I and my OH normally tell people not to do online dating - look what happened to us! but when writing it somehow the humour is lost.
There are men out there who are looking for someone who shares the same experiences, grew up listening to the same music, understands what challenges they faced, who want the same things in the future.
I found OLD extremely safe, my worst experience was with a Church of Scotland minister who was (it turned out) married to another Church of Scotland minister. I met in a public place for a coffee and once I found out his story I explained that I had no intention in having a relationship with a married man and never saw him again.
I attracted mostly nice ordinary men. From a couple of millionaires to others just getting by on their pensions. I kept to online chat until I felt I knew them well enough to meet up then always in a public place. Not once did anyone suggest anything other than dinners, concerts, opera, theatre or cinema for a second date.
Perhaps you need to review your profile and spend time getting to know these men before meeting up.
My OH’s photo was of him pictured at Angkor Watt. I wrote identifying the background, saying that it was somewhere I really wanted to visit. Seven years later he took me there for my 70th birthday. We are very content.