Facebook Gransnet

My views exactly Callistemon.

Just because someone wants to be your friend on FB doesn't mean you have to say Yes.
I get lots of friend suggestions too, mainly friends of my DC and many I've never heard of.

Just Say No.

#Calliefewmates

…and what about the posts looking for a grandmother substitute for their child/children ???

Alegrias brilliantly put, the people using this site are much much more vulnerable than what they see as the dreaded fb
I am under my own name I only have people that know me or have known me in real life I can pick and choose
I m picky if I start to see a friend posting stuff I don’t agree with I can hide their posts without offending them They need never know I can’t see what they post, that’s my choice. I once had a cousin a chap I liked post some things that were mildly racist I had no second thoughts that I didn’t want to see his posts so I stopped following him, but I haven’t offended him as he doesn’t know I don’t see his posts, saves hurt all round.
I ve never in 12 years had one iota of trouble on fb
I sometimes can’t believe what I read on here in the way of intimate details

There was one mother on MN with an older teenager with very special needs. She posted everything about him. Photos, his name, where they lived.
He himself used to post, talking to all his lovely MN ‘aunties’.
It was utterly bonkers. A safeguarding nightmare

Even more so for Grans who post the most intimate details of their lives, illnesses, bereavements, family feuds. GN is much more open to the world than Facebook.

And with photos, including grandchildren!

Some crazy/naive grans on here - I've never seen pics of children on Mumsnet.

You can delete stuff on Facebook too

Actually you can delete it months after you've posted it and not have to worry about it ever again....

I’ve posted a lot about illness and bereavement, but I wouldn’t touch family feuds with a barge pole. I only say nice things about my family on here as I know that I’m very identifiable

I know Alegrias
I’ve just done a lot of the type and delete stuff.
The bottom line is that I’m odd!

FannyCornforth

In fact, that’s exactly why I don’t do FB. I’ve no interest in creating a false image of myself, and additionally I don’t want to render myself vulnerable by letting people into my private life

There's really a lot of misconceptions about Facebook.

On Facebook, I'm myself, not a made up username. One doesn't have to have any friends at all on Facebook, but the Friends I do have I actually know from real life.

You don't post stuff you don't want your Friends to know. You set your security to exclude people who are not your Friends.

There's no question of letting people into your private life, but I wager I know a lot more about your private life by seeing what you post on here, than if you were on Facebook. Even more so for Grans who post the most intimate details of their lives, illnesses, bereavements, family feuds. GN is much more open to the world than Facebook.

GN is far more public than FB .On FB you can set you account so that only people you choose can see it. Of course if someone chooses to have 10,000 ‘friends’
their posts will be seen by that many. It is not FB that is at fault , but the people who use it.

Ps there's nothing at all private about Granset!

dragonfly46

I am always interested to hear what people who don’t use FB think of it. It may shock you to know that anything you write on this site a d the pictures you post can be read, seen and be reposted anywhere. Any posts I put up on on Facebook are only seen by the people I choose.

I use it but rarely post but I do like to see what friends in far flung places are up to as I can't meet up with them now.

It depends on how you use it and what your privacy settings are.

In fact, that’s exactly why I don’t do FB. I’ve no interest in creating a false image of myself, and additionally I don’t want to render myself vulnerable by letting people into my private life

Too true Alegrias

When I joined GN I realised quite early on that I was going to be spending a lot of time on here, so made a conscious decision to be completely honest, and only speak to people as I would face to face in real life.
I might be naive, but it’s worked for me so far

On FB you see a lot of facades

And on GN, where people return as if by magic pretending to be people they aren't? Or make snide, sneering remarks because they are anonymous? Or gang up on people? Or send nasty PMs? Social media is social media, whether it's Facebook, GN, or anything else.

I love fb and use it everyday but don’t want to be on GN on FB
I only have friends I know on my fb page so mainly see nice posts and nothing to get upset about
I do go on some local groups and get some upstarts on there but I like local information so ignore the cleverclogs

Neen

I don't do face book nor would I.
I honestly think it adds to mental health related issues.

Definitely.
The best advice I have ever had is ‘don’t compare your inside to others’ outside’
On FB you see a lot of facades

I am always interested to hear what people who don’t use FB think of it. It may shock you to know that anything you write on this site a d the pictures you post can be read, seen and be reposted anywhere. Any posts I put up on on Facebook are only seen by the people I choose.

I find it very useful if used with care. I use it mainly in my role as a volunteer for a cat charity. Helps with homing, advertising lost/found cats , asking for volunteers etc.

Also very useful for anything to do with local events, finding out what's happening in my area. Local speakers at the library etc. The important thing is to make sure your security settings are extremely secure.

Neen
GN is a business. It’s not your friends/ family private chat.

Don’t forget the national press.

www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1241271-Gransnet-thread-in-Daily-Mail-on-line-today

Neen

BawBee2 really ?

I don't think it is done at the moment but there is nothing to stop it being done in the future.

BawBee2 really ?

I don't do face book nor would I.
I honestly think it adds to mental health related issues.