Hurtful comment, never forgotten

MayBee70

Crikey. I’d actually forgotten as well the first time my husband (ex) saw my legs. He was camping in a field where I was living in a caravan at the time. He told me that he’d told his friend he quite fancied me but then saw me walking across the field from the showers wearing a short’ish dressing gown and they both turned to each other and went ‘yuk’.

How horrible. Firstly, why on earth would he say that to a friend, then why would he tell you he'd said it. I think you're well out of that one! Sorry...

i have a squint in my eye, it has been there all my life, spent years wearing an eye patch ....looked like a big piece of elastopast, i have had to wear glasses since i was 3, the day i started school i was called squinty, it went on all through primary and secondary school, even at the age of 58 people look at me and are not sure i am talking to them, young kids ask what is wrong with my eye and i just say with a smile on my face.....it is there to balance me up, if i lost the sight in my right eye i would be registered blind as i can't see very much with it. you might feel your feet are ugly, but there is probably not a single GN that has gone through life without someone saying something nasty at sometime or other. find out what are the best shoes or trainers that are comfortable and do something about the bunion.

A very snooty girl at school was at a party when a boy who had heard about me from friends asked her what I was like.She told him I was quiet and foxy which was NOT a compliment in those days. She was nothing to write home about herself and it's only in later years that I realised I was very attractive.

yes = eyes

An old boyfriend told me (over 50 years ago) that I had 'beautiful eyes, a beautiful mouth, but a funny little chin"! As I had never thought of my yes or mouth as particularly beautiful I was chuffed to bits and always remembered this comment. However, as the decades have passed, I've started to look very closely at my chin! Hmm
Why on earth didn't I reply that he had lovely eyes, very nice hair but rather strange little legs...?

Good grief, there are some horrible people about. I remember an acquaintance of ours who used to comment on other people’s appearance all the time. One day his wife snapped and told him it was a b….y good job he was such an oil painting himself, wasn’t it? Shut him up for a while!

OMG Kittye and Maybee70,i can`t tell you how i am feeling,so sorry you had the same vile comments.
I am actually very emotional at the moment.
So sorry you have both had the same as i had.
Why are people/men in our case so horrible ?.
It has changed our lives forever,that is sad,but in all honesty,i can`t change regardless of what others say.
i will cover from head to toe for the rest of my life because of their comments.
Sending genuine love to you both.

When I was young I was very good friends with a boy from school, friends only.
One night, a bit worse for wear, he said he had always fancied me, trouble was I had a fat ass !
I was constantly trying to catch my reflection in mirrors after that!

Thanks for all your posts, yes I forgot I have a toe that crosses over on my left foot,the toe next to the big toe crosses over and it has before pushed the nail right down on the big toe so now l have to wear toe separators!!Also I don’t wear dresses or skirts, the last time I wore a dress was at my daughters wedding in France about six years ago and that was a long grey silk affair and it’s still in the wardrobe and not worn since, I tend to live in jeans and trousers So tend to wear trainers with the jeans but closed in mules with my trousers…..I also HAD a big nose and l can’t even bring myself to repeat some of the comments l had over the years and it really did affect me, could’ve been part of the reason I turned to alcohol at a very young age, and before anybody jumps in on me and says “you should be grateful for what the good lord gave you”I would say walk a mile in those shoes of a teenage girl who was really really shy anyway. Actually it’s upsetting me even writing this which is ridiculous..(l saved up and had rhinoplasty a few years ago and the difference to my confidence was amazing, Best money I’ve ever spent and only wish I had had the money to do it in my 20s rather than in my 50s)

Yep Redhead56 the demon drink eh! Never fails does it

Calistemon Skechers now do arch support versions ...any good for you?

Being taught by nuns it was a daily barrage of insults and criticism!
Sadly it wasn’t any better at home.
I’m more comfortable with criticism than compliments.

I was an organiser for school fundraising nights arranging everything including the food. I was talking to a lady who asked me a few questions. An acquaintance of ours turned to the lady and said "the lights are on but there is know one at home" I was mortified why she would say that. I gave her a wide berth after that it was company I didn't want. It turned out she was jealous of me and it was an expression she used a lot when drunk.

Crikey. I’d actually forgotten as well the first time my husband (ex) saw my legs. He was camping in a field where I was living in a caravan at the time. He told me that he’d told his friend he quite fancied me but then saw me walking across the field from the showers wearing a short’ish dressing gown and they both turned to each other and went ‘yuk’.

timetogo2016

I was told when i was around 11/12 years old i have footballers legs,from that day to this i wear all types of trousers and maxi dresses.
It really did hurt me even 50 years later.
I brought my boys up to think before you say anything that can hurt someone.

I was told that I had ‘good strong walking legs’ when I was 17. It was an elderly chap I walked past on my way home from the beach ( I lived miles and miles from the beach back then). Maybe he meant it as a compliment.? It didn’t seem like one at the time. I think someone else once described my legs as tree trunks as well. I’ve never worn shorts since schooldays. As I got older I’ve tried to make a point of complimenting people when I can ( but only if I really mean it). It can brighten someone’s day, week,life….

Two hurtful comments, not about me but concerning my pets. We had a cat that used to get constipated. Occasionally he would have to be cleared out under at the vets who advised us that he should have part of his colon removed because too many anesthetics could kill him. So we did. At first there were a couple of explosive incidents and this friend told me I should have him put down. This was a friend who would leave her own cat alone in her house without arranging for it to be fed when she went on holiday.

The second was when my OH was in France and I was in England. It was my birthday and I had to have one of dogs put to sleep. When my OH met up with her he told her about my dog and she just laughed.

I've never forgotten those incidents and no longer regarded her the same way.

My brother commented in a not-complimentary way about my legs when I was a teenager and I’ve been self-conscious of them ever since. Ridiculous, really, but cuts can be deep and leave scars.

timetogo2016 I’m the same about my legs. Some boy made a remark about my skinny legs ( as they were then ) 60 years ago and the remark stayed with me all this time ☹️

When I was a teenager I was really quite slim and had all the comments like don't walk over a drain and in December one year I was told I needed fattening up for Christmas.

After I was told I was hopeless at dancing I jigged around self-consciously for years and hated going to places where dancing was expected. I finally decided I would completely give up trying and feel much better sitting at a table by the dance floor, happily resisting any attempt to get me on it.

I remember holding my friends Mum's hand on the way home from school and she said 'god your hands are dry, you have such old lady hands' and since then I have always thought my hands were horrible! strange isn't it

I've just taken a look at Skechers sandals and unfortunately they would be of no use to me with my dropped arches as they are open on the inner side.
I do wear Skechers trainers, they're very good..

I'm not sure if the sandals would suit you, Shinamae but they might.

I wore glasses as a child ( 11+ ) no one said they didn’t suit me but they would ask to try them on then go “gosh can’t see a thing’ in an incredulous voice and pretend to do a sleep walk
I saw my self as very ugly and was very shy and lacking in confidence and very self conscious I look back on photos now and see I was actually quite a pretty child glasses or no glasses I have worn contacts since I was 30 as soon as they became within my grasp to buy to be honest
Yes it never leaves you does it ?

I was told when i was around 11/12 years old i have footballers legs,from that day to this i wear all types of trousers and maxi dresses.
It really did hurt me even 50 years later.
I brought my boys up to think before you say anything that can hurt someone.

PS Agree about Skechers Shysal