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Funeral with a difference yesterday

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Witzend Sat 27-Mar-21 09:57:50

It was for a lovely chap in his late 80s, a (not close) relative by marriage of dh.
He was an atheist and very much opposed to any fuss. There were only 5 of us and there was no service at all. Since we so rarely see the others dh thought it’d be nice to take a bottle of wine and nibbles to share in a socially distanced manner afterwards.

However it was pouring with rain, so the relative who’d organised it said why not take it all in, so we rearranged the chairs and had a mini party where 2 of them read out fond reminiscences of him, and we raised glasses to him in his coffin.
We thought he’d have approved entirely, and the crem staff and undertakers apparently thought it was a lovely way to do it, too.

CafeAuLait Sat 27-Mar-21 10:00:35

That sounds like a lovely send off. I agree, it was a lovely and heartfelt way to say goodbye.

Juliet27 Sat 27-Mar-21 10:02:43

Way to go !!

Juliet27 Sat 27-Mar-21 10:07:55

That’s just how we’ve said we’d like our funerals to be.

Auntieflo Sat 27-Mar-21 12:04:12

Witzend, so glad you enjoyed, (is that the right word?) the funeral yesterday.
We also had a funeral, my brother, and although sad, it was nice to see relatives and friends, even if it was for such a fleeting time.
When we are all allowed to meet up properly, we will, and celebrate him again then.

EllanVannin Sat 27-Mar-21 12:16:20

That all sounded normal and natural to me. I'm sure the deceased would have approved. His wishes were granted.

jusnoneed Sat 27-Mar-21 12:29:00

That's a lovely way to see someone off, and nice that the Crem staff let you do it that way. I bet he would had a chuckle about it.
I totally agree with the no fuss funeral, have written down that there is to be no service etc when I turn my toes up.

Judy54 Sat 27-Mar-21 14:40:37

That is so lovely. I have been to a couple of woodland non-religious services and they were absolutely beautiful.

Kim19 Sat 27-Mar-21 14:41:06

I REALLY like the sound of that send off. Quite lovely and absolutely all that is necessary (desirable in my case). I also have a warmed heart at the thoughtfulness of the Crematorium being so accommodating.