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Doodle Wed 11-Aug-21 15:55:20

I read in the news paper this morning that the smiley face emoji can be seen as patronising or passive aggressive by teenagers and people in their twenties.
Older people use the emojis for what they appear to show while the younger generation use it sarcastically.
It also seems that the ? emoji is used by those over 30 while it has been replaced for the younger generation by the skull and crossbones ☠️ Meaning, I’m laughing so hard I’m dying.
Using full stops in messages is seen as abrupt or passive aggressive too.
As a great user of ……….… and smiley faces, I wish to apologise now to all I may have offended ? …….oops done it again ?

welbeck Thu 12-Aug-21 15:48:49

can't see the point ! excuse pun, of using a full stop at the end of a text message.
but didn't know it might be considered aggressive.
just seem waste of time to me. serves no purpose. takes longer.

Lillian40 Thu 12-Aug-21 15:46:23

Why try to copy young people, its there thing ,and will keep changing as its just all fun to them. I just act as an adult, text my message and sign of lovingly to family or politely to anyone else. Why does everyone over 40 think they have got to keep up with teenagers. When we were teenagers our parents didn't behave this way, they accepted we were young and did our own trends and they acted as adults.

welbeck Thu 12-Aug-21 15:46:08

Jaxjacky

Just don’t send an aubergine emoji..

thank you for the validation.
my neighbour wouldn't believe me when i warned her about this. she asked why, what did it mean.
so i told her. then she made as if i'd made it up.
i was trying to help. why bother. routinely dismissed, undermined.

Musicgirl Thu 12-Aug-21 15:43:09

Oh, and I will continue to use punctuation correctly.

Musicgirl Thu 12-Aug-21 15:42:31

Goodness, I am in my mid fifties and I didn’t know any of this. I thought l was getting quite “with it” too.

biglouis Thu 12-Aug-21 15:32:49

Always thought emojis a bit childish myself. Dont often use them.

Mapleleaf Thu 12-Aug-21 15:27:34

I wonder when, and by whom, these things are decided? ??
I shall continue in my own sweet way - I certainly don't consider myself to be passive aggressive, but who knows, maybe, inadvertently, I am. Ah well, never mind.

As for phoning being rude, how ridiculous that is.

I can't help using punctuation, either - it's the way I was taught at school. ??

Elegran Thu 12-Aug-21 15:06:31

Kim19 The tall oblong symbols are your browser or your app saying to you, "There should be an emoji here, but I don't know how to display that one."

Chestnut Thu 12-Aug-21 14:58:15

Yes, if you phone someone they are expected to stop what they are doing to attend to your phone call.
I have been aware of this and being a polite person I always ask friends whether they're okay to talk or in the middle of something. With a friend it's likely to be fairly long and chatty so I'm quite happy to postpone the call.

Jaxjacky Thu 12-Aug-21 14:55:21

Just don’t send an aubergine emoji..

Riggie Thu 12-Aug-21 14:48:34

but if you don’t use full stops your sentences will run into each other and collide, or do they still use a capital letter to start a new sentence (that isn’t there!?)

Lol (grin). There's a thread on mumsnet about petty revenge. And someone says she annoys her dd by using a full stop at the end of a text message!
Heck I still put two spaces after my full stops as well. Apparently one is now considered appropriate. Can't do it though.

grannyscott Thu 12-Aug-21 14:47:38

These youngsters have too much time on their hands. Maybe they need to get out and do some volunteer work to see what the real world is like-not just their “screen world”

Mrsgranny Thu 12-Aug-21 14:35:14

I really can’t believe this! Grammar and punctuation is wrong, we’re using the wrong emoji? Hold on there just a minute, who has decided this? Grammar and punctuation has been taught and correctly used for generations and now because the youth decide a full stop is passive aggressive we are being told we’re the ones who’ve got it wrong? Oh no I don’t think so. Perhaps it’s the youth that need re-educating.

Lillie Thu 12-Aug-21 14:28:04

great to read this thread
i post from a computer where the caps button is jammed as well as some punctuation buttons
im on trend

AGAA4 Thu 12-Aug-21 14:27:32

: ! ; . ? Apologies for being rude!! I may phone you now.

Keeper1 Thu 12-Aug-21 14:07:39

It would seem that some people are determined to take offence no matter what. Snowflakes or what? Is the question mark to passive aggressive? oh I used it again (notice I didn't use a full stop) oh no now I have used a bracket who knows what that means help

Elless Thu 12-Aug-21 14:07:37

This is a good thread gringrin I'm still getting used to when my son says 'pass me your tablet' and I give him my medication winkgrin - I need a magnifying glass to see the emojis anyway grin

Kim19 Thu 12-Aug-21 14:04:46

Ooops, since you've just used it, please tell me what that tall oblong means?

Growing0ldDisgracefully Thu 12-Aug-21 13:54:51

Interesting the comments on previous office training. At my secretarial course in the 70's, I was told that the phone took precedence, as the person you were dealing with personally could see why they were being delayed, whereas the person on the phone wouldn't be able to see why they were being keep waiting!
I was taught to always put commas at the end of each line when addressing an envelope and the address in letters, yet when I started work, was criticised for doing that, with "all those commas littering up the page".
I don't think I've ever managed to keep up, so any emoji offences I've committed can just join the list of things I'm always behind with!

Yammy Thu 12-Aug-21 13:46:58

Well, I'm always conscious of poor grammar and spacing when typing, it looks as though I can stop bothering.
I'm still going to use the phone as well, especially when you e.mail someone 4 times and get no reply. I must admit we have very close relations who never answer their landline and some who don't have one anymore.
Maybe what I considered bad mannered was just being "Young" and what will the young consider to be the "IN" thing next using an outmoded expression.
Do we really have to follow their lead, no we can still continue being well-mannered oldies and stop trying to demystify what they decree this week. Leave it to them.

Dillonsgranma Thu 12-Aug-21 13:31:55

?

Oopsadaisy1 Thu 12-Aug-21 13:23:44

Oh dear!

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25Avalon Thu 12-Aug-21 13:08:49

Youngsters always want to have a different ‘language’ than previous generations so it’s quite normal IMO. In my days we used words like trendy and groovy as our own speak.

Happysexagenarian Thu 12-Aug-21 12:55:14

Ah, that might explain why I received an email recently with no punctuation in it! It was from a business and difficult to make sense of as the phrasing could be misconstrued. My first thought was this persons grammar is appalling, how did they ever get their job.

Whatever young people think I for one shall continue to use full stops and every other form of punctuation, and emojis! smile

Luckylegs Thu 12-Aug-21 12:54:45

I cannot be bothered looking through those emojis, let alone learning what they are. I shall continue in blessed ignorance.