Being patronising or maybe not ?

Never crosses my mind or do I dwell on it. I think it is often said if someone doesn’t know your name.

I’m a “love” or “duck” person, everyone says it where I live. I’m not a fan of “hun”.

I really hate being called dear. It makes me feel like I'm a hundred rather than in my sixties.

Slightly different..... but it annoys me when people say goodbye ...see you later.....you don’t know them so of course you won’t see them later! !

In Cornwall, old chaps sometimes call us "moi loverrr" which I rather like.

It depends on the context and the tone.

I've decided I really like being called "guys" its how our sons, and granddaughters address us, with a "I really miss you guys" of late when we speak or text, always said with affection. Also don't mind it from restaurant waiters, I find it quite affable.

Pet is used a lot where I live, I don't mind as it is better than no conversation.
I call both my GDs 'sweetie' because I muddle up their names.

My stepson refers to us as you guys. I hate it. I am not and never will be a guy.
Folks is a good alternative.
I don't like hun either. And dear is only ok sometimes.

I'd rather people I talk to did not gush and flatter by using pet names at me. I don't find people who gush, including nurses who gush, to be reassuring rather the opposite.

Quite different are local dialects when everyone is called "Pet" or "Me Duck".

I'm glad "dude" is popular again.

I don't mind what I'm called as long as the manner is friendly. I also use "guys" regularly but due to many objecting because it is traditionally male I often use folks instead.

Language has and will continue to evolve and older people need to let go of the meanings we attach to some words. Prime example -Gay - Also 40 years ago it was common to use bird or chick for a woman now it is not acceptable so I'm told. I'm sure that our parents had the same issue as we are having today.

Doesn’t bother me at all.

Brought up in a North East mining village and everyone called you Pet or sweetheart or love.
Never bothered me. It was as if everyone's parents treated you like an addition to their own family I loved feeling that "all round " security in the village.

I don't mind too much.
Hun or babe grate a bit, but miserable sods who can barely be civil grate a lot more.

My two favourite things I've been called are Hen, and Me Old Cockalorra.

I don’t mind ‘love’ at all but ‘dear’ is a bit iffy, depending how it is said.

It doesn’t irritate me in the slightest. I think it’s rather nice. I find it irritating that people get on their high horse just because someone is trying to be pleasant.

In a telephone consultation yesterday a young male GP twice called me "my love" . I was surprised but found it rather amusing.

I have a male cousin in Yorkshire who greets everyone with ‘Ay up Cock!’ Cringe.....

Since moving South I love the phrase 'My lovely'

Laura my lovely ....an annoying argy bargy with the bank. Some undignified medical camera work.
Being told to cut out caffeine and alcohol , yes my one glass per day must go.
Cheers for asking though petal.

Oh Lucca mate, what’s wrong today my love.
Cheer up duck

When I was working and dealing with some self important solicitors (male) the phrase they used to use, which drove me mad, was 'My dear'. Grrrr.

ginny and Jaxjacky - On behalf of another 'mouthy Southerner' Thank You!!

Ooh, I would like being called ma’am, it would make me feel all grownup and dignified ?