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Tizliz Fri 01-Jan-21 11:20:50

I have had a bad back lately and complained to OH that vacuuming really made it worse. He was watching me vacuum this morning and stopped me saying he knew what the problem was - not that we had too many dogs etc but I was lifting the vacuum up with a bent back. I nearly used it on him! That was an engineers answer not a concerned husband. Does anyone else have a partner like this?

Curlywhirly Fri 01-Jan-21 11:26:59

Oh yes, my husband's favourite way of helping me with the housework is to say 'You'll tire yourself out doing that lot, why don't you do some tomorrow?'!!!

tanith Fri 01-Jan-21 11:28:45

Oh dear and there’s me thinking ahhh he’s going to take over from you. 🤣 I’d of thrown the vacuum in his direction.

FannyCornforth Fri 01-Jan-21 11:32:16

That's awful.
Thank goodness I don't have a husband like that, no.
We are both physical wrecks at the moment, we do a little bit of house work each. And lower our standards!

25Avalon Fri 01-Jan-21 11:40:45

On the odd (very odd) occasion my dh does something in the house he likes to announce “I’ve done .......... for you”! Grrrr!

Tizliz Fri 01-Jan-21 12:05:19

This is quite light hearted as he is usually good at helping - when asked. he does do all the veg preparation as I have arthritis. And he still works almost full time even in his seventies

sodapop Fri 01-Jan-21 12:19:46

My husband says that as well Avalon so annoying

Well he was trying to help Tizliz what does he look like wearing the vacuum cleaner grin

timetogo2016 Fri 01-Jan-21 12:23:27

Iv`e got one like that 25Avalon.
I wont tell you my comeback though.tut tut

EllanVannin Fri 01-Jan-21 12:24:43

I don't think my late H knew how a vacuum worked, bless him-----in a 3 storey house at the time.

Namsnanny Fri 01-Jan-21 12:30:44

Tizliz

This is quite light hearted as he is usually good at helping - when asked. he does do all the veg preparation as I have arthritis. And he still works almost full time even in his seventies

I was lifting the vacuum up with a bent back

As you've said in your second post (quoted) he is considerate towards you.
I bet he thought he was being helpful!!tchgrin
Funny though how we can see things differently isnt it?

Tizliz Fri 01-Jan-21 12:31:55

sodapop

My husband says that as well Avalon so annoying

Well he was trying to help Tizliz what does he look like wearing the vacuum cleaner grin

I will be suggesting he goes to work if he doesn’t buck up soon

Curlywhirly Fri 01-Jan-21 13:24:05

Tizliz

This is quite light hearted as he is usually good at helping - when asked. he does do all the veg preparation as I have arthritis. And he still works almost full time even in his seventies

Yes, my comment was light-hearted too; my husband does help with some jobs. He peels all the veg and he clears up after each meal; he always makes breakfast at weekends (the only time we have a cooked one). But as I am retired and he is still working, I feel it is only fair to wait until he retires before I hand over more of my chores to him!

LucyLocket55 Fri 01-Jan-21 13:28:51

My husband is the housework king (inherited from his mother who wore vacuum cleaners out in 2 years) I gave up when he used to revacuum an area I had recently done. Now I just let him get in with it.

Esspee Fri 01-Jan-21 13:29:13

My OH considers vacuuming “heavy work” which he happily does. Housework needs to be divided up.

25Avalon Fri 01-Jan-21 13:30:17

7 months ago dh actually vacuumed the bedroom!! I took a photo as proof cos nobody would have believed me otherwise!

rockgran Fri 01-Jan-21 13:30:59

Mine is usually very good about sharing the chores but has been ill over Christmas so everything is falling to me. Actually I'm rather enjoying the autonomy but I will be glad to see him at the sink once more!

gulligranny Fri 01-Jan-21 13:36:16

My DH is pretty good at helping out; he is particularly good at emptying the dishwasher which for some reason is a job I dislike intensely. He vacuums and I dust and plump up cushions and we share bed-making and bathroom cleaning. He also makes all our bread (in a bread-maker, but that's okay) and when asked can whistle up a very nice omelette. So no complaints here! Apart from the fact that he's psychologically incapable of closing a door or drawer or turning off a light in an empty room ....

Babs758 Fri 01-Jan-21 14:27:31

To the original poster, nick his credit card and buy yourself a robot cleaner!

Puzzler61 Fri 01-Jan-21 14:31:14

DH has just offered to take over vacuuming when I suggested I needed a lighter vacuum cleaner than our present one.
We’ll see how long the novelty lasts ...... 😉

janeainsworth Fri 01-Jan-21 14:34:01

TizLiz I’ve been married to an engineer for more than 50 years. In later years, he moved into Project Management.
‘Mansplaining’ doesn’t come anywhere near it.
But he’s currently clearing up after lunch so mustn’t grumble winkgrin

silverlining48 Fri 01-Jan-21 14:40:37

When we were first married in the 60s, we both worked full time. My dh used to say he had done the washing up, hoovering etc ‘for you’, I put him right pdq.
Friends used to say how ‘lucky’ I was that he ‘helped’. That made me just as cross. That’s when I found feminism.

Elegran Fri 01-Jan-21 14:56:50

Some things are timeless. My grandmother told us that her four sons were going off to have fun somewhere and asked whether she was coming with them. She replied that she couldn't as she had a kitchen full of dirty dishes to clear up. "You shouldn't be doing those while we enjoy ourselves!" said one of them. "Leave the dishes, Mum. You can do them when we get back."

BlueSapphire Fri 01-Jan-21 16:11:36

I used to tell DH that he did the vacuuming so much better than me, and lo and behold he took it on as his job!

Tizliz Fri 01-Jan-21 19:37:55

Babs758

To the original poster, nick his credit card and buy yourself a robot cleaner!

I had thought of this but think all the dog hair would choke it up and the dogs would think it is a new toy!

Tizliz Fri 01-Jan-21 19:39:57

janeainsworth

TizLiz I’ve been married to an engineer for more than 50 years. In later years, he moved into Project Management.
‘Mansplaining’ doesn’t come anywhere near it.
But he’s currently clearing up after lunch so mustn’t grumble winkgrin

Why is it that they think we might be interested in how the mill/lathe etc work - in great detail?