Male companionship

Esspee
I’m only in my 50’s but if my husband died I’d never have sex again. The thought of having sex with another man makes me feel a bit sick tbh.
Plus, knowing my luck I’d catch HIV on my 1st sexual encounter.
No, I’d be happily single for the rest of my life.

Would your husband have wanted you to live alone for the rest of your life Bluebellwould?

Chardy werent Cilas escorts all gay ???
esspee no no no thanks ?not me

Esspee, I was married for forty years from age of 19. We grew and experimented together with love at the base of everything. He survived 7 years of chemo and horrible treatments that left him physically unable to be romantic but we still tried. It was something wonderful and special between us both, where we knew each other’s wants and desires.
The thought of sex with someone else is like stomping on his bones. It just makes me feel so sick and disloyal. It might sound stupid but I can’t ever do it again.
I hope other people can get over the death of a partner and move on but I’m sadly stuck. I never thought I’d become a virgin aged 59 !

I find it rather sad that so many women on here see a sexual relationship as something to be avoided. Come on! Is nobody looking to be swept off their feet and made love to?

Since being widowed in 2018 my libido knows no bounds, I’ve turned into a rampant old woman. I have no friends male or female due to circumstances so resort to ogling quietly. ?
Having said that, the thought being intimate with anyone but my husband makes me sick. I just couldn’t do it, knocking bits with a strange man yuck.
However, if Jason Mamoa or Jason Statham happened to find themselves in my bed…….?

My best friend was a male colleague I worked with when I was young. He was a lot older than me I left work to have my children. I decided not to go back it was my original intention. We stayed good friends for over thirty years until he died I adored him. Someone here said it's not about whether it's a male or female friend. So true I have other friends but my friend who died was my soul mate.

My best friend of over 40 years is male, we both have heterosexual partners of over 20 years. But we still go out for a drink together, discuss shared interests, sometimes shared history as we both worked for the same company. I have more male friends than female, never a sniff of anything other than being mates.

They are few & far between I find & these days seem to be looking for a carer.
Good luck though.

I have friends both male and female and it is the fact that they are friends that is important not their gender.

I have male friends and still do we treat each other as equals they are like brothers. I have known them most of my life and I would trust them with my life.

This thread made me think if Cilla Black, who, once widowed, had a host of male mates to escort her - Paul O'Grady, Dale Winton, Christopher Biggins.

Absolutely

AllI can say is I wish I could introduce my 60 year old friend to you. You could push her in the right direction

She would love a romantic interlude with a dapper chap of similier age but it's impossible. They just want to discuss her garden and offer her coach trips. No strings of course.

I agree that it's probably easier if you're over 70 or already in a couple. But there are men out there who aren't filled with lusty thoughts as you tend to your dahlias.

Good for you zoejory I had plenty too when I was married once you’re single it all changes maybe not for you but it did for me (as you say perhaps I m totally irresistible ?)

I m certainly not old fashioned and very open for friendship with men I enjoy their company and conversation but it always slides into something more which is not what I m looking for at all

None of my female friends are boring though we all have great fun and talk about everything under the sun and never more than a passing bit of news about grandchildren so I m a lucky lady

I have platonic male friends, but I am wary though, not wanting them to think there is more on offer!

It’s probably easier to have platonic friends if you’re over 70, but in my experience there’s usually a reason a man wants to be friends with a woman, because as you say Zoejory most women are pretty boring.

I’m obviously too nice to them ?

I totally disagree with zoejory suggestion that it’s simple to be platonic when she says it's very easy to be platonic it most certainly is not how ever many guide lines you spell out men naturally do not do platonic

Fine to disagree but in my opinion it certainly is easy to have platonic friends.

I have many

There are some very old fashioned and rather insulting comments on here with regard to men!

I'm glad I don't mix with such insatiable types

Then again, maybe I'm not as irresistible as you ladies who find it impossible to have a good platonic male friend.

Personally I find male friendships a bit oppressive in that they do expect to be number 1 in the allocation of your time.

They get a bit shirty if they suggest meeting up and you say you’re busy with something else. Even if they spend most of the week playing golf or whatever, they do tend to assume you should be available when they have a spare moment?

No idea why my post went in twice at two different places how weird apologies for that

I totally disagree with zoejory suggestion that it’s simple to be platonic when she says it's very easy to be platonic it most certainly is not how ever many guide lines you spell out men naturally do not do platonic
I certainly agree about having a gay friend then you really don’t have the concerns of it slipping over into anything else

I completely understand and think if the male totally gets it, it's lovely. I'm blessed with a Richard,a fine speciman of a gentleman. We may just grab a cuppa or meal and sometimes go see the likes of Courtney Pine on a music night. He's kind, compassionate but open and honest and I love him as one of my friends.
We do not ever ( even after alcohol ) get romantically or intimately involved ) but I value you his male company and opinions . He's not gay and we are not hiding secret wants for one another. Hes Richard and been my friend 20 years now .

CrazyH I totally agree I have never ever found a man who will sit with companionship even when they agree that’s all they want
The last time I gave that one a chance … I was talking to a guy online and we had a lot in common and I made it so clear it was only ever for companionship, he agreed he wanted nothing more himself , so I accepted meeting up and going to a pub quiz Had a really nice evening, an intelligent chap we chatted totally on the same wavelength, all good, I got a taxi home, within half an hour of getting home I was getting texts telling me what a good night he’d had , how we must do it again, what beautiful eyes I d got how he couldn’t wait to see me blah blah blah I told him I d had a great night, I ignored the lovely eyes etc Eight thirty the next morning I started getting mildly sexual texts of how he’d been dreaming about me etc etc
So that was that, good bye companionship. that was the last time of many tries I hung my hat up then

I wish you all the luck in the world grandmajb I m sure they are out there I just didn’t ever find anyone

I joined the U3A it was mostly women and men with their wives. Did enjoy the talks though.

I’m surprised by the negative comments because I’m living proof that’s it’s possible to have male friends without being involved sexually or having expectations of one another.

My friends are all individuals with their own interests. They tend to be creatives, outdoor or scholarly types. Most are straight. All are free spirits and independent thinkers.

I love the wide range of conversations we have and how comfortable we are with one another. Absolutely right, Zoejory.