Feeling dispirited!

It`s carma Serendipity22.
It`s your time to be helped for all the help you gave others.
Please look on the bright side and i hope you improve soon.

I suspect that you are not alone in 2021. Millions of people, who had worked hard and followed all life's rules, have seen their world upended in this pandemic. That doesn't make your position any easier, but be aware that lots and lots and lots of people are having to revise their life's plan right now, and asking for help is by no means embarrassing. Learn to ask for and accept help with the same good grace with which I bet you offered it.

That’s good advice olddudders I agree with you. It’s not easy accepting you have to slow down or alter the way you are. But now you have too don’t be shy asking for help. It’s obviously time for you to be on the receiving end of help and care. ?

There’s a rather nice hymn, which, whether you are religious or not, does, I think, express it nicely:

Brother, sister, let me serve you;
let me be as Christ to you;
pray that I may have the grace to
let you be my servant too.

Allowing others to look after us after a lifetime of looking after others is giving them the opportunity to discover how fulfilling it can be to care for someone else.

Wow.... thank you SOOOOOO MUCH for your comments. Yes I agree totally that a LOT of people are affected with this pandemic the whole world is experiencing I agree 100%, i so so so feel for people who are going through terrible stressful events in their lives, unimaginable, it certainly, certainly puts things into perspective.

Geekesse - that hymn is BEAUTIFUL.....

It is just your turn to receive help that will hopefully put you on the road to recovery.

Serendipity, thank you for coming back to say that the comments have helped you.
I just wanted to say that I am so sympathetic as a year ago I felt just the same. I kept saying that I had spent my whole life trying to be part of the solution, and now I felt part of the problem.
Two things helped - firstly finding such grace as I could to accept the situation. I told myself that fretting, or trying to do things outside my capability would make it worse - and I'd be even less use!
Then I cast about to find if there was something within my limitations, that I could do. I did find something I- very small, but something that occupied me, and from that I could be more accepting.
I hope that you do as well.

PS: and thank you, geekesse.

Serendipity - just remember, as it made you feel good when you were helping other people, so NOW, other people are able to feel good when helping you. It is a two-way process.

Flippin heck .... your comments are so uplifting and as much as I see myself as a VERY POSITIVE person, I'm also seeing that at the end of the day I'm human, positive or not positive, determined or not determined, yes, I appreciate your comments and I see your points of view and I KNOW 1000000% that I not the only 1, I wish I had the ability to make EVERYONE happy and their lives better.

Can I just say that my post was not all about me, me, me, it was saying there must be others out there on Gransnet in similar situations ..... you are travelling in that 'frustrating boat,' with me haaaa, let's have a sing song as we ride the waves together .......

Serendipity 22, I send you bucket loads of good wishes. I too have always been very positive- but !!!! Not now , do have family stuff to worry about so that is not helping. Morning anxiety is pretty bad , feel much better as the day goes on though.
The pandemic has and continues to cause stress for many people. Life beginning to feel more normal now , I am eagerly waiting for my second vaccination. The ? is shining today , so will take advantage of that , don my mask and take myself off to garden centre for new bedding plants. Enjoy the spring weather everyone!

Awwwwww Shelflife I hope you have a super-duper day at the garden centre and yes I agree that the pandemic has not helped 1 iota in peoples demeanour..... we worry when there is nothing to worry about and for those of us who are super positive, it does NOT sit well at allllllllll.

Enjoy your day and know that THINGS WILL GET BETTER ....

Serendipity22, you have put into words my feelings almost exactly .
Like you I have always been a glass half full type of person, busy, helping where I could, and general busyness of loving life

Then in January, I had the diagnosis of bone cancer.
Having thought that the aches and pains were due to old age and arthritis, I was literally bowled over and the ground was taken from under my feet.
Having been started on a treatment plan, I am managing to keep on top of the pain, and getting on with things.
But, and yes, like you, there is a but, I am limited to how much I can do , and that is frustrating.
I have to accept that help is graciously given, and I am learning to say 'yes please' , rather than, 'I can do it myself'.
I am becoming a different sort of ME, and I am not angry.
Luckily I do have a strong faith that helps , and thank you geekesse, that is one of my favourite hymns.

Thankyou Serendipity, I appreciate your kind words.
Auntieflo, I send you good wishes and good on you for accepting help when you need it - so positive.

AUNTIEFLO I am so sorry to read your post, I send you a hug (()) yes, when we are super independent and life is just tickety-boo .... THEN it all changes!!!!

BUT ( yes here is another BUT) We are blessed because we have a POSITIVITY running through us like a stick of Blackpool rock and we WILL find a foothold in our new "ME" .... WE WILL
...... How can we not ?

So we roll up our sleeves and be prepared for them occasionally falling down ....

I too have a lovely faith and that faith has lifted and carried me when that grey cloud decends...

Serendipity I wonder if you could feel you are still fulfilling a helping role by using the telephone to befriend or help others who are lonely or stuck Would it be worth contacting your local voluntary groups or even a National one like Esther Ransons silverline a lot of lonely people out there

Good luck

Bluebell it's funny you should suggest that because I was thinking precisely the same thing ...... I say to ppl that I was put on this planet to help others, even if its sitting with them, having a cuppa and a flippin good laugh. Its alllll I want to do ...

Thank you for your post

Auntieflo?