Our Niece and her Boyfriend have been talking about getting married and how they see their future together, They are in their 20's and do not live together. They decided they would like to have Children at some time in the future but not straight away. They both need to work at the moment to pay the mortgage. They talked about running the household on top of full time jobs. You he said will do the Woman things like cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing and I will do the Man things like DIY and dealing with the finances. She told him she deals with her own finances now and has no intention of handing them over to him. He was apparently asking her to hand over her salary to him and he would give her housekeeping and personal money! When they can afford it he wants her to be a stay at home housewife whilst she wants to continue working. Not exactly a marriage made in Heaven.
The outcome is he is no longer her boyfriend and she will not be marrying him and giving up her independence. I have to say her Parents and the rest of the family were quite shocked that a man would have these expectations of a woman in the 21st century. As she told him neither her parents or grandparents had marriages like this and she certainly was not going to either. Are we going back to the 1940's/50's and is this the way a modern marriage should be?
