vacuuming when I suggested I needed a lighter vacuum cleaner than our present one.
We’ll see how long the novelty lasts ...... ?

To the original poster, nick his credit card and buy yourself a robot cleaner!

My DH is pretty good at helping out; he is particularly good at emptying the dishwasher which for some reason is a job I dislike intensely. He vacuums and I dust and plump up cushions and we share bed-making and bathroom cleaning. He also makes all our bread (in a bread-maker, but that's okay) and when asked can whistle up a very nice omelette. So no complaints here! Apart from the fact that he's psychologically incapable of closing a door or drawer or turning off a light in an empty room ....

Mine is usually very good about sharing the chores but has been ill over Christmas so everything is falling to me. Actually I'm rather enjoying the autonomy but I will be glad to see him at the sink once more!