Who is your idea of an Alpha Male?

Personally, “typical” alpha male characteristics in a prospective mate would ring warning bells for me, and in retrospect always has done.

Witzend Someone very well endowed with testosterone, probably successful, probably fairly ruthless, often seen as a very good catch - but highly unlikely to remain faithful.
Going back to the OP, maybe you have just described Boris!! ?

I've just googled it too PinkCakes" and an alpha male is *not the man for me. I agree that someone like Gordon Ramsay would fit the bill.

I Gooled it:

the dominant male animal in a particular group.
"two of them trotted over to greet the alpha male, a black wolf with a greying muzzle"
a man tending to assume a dominant or domineering role in social or professional situations.
"two alpha males constantly competing to be the best"

I'd say someone like Gordon Ramsay

Someone very well endowed with testosterone, probably successful, probably fairly ruthless, often seen as a very good catch - but highly unlikely to remain faithful.

For husband material give me a Beta male any day, or a Beta Plus - a Proper Bloke, but without the nasty bits.
Someone like dh would fit the bill!

I wouldn't have said any in the original post were alpha males

I tend to think of them as arrogant, self serving and pretty narcissistic and I have no idea why.

Isn't this idea outdated anyway?

Chestnut

I agree with strong, successful and confident but an alpha male doesn't necessarily need to be good looking, nor does he need to show a caring side, that is just a good quality to have.

What about Brian Blessed? He regularly used to beat his chest and dominate everyone! ?

An alpha male is a strong leader that others will either obey or respectfully listen to and defer to.
As Chestnut says, looks aren’t important and nor is a caring side ( in fact the caring side wouldn’t fit in with an alpha male.)

So, anyone in a really top position in society/ business/ sport would fit this term, otherwise they wouldn’t be in that position.
Alpha male, top dog or whatever you want to call it.
It’s not an insult or really a compliment either, although many do admire them.

Justin Timberlake.

Interesting that to some people it seems to be a compliment. To me to call someone an alpha male is an insult.

Oh, I always thought Alpha Male meant someone who always has to be the leader of the pack. Competitive, dominant, with his herd.
I’ll have to look it up now.

Here's a few more alpha males:
Charlton Heston
John Wayne
Robert Shaw
Yul Brynner
They are all from the past. Maybe the alpha male is a dying breed because women have castrated them over the last 20 years!

My two sons. They are all I ever hoped they would be: kind, generous, good dads and wonderful sons. Contented with their lot in life.

I agree with strong, successful and confident but an alpha male doesn't necessarily need to be good looking, nor does he need to show a caring side, that is just a good quality to have.

What about Brian Blessed? He regularly used to beat his chest and dominate everyone! ?

Putin

To me it means a male I wouldn’t like.

Can only think of gorillas beating their chests when I hear this expression referring to men.

I think the concept of an alpha Male is meaningless, it means so many different things to different people.

My husband.