So men are supposed to be role models to boys but women aren't supposed to show boys how to do housework. I notice the issue of all the posts on GN about men not doing housework have been ignored. So where does any change come from? Strangely enough Gay men and single men do manage their own chores possibly because no woman is there to take over from them. All that proves is men can do things if they have to, the question then is why don't they in a heterosexual relationship? What's the missing factor? -It's a woman of course. Perhaps a few women are forced by violence into taking care of everything but most aren't . Why do they choose to do it? Why don't they pass responsibility to the men in the relationship?
It isn't about who does the washing up, it's about breaking down roles and gender stereotypes and effecting real change. Because femnism isn't about just stopping people who break the law or changing laws its about changing society.
Just ignoring the question or pretending it doesn't matter leaves women still being the domestic servant, still picking up after men, and strangely enough they are then treated like an inferior in the rest of their lives. Is it so hard to see the connection?
I didn't raise the issue of domesticity by the way petunia did. But it's an interesting question
If you do the lion’s share of the chores in your home, the chances are you have mixed feelings about the idea of your spouse taking on a bigger burden, even if he were willing – because you suspect he’d do them wrongly, or to an insufficiently high standard (In one US survey, some women said they were more likely to delegate tasks to their children than their husbands for precisely this reason. “My wife insists on doing most of the cleaning and all of the laundry because of her belief that I don’t do well at these tasks,” as one male respondent to our survey put it, echoing many others.)
In her memoir-cum-self-help book, Drop The Ball, the American writer Tiffany Dufu calls this “home control disease”, and diagnoses herself as a recovering sufferer. This isn’t the simple sexism of the man who’d rather drink beer and watch Top Gear, but the insidious, internalised sexism of the woman who’s been raised to see an impeccable home as a sign of her worth