Original posters not returning to their threads?

My very first post on GN was asking advice about washing some curtains.

Several people were good enough to offer advice, and I made a point of going back on later and saying how it went (it was ok).

Just seems courteous really.

Working or time difference as well. Some people only get a small portion of their day available for 'internetting' (the silly term we use). There are Australians, NZ, Americans and Canadians here as well in different time zones.

Could be any number of reasons why not, though. Illness, something happened in the family, anything really so it doesn’t bother me . I think probably a chat site is ‘the last cab off the rank’for some if there is something chaotic going on in their lives.

I get the all of the op's comments highlighted in green. (I'm on my phone.)
Like others I do find it a bit rude when the op doesn't return to acknowledge responses.

Grannybags

We keep asking GNHQ to highlight any comments made by the original OP but nothing changes

I think there are now five comments on this thread asking for this. It's also been asked for on other threads.

Has anyone had a reply from GNHQ about it?

@Fennel it doesn’t do anything on Gransnet when you prefix the name with @. Nobody is notified so there is no point in doing it.
Just to check - did you receive notification by email that you have been mentioned on this thread?

We keep asking GNHQ to highlight any comments made by the original OP but nothing changes

I don't find it surprising or get cross because I've "wasted time" answering.

It's a chat site, I'm here to chat, and if the subject matter is interesting then who cares?

People may be unwell, working, having a difficult time, other priorities, emergencies, overtime at work, no internet... the list is endless, and that's without what has already been said.

I certainly wouldn't engage further with people who haven't the good manners to be polite.

I also wish that, when the original poster made a further comment, their post could be highlighted in another colour. I think such a feature would be an asset to Gransnet.

Yes, it surprises me sometimes that OPs do not return to their threads.

ExD I have also dropped out of threads because people have taken offence at what I have typed and been very nasty. I don’t mean to upset anyone but some are easily offended.
The trouble is that I have a rather sarcastic sense of humour and even if I use a laughing emoji to indicate that my comment is to be taken lightly it still happens.
I hope I have learnt my lesson but, I doubt it?

I was going to be ironic and not return but changed my mind

It is totally understandable in your case ExD to avoid returning to a thread but in most cases I find it very odd .

Regardless of how much a thread meanders and goes off-topic it seems strange to me that the poster doesn’t return.

On MN they have a name (GF) for trolls who start contentious threads and stand back to watch the fireworks ?

Even stranger are the simple ‘ Can you recommend me something’ threads that posters kindly contribute on without acknowledgment.

I don’t like to think that people are rude but I’m sure some must be ... they can’t all be forgetful.

I think a quick thank you for the information offered would be nice.

Could be many reasons, the thread has gone off subject, nasty comments, busy poster, just wanted to vent, forgot about it.

For @ you just use the correct key on your keyboard followed by the user name. I sometimes do it.

It’s bad manners, rather like talking over someone.
I responded to a tech query, the OP never acknowledged my response but engaged with other posters.

I wonder if some just want to let off steam, and aren't really interested in the replies? Or occasionally they like to start an argument and then watch from the sidelines?

Esspee

On Mumsnet you precede the person’s name with an @ sign so the individual is notified that there is a response. E.g. @NotAGran55 or @Esspee It doesn’t have to be the OP, it could be replying to a point made by anyone.
It is extremely useful.
No idea why that feature is not on Gransnet.

I thought I had seen it somewhere on Gransnet. I didn't use it as it seemed a little silly calling someone @name. If it did what you suggest it would be a good idea and perhaps add to the flow of the conversation (and I would use it )

That's useful Esspee thank you.
I have once been known not to return to my thread when someone made a very unkind remark, directed personally at me, (the OP) that was taken up by a couple of others and the vitriol that poured out reduced me to tears.
I just thought it best not to give them any more ammunition by replying and trying to explain what I'd really meant. I just didn't go back to look.
On a happier note, I think posts have got kinder recently with people less likely to bitch and criticise and hope its a trend that's going to stay.

Another very basic feature we don’t have on here is all the OP’s contributions highlighted. Forgive me if they are on your computer but on my iPad the original post is in blue or green, my posts are in pink, and all the other posts, including those by the OP have a white background.
It does mean that further information by the OP gets lost and not taken into consideration by future responders.

On Mumsnet you precede the person’s name with an @ sign so the individual is notified that there is a response. E.g. @NotAGran55 or @Esspee It doesn’t have to be the OP, it could be replying to a point made by anyone.
It is extremely useful.
No idea why that feature is not on Gransnet.

Anie you would get a better response if you started your own thread.
If you get lots of responses please respond!
I’ve had 4 so I’ll look out for your post.

Agree with GagaJo and lemsip. Negativity is upsetting particularly if it's in answer to problem that is a serious worry to someone.

It would be really useful if GNHQ asked someone in their IT section to show the author's OP and comments all in the same colour.

What witzend said has happened to me. I've only asked one question (very short OP) on GN and got fed up with reading some answers where my question hadn't been read properly so I had to explain again my situation and one was very negative.

My husband is thinking of having dental implants, he is mid 60’s.
His quote is 20k for work required.
I struggle with the cost,
We can afford it but it’s a lot of hard saved money from retirement pot.
What are your view on value for money.

Asking for advice but never returning to acknowledge any responses

Hard to do when the thread has been whipped away from beneath your feet without warning, as has just happened to me! .
OoRoo

I recently posed a question and was really surprised how long the thread went on for and it did meander a bit so I probably didn't get to the end of it. It was a bit like when you are having a real conversation and some of the people involved talk for a long time after its all been said.