How upset would you be if someone said you were boring!

I guess I have quite a low boredom threshold. I don’t want to talk about the same things over and over again. The Nativity play that went wrong and was funny at the time, the operation and what the surgeon said.

What I’m having particular trouble with at the moment is the way in which, for some people, every subject of conversation only leads back to the one thing they’re interested in and want to talk about.

Four of us are talking about meeting up but one of them responds to anything someone else says with her pet subject. It kills the conversation dead. It’s a relatively new obsession but the other friends have noticed it in their phone calls with her. You can’t just change the subject. Her next sentence is back to her interest.

Would it be so very awful to say that subject’s banned in a get together?

Never going to happen

Well I’m sure that someone in the past has thought that I was boring but have never said it to my face. It depends on what mood I am in whether I would take offence if they did say it. None of my friends would say it as we are such good friends and talk none stop. Well I sure hope they don’t think I am boring - er that has got me thinking…………………

My friends are very similar to myself, I certainly wouldn’t call them boring, and I’ve never been called it, I think it’s quite a rude thing to say to someone, if someone I met was rambling on, I don’t think I’d batter an eyelid, it simply wouldn’t bother me,

Sorry blossoming when I said you I suppose I should have said one or maybe they. I didn’t mean you personally.

I find people do talk about their minor health issues a lot more as they get older, and that is so boring to everybody else - I make a conscious effort not to, and if somebody asks me how I am, I just say fine thanks and change the subject.

I’m probably an absolute bore when I’m talking about gardening, so I seek out fellow nerds who understand the obsession, and I wouldn’t be offended if somebody told me I was boring on, because it would be true.

Conversation is never boring regardless of what it's about.

I have a friend, he’s been a friend for forty odd years, every conversation harks back to some event we shared years ago. Since his retirement he’s settled into, what for me, is quite a boring, unadventurous daily routine, so he has little that’s new to talk about. Mr J and I, when this friend yet again repeats a memory, call it ‘during the war’. And yes I have jokingly mentioned it to him, no difference, he just prefaces with ‘I’ve probably mentioned this before’ I find it a bit sad.

Yep, the “organ recitals” as my friend calls it... that and the equivalent of holiday photos!
I hope I’m not boring but then I tend to ask people questions and let the rabbit on!

BTW I can bore people talking about cats .... ? ?‍⬛

I have been called a lot of things over the years but never boring!!!! ??

No I don’t Peasblossom. As you obviously find me boring I shall avoid you in future.

If someone is boring i.e. sitting next to me talking excessively about something I knew nothing about like their job or hobby, I’d try and swap subjects or find a reason to move away when I’d had enough. (I can usually think of a few questions to ask about said subject).
I wouldn’t tell someone they were boring as I think that would be extremely hurtful. I heard someone tell a friend’s husband he was boring in front of several people and he was clearly upset by it.

It is the medical condition conversations that are constantly repeated. It is almost as though it is a competition, who has the most or biggest, etc. etc.

There are far worse things than being boring.

I find it difficult to think of interesting things to talk about thanks to lockdown preventing so many activities.

We’re probably all a bit boring at the moment.

I quickly learned, in the early years of our marriage never to be first in bringing up a subject when in conversation with my mil. She would always know someone who had been there, done it. bought it
Her favourite subject was holidays and if we had believed her although never having been there herself. what she had heard'? we never would have travelled further than out own front door.

I am sure I bre people frequently. I talk too much and too fast.

I’m impressed oldwoman. You’re the perfect dinner guest. But suppose you had to sit next to him at every dinner event? Or have weekly conversations.

You don’t think they might actually be doing you a favour blossoming rather than being rude?

Stop you in your tracks and make you think a bit. About why peopl are avoiding you or cutting conversations short?

I think we can all be boring and bored at some point - not many of us are able to be scintillating conversationalists all the time. I am sure people have found me boring at times but have been polite enough not to mention it.

I recall going to a social event and sitting next to a man I didn't know. He spent the entire evening talking about his hobby, bowls, which I knew nothing about and which I had zero interest in. He was obviously passionate about it and I was able to feign interest to such an extent that he insisted on giving me the address and telephone number of his club so I could give it a try "because you are obviously interested in it!"

I would be upset if I knew it was me but I don’t think that repeat offenders are aware so I do hope it isn’t me. I will take it badly if I am a culprit.
I no longer mention my grandchild’s dancing progress to one friend as she always replies by reminiscing about her own dancing lessons as a child, regardless of what I am telling her. I have tutted once or twice but it doesn’t register. It is impossible to have any conversation with someone who takes every subject so personally that they can only relate it to themselves. I have noticed it in some GN posts but then some people are quite isolated and I don’t have to read their posts or engage with them. In real life it does annoy me and I tend to let them ramble on before making my excuses and leaving.

Vickysponge

Oh gosh yes, a fair few on the political threads here on GN!

I wonder if that is because there are so many people who claim to be 'scared' of joining in political threads, so a few voices dominate. Politics isn't something that people change their opinion about very often, so it is inevitable that viewpoints are going to be recycled. If more people joined in then there would be more variety.

As for the 'one subject' talkers, I think some of it is insecurity or a need to stay in a comfort zone.

I have a friend who manages to get into Every Single Conversation that she and her ex travelled the world back in the 1980s. It was 40 years ago, and life has gone on since then, but she never fails to bring it up, in the manner of a comedy ex-army chap who shoehorns his war exploits into every discussion. Some of it is insecurity, I think. She wants to establish herself as 'worldly' or intrepid in some way, as her life since has been very much the same as everyone else's.

It also diverts the conversation to an area where she is very comfortable holding forth, so she doesn't risk being asked about something she might feel less able to discuss.

I'd be utterly horrified!
I can't think of anything worse than being boring, other than nasty.

Not upset, but I’d think them very rude and avoid them in future.