Not meaning to be morbid and I hope you won’t take it that way but

Not religious so not bothered about a funeral but as cheap as possible. I would like my ashes to be buried under a newly planted tree with a few saved to be taken out into space when my grand daughter becomes an astronaut. I have picked some songs - "Stop Crying Your Heart Out" by Oasis - I can't stand them but my sons love them and it is for them after all. My message to everyone is "Make Your Own Kind of Music" by the Mamas and Papas, and for me I'll have "Ready for Roses Now" by Marti Webb. I have told them they can have their choice too which would be "Ding Dong the Witch is Dead". Hope this doesn't offend but our family has a very dark sense of humour.

My Dad had ‘We’ll meet again” by Vera Lynn and “Time to say goodbye” Andrea Bocelli and “Nessum Dorma”. He was in the Air Force in the war. Have to say the ‘Time to say Goodbye’ set me off crying but it seemed like a good idea at the time.

At my mum's funeral we had the three hymns during the church service which she had chosen years before, including " I vow to thee my country", she had been in the services in the war. At the crematorium after the church service we had "Swing Low" and at the very end "now is the hour", the Maori Farewell, sung by Vera Lynn. Mum had been a Wren in the war and the ship she was on sailed in and out of Wellington (in fact that is where she got engaged) . She always said that whenever she heard that song it reminded her of the choirs that lined the quayside singing it.

I've told my children not to bother with anything. I honestly do not want people I love being all upset and stressed. I've been to a few in my time and I dislike them intensely.

Also the price! Such a lot of money. I'd rather they go on holiday or whatever

Just plonk me in a box and that is enough.

Hymns, I’ll let my children choose.
Music I’ve got mp3 versions of Do not stand at my grave and weep sung by Libera, You Raise Me Up and Time to Say Goodbye Andrea Boccelli for them to choose from.

Mine has the lines:

"And when human hearts are breaking,
Under sorrows', iron rod.
Then we find the self same aching,
Deep within the heart of God."

Over the sea to Skye as the crem curtains close. My Dad used to sing this after singing me to sleep to let my older siblings know he needed them to run ahead and open the door to my bedroom. I thought as I'd be permanently asleep it would be appropriate!

I've told my boys that I don't need a funeral though and they can spend the money on a family party instead

Kamiso, Faith of our Fathers, is DH's favourite, but certainly not mine. Hence my own list to pre-empt him choosing it for my funeral!

My mother in law was the same, thinking it avoided a funeral. She didn’t realise that the body is returned to the family and it could be months after the bereavement.

There are certain times of the year when bodies are needed for the new intake of medical students so her timing was out.

Changing the subject - I would like Que Sera Sera as I made my debut singing it at the top of my voice during a high mass.

The Rose sung by Michael Ball. Quite like the idea of Faith of my Fathers but my children are all heretics and wouldn’t be impressed!

Funerals aren't for the deceased though, are they? I think it's fine to say, a humanist funeral please or a cremation as opposed to a burial but when I go, I want my family to do what is most helpful for them. eg If I live to a ripe old age, my passing might be a blessing both for me and those who care about me. If I drop dead tomorrow, well I guess there will be some sadness and I think that probably will change how the funeral is conducted. What I have said is that I don't want anything elaborate, I'd like a humanist cremation service and apart from a few flowers on the coffin I'd like donations to one of the charities that I support. With regard to music and readings, I honestly don't mind, just do what they want to do but no-one is to fall out! TBH if they want to celebrate my life, do it whilst I am alive and can appreciate it!

Over the Rainbow, the Hawaiian recording.

Quite honestly, I've never considered it!

If I am not here, the decision could be made by my nearest and dearest (husband) who would choose something fitting. If he was not here, then it would fall to my kids who would probably not choose any hymn. Perhaps I should choose, but I'm not going to be there so I don't know.

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I don’t know what everyone would like to do as I’m donating my body for medical science.

Callistamon
I love that hymn ?

Hope they want it.
They came up and looked at my friend’s body, removed one or two bits and left the rest. His wife had to sort out a service very quickly.

Nanna8, thank you for reminding me. I keep meaning to make a note of what I want to be played at my funeral. No hymns as I always think they are a bit of a trial for everyone who has to sing them, particularly if they aren't used to it. So, I know I want "Elizabethan Serenade" by Mantovani's Orchestra to come in, such a beautiful piece of music, then "Time after Time" , the Eva Cassidy version because it speaks from my heart about what I feel about my family and how I'll always be there for them. Not sure about my grand exit - but I think it will be "Brown Eyed Girl" by Van Morrison, not only because I am one but because it is one of my favourite feelgood songs, and I would like to go out on a happy note! Only other instruction would be to play "Sailor" by Petula Clarke as it was a song I sang as a very young (3 yr old) child and it will make my brothers smile.........

I want the old burial service by my graveside. As there are not likely to be many mourners we’ll omit the church service and the beautiful music I love.
And if anyone says “passed away” I shall come back to haunt them.

I have chosen three pieces of music and songs, one of them is Lee Marvin singing Wandering Star, from the film ‘Paint your Wagon’. I went to see the film with my Mum when l was 12 years old, and l have been a bit of a roaming star for most of my adult life. The best thing l ever bought was my first of many Caravans since 1982, it’s always been a big part of my lifestyle, whenever l had time off work for a few days, l would be hitched up and gone roaming!

The second song is as a request from my Daughters, Whitney Huston’s ‘I will always Love you’ something that we would all sing along to on the Car Radio in the 1990s.

The third will either be an instrumental piece, or a Hymn, but I’m unsure which yet. My DH had a melt down into sobs of tears at my Daughter's funeral in 2015, she entered the packed Church to Roberta Flack singing ‘The first time l ever saw your face’. She was just 36 years old, and lost her life after a 2 year battle with aggressive Breast cancer.

I don't actually want a funeral, and have said as much to my family but that aside, there are two things that I have often thought I would like:

-Music, by John Miles

-A classical arrangement of Seasons in the Sun (not that one exists, as far as I know, but if it did ...)

My husband died unexpectedly. He wanted to be cremated but that was as far as he got.He wasn't religious so I chose what I thought he would like.The theme music from Last of the Summer Wine,his favourite programme, as the coffin came in .and Glory Glory Man United as we left .That raised a smile as he was a lifelong fan .I think he would have agreed with my choice.

I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who isn’t having a funeral.

Another Queen one: Who wants to live forever, singalong at the end to Fairytale in New York, because I’ve always loved Christmas. It’s a minimal (cheap and prepaid) cremation with a celebrant.

I conducted my husband’s cremation service, all the music was from the musical HAIR (try listening to “What a piece of work is man” - it’s Hamlet’s soliloquy act 2 scene2). Ended with “Let the sun shine” then I accompanied him downstairs and watched as the coffin burst into flames.
I want a direct cremation. The family can have a party when they get the ashes.

My sons and I used to enjoy a good debate about what songs we’d like at our funerals! I have always wanted Rolf Harris ‘s Two little boys as I used to sing it to my 2 sons when they were little and I love it but it’s become controversial now ?. Like a previous poster, I also want Green Day ‘s Time of your Life. My main stipulation for my funeral is that I’m buried with a piece of wool in my pocket as apparently it gives me a free pass at the gates of heaven as an acceptable excuse for not attending church on Sundays ...... shepherds have to look after their sheep 7 days a week! I have it written in my will just to ensure I don’t miss out on this perk of the job!!

Nanna8 you are being practical, not morbid.
There wouldn’t have been any singing allowed at the funeral you went to today because of COVID, even if the family had wanted it.
I might jot down some suggestions for hymns but I will leave it to others to finalise. I want a green burial so unless there is also a church service there may not be any music at all.

There are some songs from my youth in the 1960s which resonate because the words are appropriate. 'Going Back' by Dusty Springfield, 'In My Life' by the Beatles, both quite moving but not sad.
Also 'I Can See Clearly Now' by Johnny Nash which says I can see clearly now the rain is gone. I can see all obstacles in my way. Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind. It's gonna be a bright sunshiny day. Look all around, there's nothing but blue skies. Look straight ahead, there's nothing but blue skies.
I think that's all rather heavenly and uplifting!

I love the thought of Queen’s Another One Bites the Dust too. My boys and their kids would probably laugh, better than crying. But I think, as my coffin
slides away, I’m going to have David Bowie’s There’s A Star Man Waiting in the Sky. An alternative would be Frank Sinatra’s Fly Me to the Moon.
In the hopes that I’ll be up there looking down somehow since my top of the bucket list wish for a trip on the International Space Station is unachievable. Their B&B rates are astronomical!