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Beckett Wed 12-May-21 10:05:22

I was out for a walk yesterday (dodging the showers) when I bumped into a friend who I haven't seen for some time so we stopped for a chat. She was with someone I didn't know and suddenly this person interrupted the conversation to point out I was wearing a crucifix. She then went into a long monologue stating that she was an athiest and continued to say I was "misguided" to believe in an "invisible friend who didn't exist".

My friend, aware that my faith is a big part of my life and that it has helped me through some very difficult times, attempted to change the subject but this woman would not be deflected. In the end I said I had to go and left. I have to say the encounter did upset me, not because she could shake my faith but because she was so aggressive in her attitude - I respected her decision not to believe in God so why couldn't she respect that I did.

Now I understand people have strong feelings about things but why do they feel it necessary to disrespect and deride the beliefs of others .

Redhead56 Wed 12-May-21 12:38:26

I am not religious a lot of religions are people's culture too so therefore very personal. I would never disrespect a persons religion it's the way I was brought up.
I would have verbally told this ignorant woman to mind her own business and keep her opinions to herself. I would also tell the lady you do know that she must be short of good friends. People like that should not be tolerated and need putting in their place.

Jane43 Wed 12-May-21 12:39:35

I’m an agnostic but would never inflict my opinion on such a private matter on anybody. So sorry you had to experience this.

Nannagarra Wed 12-May-21 13:05:08

A loud, aggressive, intractable bully who showed herself up Beckett. No doubt your friend was frustrated by not being able to change the subject and embarrassed for both of you. I wouldn’t be surprised if their friendship cools. You, on the other hand, though shaken, showed your friend what a worthy person you are. Keep wearing your crucifix and hold onto your beliefs.

Casdon Wed 12-May-21 13:11:31

I must admit to feeling some concern for your friend. You were able to extract yourself from this bullying woman, and can justly feel you handled the situation well, although it was annoying and unsettling. I’d be worried that she is behaving in this same bullying way to your friend who may not be strong enough to extract herself from the relationship - the woman’s antipathy towards you may be because she is controlling your friend in some way?