Did you ever see your mum cry other than at the death of someone.

Only a handful of times, and on those occasions (this will sound horrible) it didn't come across as genuine emotion. It was very forced and happened when mum wanted someone to feel bad about something or feel sorry for her. She would actually say afterwards that she hoped they felt really bad for making her feel like crying. It was quite odd to witness and we would be walking on eggshells for days afterwards, not wanting a repeat performance. Then again she never voluntarily said "I love you" either, so obviously she had difficulty with emotions, at least expressing them.

Once, at her mother's funeral. (I wasn't at her father's - too young.) Otherwise, whilst I'm sure she must have cried occasionally, I never saw it, and I think she and my father had a good marriage.

Once. 4 weeks after my Father died the floodgates opened, but the worst thing (for me) was that she refused a hug, didn't want me anywhere near her, and told me I couldn't make up for my teenage angst by pandering to her now! I was gobsmacked and hurt, although, even then, I realised she was probably talking through grief. I never saw her cry again.

Until I was 12 I never saw my mum cry, though I now suspect she did so in private at times.

When I was 12, Grandpa died (Daddy's father) and I saw my mum crying at the news of his death, so she, my sister and I cried together then dried our tears and that was that. If my parents grieved again they did so after we children were in bed.

Same thing when my maternal grandmother died the following year, and grannie the year after that.

If Daddy cried at all, he did so in private, although he did have tears in his eyes at my mother's funeral - but by then his "children" were middle-aged women, which probably meant he did not feel he had to be the strong one.

Neen I cannot remember my Mum crying except when my Father died. I though am embarrassed to say I too am an emotional wreck, crying at everything sad or happy or sentimental. Cannot find a way to stop it wish I could its embarrasing.

My mum cried quite a few times. I lost my cousin at 6 months
My mum was shocked he died so suddenly . My brother joined the army for for 9years he was her favourite she was inconsolable. She suffered with arthritis so much pain some times she just couldn’t cope and broke down. She had a hard life.

Never saw her cry. I don't think she did emotion.

My mother cried so rarely I can remember each time vividly. I remember her reading the account of the Moors murders with her tears spilling onto the newspaper. For the generation of women who saw children killed in the Blitz the idea that anyone would choose to torture and kill a child was incomprehensible

I vividly remember coming home from school when I was 6 to find my mum weeping - it was the day of the Aberfan disaster. Apart from that seldom - significant bereavements, loss of beloved pets, the day we reconciled after a two year rift in our relationship and a couple of occasions towards the end of her life when she was quite frail and confused due to vascular dementia.

No, I never did, even when my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and died within 6 weeks of diagnosis.
Different generation, been through the war, stoical, stiff upper lip and all that - sad

I never saw my mum cry until I told her I was pregnant. I was engaged at the time but in 1968 it was frowned upon. Being pregnant before you were married. I married and had my son 7 months later and he was the light of her life and was until the day she died.

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I can remember hearing my mum crying in her bedroom after her having an argument with my dad. It probably happened more than once - she commented when one of my friends split up from her husband , that she , at times would have liked to have done the same but she had nowhere to go, so she stayed.
My parents were married for 59 years before my mum passed away unexpectedly after a stroke.
Seeing my dad cry after that and during the funeral was absolutely heartbreaking.

No. The only emotion she seemed to have was anger or laughing at other people's misfortune. I know it's not nice but it is the truth. My mother was very narcissistic and aggressive. We are no longer in contact

Yes. It broke my heart. I came home from work and she was sitting in the kitchen. With a letter in front of her. Her mum had died a few weeks before. And the letter was from her brother. ( sent to another brother)The brother forwarded it. Thought my mum should see it. saying lots of nasty thing about my mum and that she only looked after my nan(her mum) for the last year of nans life. For all the money she made from her mum. None of it true. My mum gave up work to care for her. Her mum lived with us for that time. Whilst this brother who wrote the letter rarely came to see his mum. I hasten to add after the funeral we didn't see him again

Gosh may7! I was thinking mine never cried but you know Kennedy's death was first time saw parents both really cry! We were made to come in from play and we just sat feeling daft! Second and last time dad cried was when our dog Roguey died in 1970 he was nearly 18 and mum and dad's new puppy when they adopted my older sister. I was groomed and raped by a man 10 years older than me but they didn't she'd one year, I was made to leave grammar school and it wa never mentioned. Later in life I think I realised they were just ashamed and embarrassed I'd had to leave the grammar!? Saddos!

#TEAR grrr.....

Your post sums it up for me too. My poor mum. I guess that generation handled fear and sadness differently. This is certainly making me take stock and reflect.

When I was 9 my dad died of cancer, nursed by mum for months. After he died my mum used to cry, I would say to her 'don't cry I'll fetch you a hankie', then I would cry as well. ?

My mum was a terrible worrier, probably because of the war, but I don’t remember her every crying, even when my 22 year old brother was drowned.
I seemed to have inherited her stiff upper lip. I never consciously try not too, but tears never seem to come when there is a crisis, and I have been through quite a few over the years. On the other hand I often have a little weep at a sad film, tv programme, or even a fictional book.
I am seriously weird!

Yes. One occasion I remember was when her brother died; I cried too.

When I was about 8, my dad, who was a busy farmer, had bad lumbago/sciatica. Mum, who always helped out, had to do twice as much. She made a cauldron of tasty soup/stock and left it simmering whilst outside. For some unknown reason, my older sister decided to test the temperature of said soup and stuck a thermometer in! It exploded and all the glass and mercury went into the soup. When Mum came in and saw what had happened, she just sobbed as she threw it away. My sister and I were horrified, we had never seen Mum cry before. She was worn out, anxious about Dad and had so been looking forward to this tasty soup.

We felt so awful, and have never forgotten seeing our stoical, practical mum in tears.

I never saw my mother cry and was quite shocked when my friend told me that my mother had cried at her house when I was 8 years old.
My mother had taken my brother to the GP, thinking he only had something minor, but she was sent to the hospital and he was admitted. On the way home she went to her friend's house (my friend's mother) and cried.

My mother had a quite a miserable marriage being married to my very selfish adulterous father. But the only time I saw her cry was when my eldest sister became pregnant even though she was in a long term relationship. Mum cried for weeks. What will people think she would cry. The shame was immeasurable being a 'good catholic' family. So sad.

My mum cried when she was sad, bereaved or when reading/watching films. She laughed easily and wasn’t scared to show her feelings. That meant we could.
My heart goes out to posters saw their mothers wee- after being battered by husbands. No words to describe the horror of a mother who knew their husband was abusing her daughter and did nothing, didn’t even shed the tears she so easily shed for herself