Someone recently said my DGS looked like me! With his very varied heritage and mix of his mum and dad (that I CAN see) I have no idea how the poor boy ended up resembling me (not that he does, I think it was meant as flattery).
Laura, skin colour doesn't, or shouldn't, matter at all in a family. Love there should be unconditional. Of course, once outside the front door, it is completely different. I have recently been teaching William Blake's poem, The Little Black Boy. Once thought of as an abolitionist poem, it is now VERY sad how accepting even a forward thinking man, such as Blake was (OR how he had to pander to his audience). But that is the desperately sad conversation parents/families have to have, and keep having, for children who are not white.