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Itsawelshthing Sat 15-May-21 12:14:36

I've been in my new house for just over a week now and already having issues. A car has blocked my car in by parking across the driveway on a dropped kerb. I left it first day, he parked there all morning and afternoon. But now he has parked there again and been there all morning and doesn't look like he is going to move and I need to get out of my drive to go shopping.

I know who it belongs to but I am scared of knocking on the door to ask him not to park there as it is stopping me from getting out but because he is quite a big lad and my husband and I really don't want any trouble with the neighbours.

I'm already getting very stressed about it but he clearly doesn't give a crap about where he parks. I don't want to ring the police or anything so how would you approach someone who may get very defensive and start causing problems? I'm so upset that we've moved into our own home and we are already encoutering issues.

Shandy57 Sat 15-May-21 16:41:07

This sort of thing is horrible isn't it, I've got a drive and I worry someone might block me in.

I hope you can knock and say hello, and can you move your car so I can get out please.

infoman Sat 15-May-21 16:43:27

I have to agree with M0nica park your car across your own drive way,
but PLEASE don't park across his.

MerylStreep Sat 15-May-21 16:45:19

You mentioned in one of your other posts that you drive to work. How has this worked ?

Kim19 Sat 15-May-21 16:52:02

Is your car actually visibly in the drive when he parks or is it hidden in a garage? If he can see it then he is being purposely obtuse. If you have to take the matter up with him and he doesn't respond politely then I would park across the drive myself for a while in the hope that he will park elsewhere regularly. Not pleasant but doable. Did it myself recently and neighbours queried my practice and improved theirs accordingly. I was, after all, taking up precious and scarce space somewhat unnecessarily.

M0nica Sat 15-May-21 17:07:37

Do not hesitate to go to the police if necessary.

My uncle had a narrow and short drive to a garage, which needed to be kept unblocked as his wife was ill and he might need to rush her to hospital at any time.

The drive was constantly blocked. So every time this happened, he rang the police, who came round and slapped a parking ticket on the offending car.

After that happened regularly for a few months people got the message and for the next decade it was only on a few occasionsthat the police had to be rung.

Callistemon Sat 15-May-21 17:14:13

What geekesse said.

lemsip Sat 15-May-21 17:40:16

www.newparkinglaws.co.uk/post/Parking-Next-to-a-Drop-Kerb

ask him nicely to move his car first though

Calendargirl Sat 15-May-21 18:17:58

I might seem thick, but why does he not just park on his own drive? Or are there other cars at his house and he is short of space?

Either way, he shouldn’t block you in.

NotAGran55 Sat 15-May-21 18:25:26

Have you got it sorted Itsawelshthing ?

Bakingmad0203 Sat 15-May-21 18:41:37

I had this happening to me once. It wasn’t a neighbour but a parent visiting the school. I went to the school and they announced his car registration number over the tannoy He was very sheepish and apologetic and said he had only intended to pop into the school but was held up. I told him that if my house was on fire and the fire services couldn’t get to it then he would have been responsible. He didn’t do it again!

Franbern Sat 15-May-21 18:42:06

Why not just drop a note into that persons house. Just to say that you have recently moved into House no.....and one of the reasons it was chosen was because of its drive. You require use of your car often and need to be able to get it onto and off the drive without problems. So, you him nicely not to park across your dropped kerb.

As has been pointed out, there is little you can do legally if someone parks on a dropped kerb if they are not blocking your exit. However, if your car is on the drive and siomeone blocks your exist you can call the poliue to rmeove the vehicle. Obviously, only do this after you have tried either through a letter or knocking to ask him NEVER to block your drive again.
Dolet us know how this goes.

Shelflife Sat 15-May-21 18:42:27

Hope you and your husband have spoken to your neighbour? Unbelievable that anyone would block someone's car in by parking across their drive!!

H1954 Sat 15-May-21 18:45:30

I don't know about the rest of the GNetters on this thread but I'm itching to know if the OP has sorted out this problem ?

Bakingmad0203 Sat 15-May-21 18:48:42

I haven’t answered the OPs question.
I would be very polite and do as Shandy57 suggests, and keep doing if you have to. I think he will soon get fed up

Shelflife Sat 15-May-21 18:49:07

Me too !

gangy5 Sat 15-May-21 18:56:48

We had this problem with a 4ft kerb between our drive and a neighbour's. Eventually we contacted the council to paint a white line over this section and including the bit of kerb - which was definitely not a car's length. We had trouble exiting our drive as we couldn't see properly - things came to a head when somebody crashed into DH.

Cabbie21 Sat 15-May-21 18:59:12

I had a similar issue at a previous address. There was only room for one car in our drive so I parked on the road. The man opposite then started parking in “ my” spot, rather than outside his house or on his drive. I knew I had no more right to that space than he did, but I politely pointed out to him that if I did not park there, I would be parking outside his house. He took the point, and after that, he actually parked on his own drive.
I think a polite request is the way forward.

maydonoz Mon 17-May-21 14:41:36

Hi Itsawelshthing
Sorry to hear you're having this problem with your neighbour, and hopefully you can resolve it easily by asking him politely to move.
Some years ago, we had a similar problem with our nextdoor neighbour with whom we had a shared drive. He regularly parked in front of our drive, thereby blocking us in, despite asking him to move his car.
His theory was that every time we needed to go out we would tell him, then he would happily move, he could not get his head around the fact that this did not suit us, he was a rather stubborn man.
We finally reported him to the police when one day we could not get out to do early morning shopping. I think he was shocked when the police turned up on his doorstep, it never happened again!
Fortunately he moved a few years later and we had no such problem with the new neighbours.
I hope you don't have to do this, but as a last resort, you may need to.
Good luck and I hope you can enjoy your new home after this initial obstacle.

Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 17-May-21 14:47:24

Why are people so wet? If the OP isn’t careful she will never leave her house again. Sorry if I sound mean but why is she making such a huge fuss. Just knock on the door and ask him to move. It’s not rocket science, is it?

NotSpaghetti Mon 17-May-21 15:20:18

Come back Itsawelshthing please!

Lucca Mon 17-May-21 15:24:47

Ladyleftfieldlover

Why are people so wet? If the OP isn’t careful she will never leave her house again. Sorry if I sound mean but why is she making such a huge fuss. Just knock on the door and ask him to move. It’s not rocket science, is it?

I must say I’m inclined to agree with you !

Katie59 Mon 17-May-21 15:33:48

I’d just ask him nicely to let me out - at 7 am on a Sunday morning, he would soon get the message.

mumski Mon 17-May-21 15:37:57

Ladyleftfieldlover

Why are people so wet? If the OP isn’t careful she will never leave her house again. Sorry if I sound mean but why is she making such a huge fuss. Just knock on the door and ask him to move. It’s not rocket science, is it?

I think you are being extremely judgemental and unkind. Until I was recently bereaved I would take on the world. Now I would also find this situation very hard to deal with. Don't judge until you have walked a mile....
I would love to have my old courage back.

travelsafar Mon 17-May-21 16:06:42

in future park across your own drive then no one else can!!!

M0nica Mon 17-May-21 16:07:00

Ladyleftfieldlover You are assuming that the owner of the car is a reasonable nice person who will apologise and not do it again.

But if he is parking across her dropped kerb drive. It is clear it is a drive, that anything parked across it will stop the house owner accessing their home by car. It follows that anyone parking like that is someone who does not give a tinker's cuss about other people and their convenience.

I would say that anyone knocking on this gentleman's door asking him to move his car and please do not park there again can have reasonable fears that the response will not friendly and could be abusive and could trigger a feud between that household and you, which would be very unpleasant.

I agree, I would just knock on the door and see if a pleasant approach would work - and deal robustly with the gentleman if it gets nasty, but not everybody can do that, especially a woman on her own.