Where did my confidence go?

Not anxieties parcularly but a definite fragility which was once total confidence and is simply just a wee bit out of practice. I'm viewing a forthcoming trip with a small degree of trepidation whereas it would have been total joy pre Covid. You are definitely not alone.

Only to be expected Bluebelle! Exciting though, where are you going ?!

Yes Kim fragility is a good word to describe how I feel if I venture anywhere different now.

Like you, have hardly been out of my home area for ages. Have had to take DH to hospital 25 miles away, feels nerve wracking. Have to keep reminding myself “You can do this, stop being silly.”

Completely understand how you feel. TBH, not bothered if I never venture far again, which is daft I know.

Same here. Everything seems like a mountain to climb.

Hope you have a wonderful trip and a happy destination x

I'd feel nervous too, totally understandable, it has been a very unusual 2 years. We're all going to have to overcome these fears the first time we break out from our cage.

You seem a strong capable woman Bluebelle, and I'm sure after the initial butterflies, you'll sail through. Sorry, fly through. Hope it goes well and you enjoy the freedom.

I feel stressed a lot lately. Car gets Mot nervous wreck( it passed) going to spec savers today feel nervous. Took some Kalms been taking them a lot lately. Dont know why.

I know exactly how you feel as I feel this way too. I’ve always been out on day trips, overnight stays both alone and with friends. I renewed my rail card in May intending to get back to normal but I just haven’t got the confidence. The rail company had a flash sale last week of tickets for £1 each way. I’ve booked a couple but as they are so cheap if I don’t feel up to it I won’t go. Yes Bluebelle where had our confidence gone indeed. Hope your trip goes well today.

Yep I know exactly what you mean.

I have had to push myself these school holidays to drive GS’s to places that I hadn’t been to, before Covid I wouldn’t have thought anything of jumping in the car with sat-nav and going far-a-field
I think confident me is still struggling to come out to play…

Good Luck BlueBelle

Hope you enjoy your trip Bluebelle. I know just how you feel.
I find myself feeling apprehensive about so many things these days that would not have bothered me one jot before.
Determined to push myself to carry on with them and hope a feeling of confidence returns as I go along.

Oh BlueBelle, I totally understand what you mean! I used to think nothing of travelling on my car, whether that was by car, train or plane. Now, apart from going out to do essential shopping, I've not been out since the pandemic began, and it's only now that I'm starting to realise the toll this has taken on my mental health and my confidence. I see people going out shopping and socialising as if nothing has ever happened and wonder how they can do it. I hope your journey goes well and you're not too anxious to enjoy your trip.

With you on that BlueBelle - it’s entirely natural and I hope you can “feel the fear and do it anyway” . It will be fine, but the combination of being locked down and more isolated, plus (alas) being a couple of years older, will have undermined many people’s confidence.
Looking forward to hearing how it was all worth while when you are back!

This virus has had many more effects than just the illness itself and I think it spans all age groups. I haven’t been particularly apprehensive but I have noticed a relative loose her confidence and become more forgetful. She tells me it’s not the fear of Covid she is 89 but quite fit and still able to drive locally.
Time has changed my perception and of course the vaccination program

going to spec savers today feel nervous

I did that recently ^*Rosie*. The test wasn’t an ordeal but trying on glasses was. As I said elsewhere, any you try on now have to be put in a tray rather than put back for Covid reasons but it does have the effect of restricting freedom to choose easily.

I always feel like this even before covid. I feel I won't visit my daughter next time as the trip 2 years ago was a nightmare with the crowds.
When she was here last week I decided not to go out with them on their day trips and I missed a couple of family get togethers and meals.I felt relieved to have the house to myself again.

I am also reluctant to stray further than my very immediate area and feel nervous even thinking about going even a little further. Definitely am out of my comfort zone but when I do pluck up courage and succeed in small things I wonder why I worried.
Enjoy or endure your trip today and when you have done it, you will be happy and next time won’t be so bad,

I've found it very tempting to not go far, outside my comfort zone now. It's scary how easy it would be to just accept this new restricted life for evermore. But I did drive to London for a family reunion, I was nervous before hand. Once I'd done it I was fine. And I've had to go into office one day a week, done it twice now. Hated the thought, but the reality was ok.

Some days I feel the same Bluebelle. To be honest I was already losing confidence before covid. When I'm wavering I tell myself I only need to go as far as the end of the road, I can turn back if I want to. I realise you can't do that exactly as you are committed to a whole trip, but maybe only thinking about each stage at a time might help.

Wherever you are off to, I hope you have a lovely time. Beating your nervousness will give you a bit a buzz too.

Have a lovely trip Bluebelle.
What`s the betting as soon as you get back you will feel much happier.

I mentioned on another thread I went on my first train for nearly two years. It felt like a nightmare but it’s not unusual as we have all lead a sheltered life for ages. You will be fine enjoy your trip.

Bluebelle Last week I drove a two hour distance, I was a bit nervous beforehand and so were my ACs. This was me, only two summers ago I drove from Versailles up and round Scotland. My trip went fine, worrying about nothing and I am sure yours will. As they say it’s like riding a bike, though I would like to try that as roads are too busy. Where are you going to? Take care.

I'm currently waiting for a train to meet my DD in a nearby city and I feel like an alien !And next week I have a much longer train journey with 3 changes to go and stay with a friend. I've been feeling ridiculous for feeling nervous so you have my sympathy. I can't believe I used to fly alone and drive abroad without a care in the world. I think the last weird year plus has battered a lot of us confidence wise.Jope it all goes well.