Unacceptable

You are not being unreasonable - it would have been very stressful waiting there wondering what had happened, had there been an accident or had someone else picked him up unlawfully? That's if you tend to catastrophize like I do ;-)
My question is - Why didn't your daughter advise you that they were going away? If she had done, then you would have immediately said "so you don't need me to do school pick-up on the Monday then?". What if there was an emergency while they were away or you needed to contact them but assumed they should be home but weren't? (there I go again....)

I would have been very upset, but I would not fall out with my children over it. I know they would be mortified to have needlessly put me to that much bother.

I would be disappointed and sad and SEETHING.hope they make it up to you.

I would be really angry, and also very disappointed with my DD. She obviously is happy to use you as a taxi service but doesn't think enough about you to tell you that they were going away. And I don't mean just letting you know that your services would not be required, but just generally letting you know what they were up to. It's not as if you live a few minutes from the school. Inside I would be seething and hurt. But would I say anything? Probably not, but that is because I hate confrontation, not because nothing needs to be said. Try and tell her that next time you are not needed she must let you know and that you were deeply anxious and worried about why your GS had not appeared, as well as feeling slightly foolish!

The trouble, people get away too often with” I didn’t think” or “I forgot’. It’s annoying that they didn’t “think” to tell you they were going away even!
I’m a bit intolerant of people who “forget”. It’s more a case of “I didn’t think to remember” usually.
If you could remember to go to the school they should have remembered to tell you not to!!
It’s not worth falling out about though!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I think it's pretty inexcusable. She should send you some flowers for your inconvenience.

How annoying for you but, if it's a one-off, forget it. I imagine most of us have forgotten something.

Once is a mistake and can be accepted, if it happened again the sky would come down on my Daughters shoulders.

Your daughter made a mistake and apologised when she realised her oversight. It was highly irritating and time wasting for you but these things happen. Just have a chunter to yourself and let it go.

It's not about the mistake, it's about what you do or say to make amends/apologise. We can all mistakes, but if I had done that to my mum (or anyone, in fact) it would never ever happen again, and I would have been hugely apologetic, bought flowers, and I would've been the one to suggest a method for that situation to never occur again, whereby I would lead the messaging etc, not expect her to. I'd be terrified if I was collecting someone else's child who appeared to have gone missing, and I would feel so incredibly bad if I'd ever put someone else in that situation. However, sometimes mistakes happen, and unless her attitude is a little too casual about it all, move on. Otherwise, maybe a time to step back a bit, and not be taken for granted.

Not worth falling out over.
If it was a one-off, it's an oversight in the excitement of a wee holiday and best forgotten.
If it happens from time to time, then a quick text on Sunday each week to confirm he'll be at school on Monday and they'd like you to pick him up is needed.

What does 'acceptable' mean? What are you going to do, withdraw from Grandparent duties? Do you want Oprah's number?

Given that it is a 30/40 min journey for you, it is pretty bad that they forgot to tell you, but I guess everyone can make a mistake, however should it ever happen again I think you would have to reconsider & decide if you want to opt out.good luck & best wishes.

Too many excuses made. Your daughter really should have informed you. This could have had all sorts of repercussions at the school when you came to collect a child who was not there. What if you hadn’t been able to contact your daughter immediately? It must have been very worrying for you. In future I would ask your daughter to contact you every Sunday to confirm the arrangement. Why should the onus be on you when you are doing her a favour?

Might be time to find you are 'too busy' occasionally - I think your availability is being taken for granted.

If the family was excited about a weekend away then surely DD would have remembered to let you know. Was this decided all on a Saturday? How was the school informed about your GC absence or isn't that a standard procedure in Australia. Surely informing school would be linked to informing you. Why were DDs first words "were you at the school"? I would be very annoyed and expect some form of treat by way of an apology.

We have all forgotten things at some time. It often seems on here that nobody has ever made a mistake.

donna1964

LisaP

When I collect my GrandDaughter from school (She is 7) and I bring her home to my house - even though we have arranged it previously I will get a message that day 'Dont forget....'
Then I get another message later on 'You're doing the school run right?'
Then I will get another message 'Are you on your way to the school?'
Then another message 'Let me know when you have her'. The another one.. 'Let me know when you get home' - then finally 'Are you home' Phew - talk about overkill
Oh but then it all starts again when I am due to take her home....

After all the messaging do they send you a Thankyou message?

Um - 'Thank You' what is this word you speak of

If OP is annoyed enough to come on here asking our thoughts then clearly is annoyed enough to ring the daughter and say so.so maybe should.?

I am sure you were terribly worried waiting for a child who didn't appear and I really admire you for not having lost your temper on the phone with your daughter.

I would let it be this time, but if it should happen again then you will need to tell your daughter that you were scared sick waiting for the child and that will she please make sure to tell you in advance if he is not going to school.

It was inconsiderate of her, but we all make mistakes at times, and it is not worth starting a family row about.

2old4this- OP in Australia, and 'free to travel' apparently.Different rules.

Everyone forgets things...it is life. No point in stressing over minor things.

Was this an emergency ? Does DD does know how to use a telephone? Decided to go off seemingly? at the last minute
knowing you usually pick up GD from school.
Hang on a minute while I cool down.

I suggest to ALL of you who do these 'long trips' that they get someone closer to do the school runs if the parents can't because of work commitments..it seems ridiculous to me that they rely on you to do this.And that they don't communicate properly with you when you are. I never relied on my mum to take or pick up any of my kids in their school years- that was up to me, or their dad, as their parents.