How to stop this guy from parking across our drive

M0nica

Ladyleftfieldlover You are assuming that the owner of the car is a reasonable nice person who will apologise and not do it again.

But if he is parking across her dropped kerb drive. It is clear it is a drive, that anything parked across it will stop the house owner accessing their home by car. It follows that anyone parking like that is someone who does not give a tinker's cuss about other people and their convenience.

I would say that anyone knocking on this gentleman's door asking him to move his car and please do not park there again can have reasonable fears that the response will not friendly and could be abusive and could trigger a feud between that household and you, which would be very unpleasant.

I agree, I would just knock on the door and see if a pleasant approach would work - and deal robustly with the gentleman if it gets nasty, but not everybody can do that, especially a woman on her own.

She’s not on her own! She has a husband.

The OP has a husband!

Ladyleftfieldlover

The OP has a husband!

It still doesn't make your original comment any less unkind.

I would use faux naivety and say with a smile:
“You probably didn’t realise, but you accidentally parked over our access, and we need to get to the hospital / doctors.

Or,

OI! Shift your car

Depending on your mood at the time.

No sign of the OP? I do hope that she is OK.

The OP has spoken before about her anxiety. This could be another sign of that.
She is a young woman ( 28 I think)
From what I’ve seen her post she needs help with this condition.

The op is 15 may and she responded further along on same same day. now the thread is on day 3 mainly saying same thing and chewing over the poster, doesn't mean a poster has to keep responding.

Good morning everyone. Sorry I haven't updated been quite busy decorating the house! So he had moved by the time I told myself to get out there and tell him to move it himself.. And knock on wood he has not parked there since so I'm hoping that it does not happen again. Or course if it does then I'm geared up and ready to knock on the door. Thank you all, I know I came across ridiculous and immature but I just absolutely hate confrontation. I'm a very private and introverted person. I'm even worried about putting fencing around my garden (not high ones) in case the neighbours find it offensive! I need to get a grip on myself x

MerylStreep

You mentioned in one of your other posts that you drive to work. How has this worked ?

Not as bad as I thought actually. Now that I am doing less days it isn't so bad now.

I wonder if he has gotten used to parking there while the house was empty? Just ask him to move if it happens again and drive around the block. Do this every single time if needs be! Be super nice, but persistent.

If it keeps happening put a no parking sign somewhere where people can see it
Some write
Polite Notice
No Parking
and people think Polite actually says Police!

Actually we always have a laugh at the ‘polite notice’ thing. Nobody thinks it is the police

Yes the polite notice thing has run its course I hope. People used to put it on all kinds of signs where they just wanted something but had no entitlement to it whatsoever. Really cheeky.

Not talking about the op who is absolutely entitled to be able to exit her driveway.

I have noticed that some householders who have dropped kerbs have white lines outside their premises which are presumably intended to prevent parking. I don't know the criteria for getting a white line, but it would be worthwhile the OP asking about this.

Great that the car is gone! Hopefully, that will be the end of it.

If not, I'd suggest taking your husband or someone else along with you to knock on his door. I share your concern and would trust your intuition. Parking across someone's driveway seems a possibly strange and anti-social thing to do in the first place (depending on the details), which is a cause for caution.

when it has happened here, i tend to put a notice on their windscreen, please do not park across drive.
i did this even when not using the drive, because otherwise th habit may set in. people take liberties, and then it's hard to reclaim one's rights.
one day i saw a very polite person not daring to slightly overlap by 6", about to drive away to find a farther spot.
because they had been so considerate, and were older, and had to take their dog to the park, i went out and said it's ok, you can park there, i;m not using it today.
in fact any time you are stuck, unless there is a car on our drive, you can park across.
this was because i knew they were decent trustworthy people.

Nip over and ask nicely and explain why. If he gets funny report to police.

Hi There,
Appreciate your reticence.
There's no need to change your clothing, a simple knock and ask the question/make your request, and see what you're dealing with.
Then decide what action you may or may not have to take
Good luck and let us all know how you get on.

Maybe you should park on the dropped pavement entrance to your drive and not drive into your driveway for now so he can see its not for him.

Park "a little" where he does, while remaining in your driveway.

There is another scenario to consider. When we first moved to our old house the neighbours actually used to park on our drive! I put my big girl pants on and went to see them. It transpired that they had an arrangement with the previous owner to park on the drive whilst the house was being sold so it didn’t look empty. They had seen us milling about but thought we were just decorating and hadn’t realised we had actually moved in. Once we explained they were lovely and we went on to have a very pleasant relationship with them for the next seven years.

If you have a dropped kerb he should not be parking there. Knock on his door and politely ask him not to park there. If the previous owner allowed it he does not have a right to continue to do so. You really need to nip in the bud now, as soon as he does it.
I’d advise to do this in broad daylight if possible whilst other people are around. Maybe initially leave a polite/friendly note on his windscreen asking him not to park across your exit. If he ignores it then knock on his door. My guess is that he’ll be expecting this and is probably waiting to see how long he can get away with it, cheeky!

I don’t understand how his size has anything to do with the problem, just knock on the door and politely ask him to move his car as he’s blocking you in,

The sister of some very nice neighbours a couple of doors further up used to do that to me. On the fourth occasion I got my husband‘s car out of the drive (two entrances) and parked it very close to the front of hers, followed by parking mine close to her boot. Then I had a long soak in the bath & ignored the doorbell! It didn’t happen again, dunno why.