Unacceptable

As a one off, forgivable but if it happens twice then you’ll have to have words (and mine wouldn’t be nice ones)

Where had your daughter and family gone for the weekend, or is this another area where covid regulations don't seem to apply?

We are in Australia, so no more regulations here. We are free to travel in our State.

I’d be annoyed to be honest that she didn’t think to tell me that I wouldn’t be needed on the Monday, but I’m sure it was an oversight these things can happen, let’s hope it doesn’t happen again

Probably in the excitement of going away for the weekend it slipped her mind that Monday was your school run day. She’s aware now of the slip up and probably feels bad. I’d let it go.

Oh I've had that so many times over my years as a childminder! Very annoying for you to have a wasted journey.
If you "forgot" to be there one Monday they'd no doubt be horrified!
I always charge my normal fee in these instances but I don't imagine that's helpful for you ?

These things happen. It's easily done. My daughter once forgot to collect my GSs Christmas presents from the post office in time for Christmas day.
No point in worrying about it.

I am suspicious that her first words were "are you at the school" However, I don't think it is worth falling out over - perhaps for the next couple of weeks you could phone on Sunday and ask if GS will be in school on Monday (just to make a point!)

Could you arrange it the other way round? I.E. you tell her you won't fetch him on Mondays unless specifically arranged instead of automatically going. Who rings whom on the Monday each week is up to you, but I suspect you will be calling her.

My son always messaged me to make sure I was ok for collecting.

I would be fuming. For it not to occur to your daughter to let you know well in advance is shocking. I do not accept any of these excuses about being busy/slipping her mind etc. Did she inform the school.

Even if it was a real slip up, I would be expecting grovelling apologies and flowers to show how sorry they are.

I’d be very annoyed too, it’s a long way to have a wasted drive, but unless she’s generally scatterbrained, I bet she won’t forget again.

I’m sure it was just a slip-up but I would have been very annoyed. Sometimes we are the last to be thought of by our AC. Good old mum always there and reliable.

My Two sons are extremely thoughtful but daughter not so. She’s the one I’ve always gone to the enth degree for but I’m the last one she thinks about.

I always collected three of my grandchildren from school once a week on a Wednesday until they left primary school and helped out as needed in the holidays. My son always used to check if it was OK by me the evening before as he was the one who used to take them to and from school. He has always been very thoughtful and checks at least once a week that we are both OK. Our other son is not quite as thoughtful but he doesn’t have any children, however his lovely wife is extremely thoughtful. Our oldest granddaughter, 22, is thoughtful like her father and often texts to see if we are both OK.

It was a mistake - she forgot. Annoying, but not something that I would dwell on, unless she makes a habit of it.

I'm sure we have all done something similar at some time or other.

Oldwoman70

I am suspicious that her first words were "are you at the school" However, I don't think it is worth falling out over - perhaps for the next couple of weeks you could phone on Sunday and ask if GS will be in school on Monday (just to make a point!)

Really? I see that as the penny dropping when she heard her mother's voice.

I agree with others that if it's not part of a pattern it's best forgotten - anyone can make a mistake.

I had that experience once. Granddaughter had gone out of a different schoolgate to have tea with a friend. No one told me and I spent an hour in panic and dismay - literally running round the school - in an effort to find her. Felt quite ill.

Green eyes I sympathise with you for your wasted journey and I would certainly be annoyed if it happened to me.
However in the big picture, you will soon forget about it and treat it as an oversight.
I hope your DD gets flowers or similar for you on Mother's Day. Best wishes to you, I'm sure you'll continue helping with the DGC in the selfless way that we Grans do.

No, it was serious.
I would have gone into school and asked staff, and as has happened in the past , like you Boz, we would all be chasing round the school and neighbourhood looking for the child. (parent was unobtainable , before common use of mobile phones.) Mother forgot to make instructions clear to child.

I agree,it`s a one off.
I bet they won`t forget again.

When I collect my GrandDaughter from school (She is 7) and I bring her home to my house - even though we have arranged it previously I will get a message that day 'Dont forget....'
Then I get another message later on 'You're doing the school run right?'
Then I will get another message 'Are you on your way to the school?'
Then another message 'Let me know when you have her'. The another one.. 'Let me know when you get home' - then finally 'Are you home' Phew - talk about overkill
Oh but then it all starts again when I am due to take her home....

Yes its annoying, but assuming it's a one off then move on.

Flippin annoying and careless of your daughter!
I suppose it depends if it was a planned break or as Aussies do, just a "let's go to so and so" and taking a chance on finding accommodation!
Hope she thinks ahead in future!

A bit annoying, but not a big deal. These things happen. If it is part of a pattern, you need to get them to confirm on the day. Forgive and move on.