Daughter’s astonishing comment!

On one trip to America with one son aged 14, we got "you realise I'm giving up several weeks of my school holidays, when I could be spending it with my friends to keep you both happy for this!!" Now he's prone to reminisce "those holidays you took us on when we were young were the best, I realise that when I had to start paying for them myself"

My daughter blames me for everything bad in her life. The other day she said, 'You left me at school with all those awful teachers.' She went to the best school in the area. There were a couple of not fantastic teachers, but I think they were probably perfectly adequate. Whereas she was a totally disinterested student. BUT it was all the teachers fault.

Aged 15 my DD would NOT have braces on her teeth. Now she's 40 I get the blame for her crooked teeth! Ever thought we can't win!

JaneJudge

How do you address a Bishop?

Politely would be a start and, if it was important to you and yours, in about three different ways I think. A bit like the Queen is "Your Majesty" on first meeting and subsequently Ma'am I think there is something similar for Bishops. There's probably a different way when writing too - addressing a letter and salutation.

Mind you, it's more likely to be on a first-name basis these days I would have thought.

very funny

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JaneJudge You write his postcode across his purple shirt and stick a first-class stamp on his mitre.

How do you address a Bishop?

Yes I remember that too silverlining loved those stories.

It always used to be Swiss finishing schools in st Clare’s and Mallory Towers books that I used to read.

Oh it is so good to know that I am not the only one with adult child/children with selective memories. Must say, that this youngest one of mine is the only one. Her siblings all regard her with annoyed amusement when she gets going. Strange thing is that she is an Educational Psychologist - and I have never met anyone with less empathy than she has - do often wonder how good she is at her job.

My elder brother (born in 1929), always moaned (in all seriousness) about our Father. His complaint was that Dad did not take the opportunity during the war years of making money on the black market. Honestly!!! he really felt that Dad had behaved legally and ethically just as a way of having a go at him!!!!

Didn't Lucy Clayton - in London - teach young 'gels' deportment, how to address a Bishop, flower arranging, etc., and I think there has been at least one such school in Yorkshire.

Do they actually still have finishing schools? No one here ever goes to them though there are a few posh schools here. One of my daughters went to PLC which is Presbyterian Ladies College. My grandson was convinced it was, 'Posh Lady's College.'

Not that I ever knew anyone who went to one, but for some reason I’d always imagined finishing schools to be in Switzerland. Where as well as everything else you could brush up your French/German, with skiing thrown in.

Blossoming I’m sorry but I don’t get why a finishing school in Teesdale is funny.

I have been recently accused of "falling out with the parents of DD's friends" so she never had sleepovers and had no friends at school where she was miserable!
I was stunned. DD born late 80s
She is happily married to someone who she was at school with they have 2 adorable DC etc etc.
I think it's blame mother game. Did anyone have sleepovers back then?
Selective memory indeed. I maybe fell out with one woman....

a finishing school in Teesdale

Brilliant

blossom14
Oh yes that sounds very familiar and photos of my daughter in school uniform wearing odd socks because she refused to wear those that matched, but now she says “ why did you let me go to school looking like that?”

DS2 once suggested that I didn't 'make' him do his homework. As if I could have made him do anything. Nevertheless - obviously with no input from me - he managed to achieve a first class degree and a MBA. Who read his dissertations? Guess! However, now he has his own teenagers and chickens are coming home to roost.

Welbeck Ladette to lady was filmed at Egglestone Hall.
It was a finishing school in Teesdale where a lot of
“ young ladies” from my part of the world attended in the 1970’s.

My friends that attended learnt to sew, cook, shorthand etc.
It was actually a year well spent if you were not cut out for A levels.

My daughter would have been expelled in the first week.

Even after getting her degree in Marketing she told us we should have made her study Law. ?

Thanks Heavens it's not just me. My YD aged 47. Blames me for everything. She is not presently conversing with me. After the initial upset, I am enjoying the peace.

Nell
Shameful isn’t it?
How on earth did they all survive?

I can't believe what terrible parents you've all been! I'm horrified to know that any of you could have put your children through such awful things! ???

It was not the happiest time FarNorth fortunately we could take her out to eat from time to time. Mealtimes were uncomfortable though.

sodapop that sounds appalling for your daughter.
Was she underfed all holiday?
That's nothing at all like one ham sandwich (if that even happened).