How upset would you be if someone said you were boring!

J1ust read the morning papers. Prince Harry and wife become more boring by the day (this is NOT the start of a royal thread, just an illustration of what boring is)

I would tell them they’re right!

Sluttygran sounds like the visiting couple in King Gary 'can you fetch me the nice crisps?'

Suppose Alexa somebody said to you, “Do you realise that whatever anybody else says, you always talk about x. We’re all getting a bit fed up with it.”

I know its rude and hurtful but when we talk she is saying that I’m the only one that still phones. And I know why.

As for arranging a meet-up, that’s fallen through. One of the others won’t come because she doesn’t want to have to be lectured.

She used to be so interesting and such fun?

I would be worried because I would wonder if it was the topic I chose or my way of speaking, and I'd not know what to do to make it better.

Actually, I think sluttygran sounds as if she'd be great fun!
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I don't think my wine is particularly good stuff though, sorry

I think sluttygran must be the friend I’ve been posting about ?

I think I know you Sluttygran? I’m sure there is more self awareness amongst women about being boring than men. Peasblossom, the feeling you are even boring yourself....I’ve felt that too!

I'm very boring, very nasty, and I talk about my grandchildren non-stop, because naturally they are vastly superior infants.
I also talk about my many operations, my fortitude during them, and the many ways in which surgeons have congratulated me on the unique nature of my ailments.
I'm sure you're all longing to ask me to dinner, but don't, because I'll bring cheap wine, drink your good stuff, and flatly refuse to look at you holiday photos, or even those of your daughter's wedding.

I'd probably agree with them. I know I'm boring to those who don't have the same interests as me but if they do, we can chat away for hours. I'm probably too 'deep' for most. i certainly wouldn't be offended. Life's too short. If they think you're boring, find other friends.

I’m sure I am boring and uninteresting. I feel like I have no personality and am a nothing sort of person if that makes any sense. So if someone said that tome I would probably agree.

I would be very very hurt to be described as boring but I suspect several people might say I am. I have some very good friends who I get on well with but I find it difficult to interact with people in groups of more than about four people.

I recall one time at a works drinks at the senior partner's beautiful house in central London. I felt uncomfortable and unintentionally had one glass of wine too many. I remember quite clearly being in the middle of what I imagined was a fascinating conversation with a solicitor in my office and seeing his eyes glaze over with sheer boredom. It was obviously time to go home!

Thank you all for your comments and stories. This is what I’ve learnt.

Most people are really tolerant and kind and will listen to the same story over and over again.?

Some people don’t really care that they are repeating themselves and the listener might be bored.

When people have ‘a bee in their bonnet’ they just can’t help bringing it into every conversation. They have to get their opinion out there.

But I still don’t know whether to say to this friend that people might be more willing to meet up with her/phone her if she could just let the conversation flow rather than bringing it back to her opinions all the time. She’s losing out because of it,

I was a bit amused by people who said they weren’t paid to entertain. People aren’t generally paid to listen either?

I was told that I was boring when visiting friends of my DH
I found their adult children were quite horrible, and couldn't think of anything to say to them. When I started talking to their mother about her garden, quite amiably, I thought, (and she was a lovely person) the adult children shouted why were we talking about boring gardening.
I had to go outside to cool down. We have never been back

Nobody's said it in so many words but I'm well aware that to other people I'm boring. It doesn't bother me at all, I don't feel it's my duty to entertain anyone. I'd rather everyone saw me as boring, than anyone saw me as unkind, or unhelpful.

I think we all come across boring at times, especially as we get older and repeat our “interesting” stories. Do I believe I bore people at times...yep! I think it clicks when they cut into my story with their story which has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m talking about...I on the other hand, let them repeat, or let them finish, but as soon as they stop for air, I’m starting my different story. Some days I think I throw out golden nuggets of information, and some days I find them in others conversations. I’m in my 60s, and look after people a good bit older, who repeat themselves on a daily, if not hourly basis, and that reminds me that this could be me one day, so I know I could never tell them they were boring, as I know it would be hurtful, and more to the point, they would possibly forget, and so I’d need to say it daily.... don’t think I would feel nice, and can’t believe nice people would say it.

Theoddbird
For me it’s not so much the content but the continuous repetition of the same stories.

We all have our stories to tell... To some they might be boring but to others they will be interesting. It is wrong to criticize others because what they say does not interest us...

I meet a lady while I'm walking the dog and I find I'm am ducking behind hedges, going along roads I didn't want to, just to get away from her. It sounds awful, but she goes on & on, I can't get away from her once she starts. As I'm leaving her she follows me still talking. I'm wondering now does anyone do that when they see me coming.

GrannyGear
But that’s supposing you can change a boring person. From personal experience I would say it’s a lost cause ?

I don't necessarily think I am a boring conversationalist, but I don't think I am 'fun'.

I admire people that can always make others laugh and are full of spirited fun. Some of my co-workers are always joking and laughing over silliness, but I think I am more serious. Am I guilty of being boring in that way? Maybe!

Depends who said it, how serious they were and how much I valued their opinion. People are more likely to say something like this about you rather than to you.
Remember the old ad about "what your best friend won't tell you"? Being boring is like being smelly - if you don't know you're doing it, you'll never change!

I have a friend who within minutes of any conversation (phone or in person) gets onto a particular problem of hers - complicated, she is from another country and has concerns about taxes and residential status - you cannot get a word in edgeways although she is always asking for advice she simply does not listen to anyone. It has been going on for years and I am not sure how her OH puts up with it - I suspect she just switches off which is why when she sees anyone else she just goes off on one. I think I have heard the whole thing multiple times, but most of the concerns are in her head. If she actually took any action I would be interested but she just goes on like a stuck record. I try to limit my walks with her but feel mean doing so - when you can get her on to another subject she can be good company - but its rare!!!! Now that is BORING!

I agree with Ella Vannin
Conversation is an art form
If somebody wants to talk to me I’m privileged

Amberone you could be writing about me!