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Which Name Would You Choose?

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FannyCornforth Mon 18-Jan-21 09:36:47

For Yourself, I mean?

(Hello by the way smile)

A bit of light relief on a Monday morning.

What name would you choose for yourself - first, middle, surname, whatever?

One thing that I miss about MN are the baby name threads, I love thinking about names, I think that lots of women do, whether it's from a baby point of view or due an interest in words.

I suppose it depends upon what 'suits' you aswell...

And has anyone ever called you something else for a prolonged amount of time?
When I did voluntary work at a museum, another volunteer was of the firmly held belief that my name was Heather (it isn't).

I'm undecided at present what name I'd choose, but I will mull it over while you post yours (please!)

Thank you x

magshard20 Mon 18-Jan-21 21:12:20

Was given the name Margaret at birth, my dad always said it was because he liked Princess Margaret Rose, if he ever heard anyone call me anything but Margaret he went up the wall, he would say "you were christened Margaret and that is what people will call you".
Well its changed a bit now, I get my full name or Mags or even Magsy. I answer to them but often wonder if my dad looks down on me and shakes his head each time he hears people calling me anything other than Margaret!!

Bluecat Mon 18-Jan-21 20:55:51

Both our DDs had their dad's first name as their middle name, as this was the custom in his culture. (Though DH's sisters then told me that it was an old-fashioned thing to do. Possibly because we didn't give them the chance to choose our girls' names, which was also a custom.)

A few years after they were married, our elder DH and her husband decided to change their surname, as he no longer wanted to be known by his stepfather's name. They changed it to the Scottish version of his DM's maiden name. Our DD decided that she would also like to change her middle name to a girl's name that she liked.

Recently she told me that they wanted to put my maiden name into their surname, and regretted that they hadn't thought of doing it when they changed it years ago. So now they have a hyphenated surname with my name first. I was surprised but pleased.

Most people have always called her by a diminutive version of her first name, but she has decided to be called by a similar but androgynous diminutive. She feels that it will help her career, as she is in a fairly male-dominated profession.

I don't know if this is the final choice of names, as she has certainly been through a few changes.

Our younger DD is also known by a diminutive and has no desire to change it. She also puts up with her second name, though she too has grumbled, "Why did you give me a boy's name?" I have pointed out to both of them that lot of people don't even realise it's a boy's name. I wouldn't do it again, though.

Marmight Mon 18-Jan-21 20:49:20

I’d rather like to be called Thea or Ottilie ?

Ninarosa Mon 18-Jan-21 19:48:56

I've always been grateful for my brother's obsession with classical music as he asked my mum to name me after a Russian pianist who's surname was Milkina, first name Nina.
There was never another girl named so throughout my school years and I loved the compliments I got and still get, although I notice a few of us on Gransnet.
Brother also got first dibs at my middle name which is an opera overture by Schubert that no one can say correctly although it looks easy enough written. Even I am not sure exactly how it's said as it doesn't come out very often for an airing.
I've liked the name Isla ever since I watched Isla Fisher in Home and Away.

HillyN Mon 18-Jan-21 19:10:09

I've always wanted to be called Rosemary and gave my favourite doll that name. I wasn't given a middle name, so I always lied when we played 'Grandmother's steps' in the playground and said it was Elizabeth, because it had a lot of letters, including a Z!
My first name was unusual and I was never able to find it on a pen or other souvenir in the gift shops, which used to really annoy me. My surname wasn't much better, people mispronounced or misspelt it, so I was glad to change it when I married.

varian Mon 18-Jan-21 19:04:42

My OH has always been known by his second name, which his parents obviously preferred to his first name. It does cause problems with official documents etc. Why do parents do that?

JuliaM Mon 18-Jan-21 18:43:10

My next youngest daughter was named after her paternal Grandmother, who in turn was born and named on the day Lloyd George came into power as Prime minister. To celebrate this, each child named after him was given a olden guinea, a lot of money back then. However, she grew up with most people calling her Joyce. As ourdaughter grew up, she hated the name, and refered to herself as 'Gina'. When she went off to University, some of the lads thought it was good sport to add the letters VA as a prefix to her name, and the more that she complained the more they used it. One sympathetic lecturer, on hearing of the problem, renamed her 'Francesca' and insisted that all staff use that name as well, although the name itself was entirely of his choosing! So for 4 years, she remained with a proffesional name entirely different to her own! She still uses her original given name on official documents and business, but preferes her very common and short popular middle name amoungst family and friends who know her well.

Jillybird Mon 18-Jan-21 18:11:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

watermeadow Mon 18-Jan-21 18:11:14

I’ve always disliked my first name which is very short and common. It has two spellings and people constantly use the wrong version. My middle name is so unusual that nobody’s ever heard of it. My surname, again, is extremely common.
I feel utterly anonymous and would like to be called Esmeralda Fitzmontgomery-Puddifoot. There aren’t many of those around!

FarNorth Mon 18-Jan-21 18:06:24

39SJV07 the mean girls I remember were Mabel and Veronica from the Bunty - I heartily disliked their hairstyles, too, especially the way the hair was shaped around their ears.

FannyCornforth Mon 18-Jan-21 18:00:06

CSizzle

I know one name I wouldn't choose; years ago I used to know a lady called Mrs Ethel Thistlethwaite.

I had a landlord in York whose name was Montgomery Wrigglesworth.

Happyme Mon 18-Jan-21 17:55:42

As a small child I wished I had been given a flowery name like Daisy or Rose....only to be told my name was a flower, just not one I had heard of ?

biba70 Mon 18-Jan-21 17:37:05

Always liked my name- + my married name- I know some of you will be relieved, but I am unique, the only one of me, for 100% sure smile

Skweek1 Mon 18-Jan-21 17:23:34

I hated my first name and always wanted to be Morag. And my French best friend equally hated hers and decided to change it from Chantal, which I love, to Sandra which I find really uninspiring. But takes all sorts. Married someone with surname Stern, which people make fun of, but doesn't bother me.

Seiko70 Mon 18-Jan-21 17:07:16

My name is Sandra I wish it had been Cassandra then I could be called Cassie for short.lol

CSizzle Mon 18-Jan-21 16:51:15

I know one name I wouldn't choose; years ago I used to know a lady called Mrs Ethel Thistlethwaite.

jacalpad Mon 18-Jan-21 16:40:00

I am happy enough with my christian name. I have two middle names, one of which I hated when I was younger and dropped. I was teased mercilessly by the boys on the school bus when one of them found out the offending name. Nowadays I don’t mind it as it is a bit different. I love the names Megan and Bethan.

Sara1954 Mon 18-Jan-21 16:34:52

I like my name, it has never been shortened, but as a little girl I longed to be Susan.
I wanted to call my first born Daisy, but my mother ridiculed the name so much that it put me off. I wish I’d been more determined, I think Daisy would have suited her very well.

Lizbethann55 Mon 18-Jan-21 16:28:51

I had a friend called Gaye. I wonder what has happened to all the "Gaye"s. Have they stuck with it, or changed.

Lizbethann55 Mon 18-Jan-21 16:27:34

For those of you that are "Elizabeth " lovers out there, it is actually my first name. Mum had decided on that and my middle name years before I was born as it had been the name of her best friend when she was in the forces during the war. It would have been the name given to my elder sibling, except he was a boy!. Before I came along my cousin was born and she was an Elizabeth too. As a result I have always been known by my middle name. Short, only 3 letters as I am "without", and infinitely dull. Not only do I prefer Elizabeth with all it options, but being known by your middle name is incredibly difficult and confusing and causes all sorts of problems. Ironically, my cousin always calls me Elizabeth!

Greenfinch Mon 18-Jan-21 15:52:55

My mother chose my older cousin's name. It was Joy. I always wished she had saved it for me !

Kim19 Mon 18-Jan-21 15:51:03

Stephanie for me. I discovered this was my Mum's first choice but, unfortunately, she was persuaded otherwise.

Calendargirl Mon 18-Jan-21 15:50:47

Daffydilly

SJV07

I have hated my name for always. Bullied at school (in Edgbaston), where they changed the spelling to something rude! and was always called it by one of the teachers.

The nasty girls in school stories often had this name! Not the heroines!

Try guessing!!!

Regina? X

Virginia?

Polly4t42 Mon 18-Jan-21 15:41:11

My name Pauline Margaret, means little Pearl which is quite sweet of my parents. However when we studied Thomas Hardy in English Literature we read Tess in which Angel Clare says that someone has a Pauline view of life. So I looked up Pauline in the Oxford dictionary and found it was a religious order belonging to st Paul. Not really keen on being a whole religious order. As to choosing my own name I hadn’t really thought of it before although if my son had been a girl I would have called her Katharine Jayne, Katie Jay for short.

Joesoap Mon 18-Jan-21 15:36:05

I love my name and my married surname, however my first name is rather long so everyone has shortened it since I was a teenager, but this has problems, I often have requests to be friends with people on Faebook who presume I am a man, my name can be a boy or girl,its quite interesting really