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Doodle Wed 11-Aug-21 15:55:20

I read in the news paper this morning that the smiley face emoji can be seen as patronising or passive aggressive by teenagers and people in their twenties.
Older people use the emojis for what they appear to show while the younger generation use it sarcastically.
It also seems that the ? emoji is used by those over 30 while it has been replaced for the younger generation by the skull and crossbones ☠️ Meaning, I’m laughing so hard I’m dying.
Using full stops in messages is seen as abrupt or passive aggressive too.
As a great user of ……….… and smiley faces, I wish to apologise now to all I may have offended ? …….oops done it again ?

lemongrove Wed 11-Aug-21 15:59:13

Me too! ???

crazyH Wed 11-Aug-21 16:01:51

Me too ???

Esspee Wed 11-Aug-21 16:13:26

Oh dear, just as we oldies are getting used to the damn things we find out we're doing it wrong.
Better not tell my brother. It took me years to get him to stop signing off with LOL. He thought it was short for Lots of Love. grin (not a PA grin)

DerbyshireLass Wed 11-Aug-21 16:14:05

??‍♀️

?

???

?

?

❤️

Squiffy Wed 11-Aug-21 16:16:28

… but if you don’t use full stops your sentences will run into each other and collide, or do they still use a capital letter to start a new sentence (that isn’t there!?)

I’m probably committing all sorts of crimes for using ( ) and ! ? ?

Ailidh Wed 11-Aug-21 16:22:07

I didn't realize my full stops and other grammatical observances implied aggression. In my case it simply means that a large part of my primary education was undertaken in Scotland where, some sixty years ago, grammar was taught rigorously.

Petera Wed 11-Aug-21 16:25:57

Ailidh

I didn't realize my full stops and other grammatical observances implied aggression. In my case it simply means that a large part of my primary education was undertaken in Scotland where, some sixty years ago, grammar was taught rigorously.

My getting-on-for-middle-aged daughter tells me that 'young' people also consider phoning someone to be rude.

Namsnanny Wed 11-Aug-21 16:29:04

Phoning someone rude?
Sid she explain how, or why Petera?

Sara1954 Wed 11-Aug-21 16:30:40

Oh God, we need a manual!
Just as I thought I was cool?

Petera Wed 11-Aug-21 16:33:30

Namsnanny

Phoning someone rude?
Sid she explain how, or why Petera?

Yes, if you phone someone they are expected to stop what they are doing to attend to your phone call. If you send a message however it can be responded to at leisure. At least that's what she said.

Polarbear2 Wed 11-Aug-21 16:37:55

I think they make things up just to upset us ?. We shouldn’t care what they think. ?

welbeck Wed 11-Aug-21 16:45:30

the phoning thing makes sense.
i was trying to warn someone about being careful with emojis, having heard a comic incident with a mix-up in a shopping list and an aubergine emoji.
anyway, she refused to believe me and said she didn't know why i made up these things.
is that a form of gaslighting. feels like it. she's done it before.

Callistemon Wed 11-Aug-21 17:20:58

Petera

Ailidh

I didn't realize my full stops and other grammatical observances implied aggression. In my case it simply means that a large part of my primary education was undertaken in Scotland where, some sixty years ago, grammar was taught rigorously.

My getting-on-for-middle-aged daughter tells me that 'young' people also consider phoning someone to be rude.

Oh!

No-one told my DC they were being rude!

I suppose!! are a real no-on, full stop

???

Callistemon Wed 11-Aug-21 17:21:46

And autocorrect makes a nonsense of everything anyway

A real no-no

Doodle Wed 11-Aug-21 17:26:20

I must confess if I received a skull and crossbones ☠️ emoji from someone I would think they were trying to say my days were numbered rather than they were laughing.

B9exchange Wed 11-Aug-21 17:30:17

I refuse to give up good grammar, just as I wouldn't text things like gr8. I hope my friends and family would know that I am not the passive aggressive type! And DS phones me about once a week for a chat. GDs have been known to do so too. If someone is going to take offence at a full stop or a smiley face, then I suspect they are too touchy to be on my radar! grin

SueDonim Wed 11-Aug-21 17:30:45

I’ve asked my 25yo dd about this, as I’ve read the claim before. She says it’s rubbish and she and her friends still love emojis and splatter them everywhere. She’s also v hot on spelling and punctuation, although her job means that that is an important skill for her to have.

Now, what emoji shall I sign off with? This, I think ———> ?

BlueBelle Wed 11-Aug-21 17:35:22

Yes but 25 is positively old SueDonim ? whoops a smiley
….. well as you can see I like a little ……now and then

SueDonim Wed 11-Aug-21 17:37:11

To be fair, she does sometimes complain about the ‘yoof’ of today, Bluebell. grin

Callistemon Wed 11-Aug-21 17:39:49

SueDonim

To be fair, she does sometimes complain about the ‘yoof’ of today, Bluebell. grin

I heard my DD doing that when she was about 24, SueDonim ?

Now she's getting towards 40 (oh dear, hope she's not reading this ?)

midgey Wed 11-Aug-21 17:47:05

This thread has made me laugh out loud! There is absolutely no hope for me as I don’t know what the emojis even mean…???

Callistemon Wed 11-Aug-21 17:49:56

I've never understood what your first one means, midgey ?

ixion Wed 11-Aug-21 17:58:27

And is this one ?
a grimace or a big grin, please?
(Being unsure, I have always avoided it!)

B9exchange Wed 11-Aug-21 18:00:44

Just in case you need a little help! grin emojipedia.org/people/