Missing school for a holiday

MissAdventure I support you taking DS out of school for just 3 days so he can spend time with his brother.

He has been though such a tough and crap time this will be of huge benefit for him.

Usually people say "family matters more than anything" and this is one of those times.
For his MH now and the bonding the brothers need for their future it does matter that they spend the time together.

He is a bright lad and will soon pick whatever, if anything he missed at school.
I would suggest a F2F talk with the school if you can.

I can't believe that anyone would think that it's wrong, he is a bright boy who will soon catch up. The school should be focusing on his well being, to have lost his mother at such a young age is very sad, he needs to have time with his brother.

3days won’t make a difference and it’s family time interesting enough before pandemic my hus and I were in Corfu it was absolutely okay for a learning support assistant to take her children out of sch one rule for one one for another .My son missed months of school while county education No school work for months it’s an absolute joke

Thank you.

I feel very strongly that you are right to want him to go on this holiday missadventure. It’s a chance to bond with his brother after a very difficult period in his life. Children’s mental health is extremely important and developing close bonds with family after a major bereavement can only be good for him.
As retired teacher, I can see only positives in letting him have the last three days of term off for this family holiday. Missing the odd day of schoolwork is not going to harm his education.
I hope the headteacher sees the sense in this exceptional request on your grandson’s behalf.
I think most schools have a family support worker who should back you up with this. Good luck.

Yes, I have explained the situation (briefly)
It isn't considered exceptional.
I disagree though.
Not that I think it is something to keep harping on about, or that allowances should be made forever more, but for 3 days, considering his attendance, grades, etc, I think it could be allowed.

Have you explained the situation to the school? I, too, am usually a stickler for attendance however - would you / he ensure he takes school work with him and it gets done? I appreciate the school can’t have one rule for one etc

I suppose as a retired teacher I take a slightly different view. I really don’t think the missed learning is the point- I agree that holidays are educational in themselves. I just think that taking holiday days off - whatever the reason- is not a good habit To get into for children’s later working lives. Children can also be pretty upset at being taken out of school when they know that it is not really condoned.

I'm sure they do, however that is for them to work out.
I have to work out what I think is best for me and mine.

123kitty has a good point.

OP,

For you, of course it is justified
Anybody requesting voluntary absences thinks their case is special and justified

Yes, I have considered every single angle.
They do not think the case is exceptional, whilst I do, and I have access to the full facts, and I know how things have been since my daughter died.
They don't.

Have you considered how disruptive this could be for the rest of his class? On his return his teachers will be expected to spend time explaining what he's missed, to enable him to catch up with his lessons. You've asked the school for a holiday pass, explaining the circumstances which has been considered, but refused. If they agree to your request how could they turn down any other pupil?

Could you not approch the board of goveners? they may have more sence

And did you spend all your time with nose in phone moaning about being no signal/sky/tiktok/McDonald's? No.another century's rules are now defunkt and irrelevant.

As I have explained clearly, it isn't me who has organised the holiday, and I won't be going.
He would be going with his brothers' family.

It is not an unreasonable request on the face of it but I think a few years ago they were imposing fines for doing this. Is there a problem waiting for school holiday time?

Well, I certainly have lots of opinions to take on board!
Thanks all.

Well you are lucky if the school is not going to ‘Fine’ you for taking a chi,d out of school during term time. That’s what’s happens here.

I think GP needs to be informed and a letter about his mental well being sent. He has been separated from his brother and mother and closing school was NOT his fault. I think the school needs to look at the whole picture. Meet face to face and hammer it out.

Hetty58

MissAdventure, best not to ask - just be 'off sick' instead. My granddaughter, on a bus in the Algarve, met a classmate (incredible coincidence) who said 'You poorly too?'!

And you think it's funny? Like those who laugh at a misbehaving toddler.wrong messaging.lying is never good and quickly becomes a habit.

I was under the impression that most folks and kids had spent a great deal of time "off" this last 18 months? Why holidays have to encroach on the precious little term time our children have to attend is beyond me. A holiday is nice but not absolutely essential. Education is. To say that holidays are educational is a stretch and not likely either unless it's a field trip to somewhere akin to a working holiday, mooching about on a beach and staying up late isn't. If school has said "no" children should learn to accept"no" as an answer.old fashioned? Yep.missed too much school and regret it? Yep.remember those holidays? Nope.

Hetty58

MissAdventure, best not to ask - just be 'off sick' instead. My granddaughter, on a bus in the Algarve, met a classmate (incredible coincidence) who said 'You poorly too?'!

Nooo..........

Do not put your children or grandchildren into the position of having lie to their teachers.

MissAdventure, best not to ask - just be 'off sick' instead. My granddaughter, on a bus in the Algarve, met a classmate (incredible coincidence) who said 'You poorly too?'!

I think you, as well as your young grandson, need this holiday MissA.
Go and enjoy yourselves. It sounds as though you deserve it. ?

Your grandson would miss more than 3 days if he had tonsillitis. Let him go. It’s not a lifetime. Sounds like he’s been through a lot. ( I’m a retired teacher) Teachers will never tell you it’s ok- they are not allowed. If you think he needs this, if this will help him. Then let him go