Backhanded compliment? The things men say (lighthearted!)

From my very young DGD came this complicated complement. Granny I really love you and grandpa, but I love one of you more than I love you

Like others my husband rarely does compliments. I have bought new outfits for weddings etc., taken time with hair and make up. Felt really pleased. Response from DH to my question 'how do I look?' has been 'fine'. I've been underwhelmed.

In the good old days when hairdressers were open I had my hair cut very short, I got compliments from most people but one friend stared at me and said "oh that's much better isn't it"

When I met a friend for the first time she said, 'Oh, you're not a bit like your sister. She's really nice!'

Mentioning Alzheimer’s my aunty started saying the most outrageous things. She would have cringed had she realised what she was saying!

My son does it all the time to me, the back- handed compliments, too many to pick one out.He doesnt even realise hes doing it, i have to point it out that thats what it is!

Mind you when Mum had Alzheimer's she pushed her plate away one Christmas and said, "You can't possibly expect me to eat that muck" ?
Luckily my husband, who had cooked, understood!

My Granny, Dad's mum, would finish her dinner at our house and say to my Mum in a most surprised voice, "That was quite nice really!"
Mum used to seethe ?

About 8 years ago with friends looking at photos from a NYE party a few years prior, one male friend said to me ‘you used to be quite attractive* cheeky!

I was in a crowded pub years ago and a bloke pushed past me and spilt his beer over me. I said 'Do you mind!' and he said 'Its a case of mind over matter Darling. I don't mind and you don't matter! I thought it was quite witty actually

Good laugh here. Love the MIL’s compliments, priceless!

Once I overheard my husband say about me “you might not think so to look at her but Maureen is quite intelligent”

I took it as a compliment.

Thank you foxglove7 best laugh we’ve had this year!

I worked with a girl who had beautiful long red hair. One day she had it cut to shoulder length still Stunning a customer came in and said " oh you've had your hair cut! It was your only asset!! "
My narcc mother and I look very similar and this was often mentioned by friends and acquaintances her stock reply was yes but I'm attractive! Just what I had come to expect from her.

We once decorated a hallway in tartan ( ok it was the 1960s) and my MIL just said “ at least it’s clean.” Rude.

Some absolute belters on here a couple of which made me laugh out loud which I very rarely do even when watching something on the television so well done!!!!.......??????

My late MIL once said that she had seen a car parking near her flat and thought it might be mine. I said that I had been at work so not mine. She said she soon realised it wasn’t me because the woman who got out was so smart!

My Granny once looked at me then remarked, 'At least you've got one good leg.' She wouldn't tell me which one either.

My late DH was never one to pay a compliment.I would always know his eye sight was working when on wearing a new item for the first time he would say ' Is that new?'

I asked my 6 year old granddaughter if she liked my new top. She screwed up her face and said doubtfully, “It’s a bit blue-ish.” I presume she didn’t like it!! ?

My oldest (and very glam) friend once said to me “you’re so lucky your hair suits you plain.” She was mortified at how it came out, but I knew what she meant.

ja ?
I think laughter in a marriage is very important. The gift that keeps on giving. He’s 70y next year & I still giggle 50y in his company!

First time going out with my husband to his work event (where I was going to be meeting his colleagues), I bought a dress, but then as I prepared I started having insecurities, and asked him 'do I look fat in this'? 'No', he said, 'not TOO fat'!

I was showing my mil some really glam photos of me from a shoot I had won. She told me I looked very nice, but then spoiled it by adding: "Mind you, they can do slot with photography"

I've had two memorable non-compliments, both when I was in my early forties.
I had been conducting a choir and afterwards, a young male colleague said, "You know, from behind you look about only 18."
I replied, "You know what's really sad? You think you've paid me a compliment!" ?
The second happened when I was performing in a band; not the same person this time but he, too, was a younger male friend. He turned to the person sitting next to him and told her that the lad on the drums was my son. She commented that I didn't look old enough to have a son that age. His reply? "To be fair we are 40' away". ?
Clearly, 30 years on, I need to walk backwards and socially distance to the tune of 40' ?

I had been at my art club ( in the 60's) then went on to a dance.
I was dancing away with a young man who exclaimed "I do love your perfume, what is it". "Ehm Linseed oil?" i said!