Gransnet forums

Chat

What happened to the man I met 52 years ago

(35 Posts)
MissAdventure Sun 14-Nov-21 22:04:43

smile
This is so lovely to read, but I'm sorry for your loss, Bluebellwould.

Bluebellwould Sun 14-Nov-21 21:57:57

I met and married my husband within ten weeks in the summer of 1978. We were married for 40 years and 3 months until cancer took him from me.
In the first card he ever gave me before our wedding he wrote
“The love that I have is all that I have, and all that I have is yours”. And so it turned out to be.
I’m in tears writing this, god I miss him so much.

Lizzie72 Sun 14-Nov-21 21:22:57

”Grow old with me, the best is yet to be”

My DH once gave me a card with that written on it smile

We, too, met 52 years ago.

Calendargirl Sun 14-Nov-21 20:51:26

We are lucky aren’t we, to have them?

It’s not Mills and Boon, it’s no Hollywood blockbuster, it’s just having a kind, supportive, caring other half, without whom we would feel only half human.

“Grow old with me, the best is yet to be”.

Shinamae Sun 14-Nov-21 20:49:52

Urmstongran

What a lovely thread kitty..

I’ve known Himself 50 years. When we met I was 17y and he was 19y. Babies really, looking back.

Yesterday he made a huge pan of chilli to save both me and our daughter having to cook Sunday lunch as today would have been my mum’s 90th birthday. Almost four years on we all miss the matriarch of the family and although ‘next up’ I’m only doing my best.

Plus it was lovely listening to his kindness yesterday. He set up ‘Mousetrap’ (who on earth has the patience for those fiddly plastic pieces?’) to amuse L’il Miss. Then half an hour later our Boy Wonder wandered in saying ‘can we play chess grandad?’.

My heart melts.
This is the person who, in 1972 had platform shoes, long hair and sideboards (think ‘Slade’) and chewed gum (ugh!).

Every now and again when I awake I look over to his pillow and think ‘who is this old bugger lying next to me?’.

He must think the same. We are no longer young with dreams and plans.

And then I remember.
He’s the man I love. Who puts us all first. Who shows his love not in words but by being a provider. Dependable and true, over those years. My sweetheart.

Who irritates the life out of me sometimes.
As I’m sure I do him.

That is so lovely ?

Urmstongran Sun 14-Nov-21 20:43:02

What a lovely thread kitty..

I’ve known Himself 50 years. When we met I was 17y and he was 19y. Babies really, looking back.

Yesterday he made a huge pan of chilli to save both me and our daughter having to cook Sunday lunch as today would have been my mum’s 90th birthday. Almost four years on we all miss the matriarch of the family and although ‘next up’ I’m only doing my best.

Plus it was lovely listening to his kindness yesterday. He set up ‘Mousetrap’ (who on earth has the patience for those fiddly plastic pieces?’) to amuse L’il Miss. Then half an hour later our Boy Wonder wandered in saying ‘can we play chess grandad?’.

My heart melts.
This is the person who, in 1972 had platform shoes, long hair and sideboards (think ‘Slade’) and chewed gum (ugh!).

Every now and again when I awake I look over to his pillow and think ‘who is this old bugger lying next to me?’.

He must think the same. We are no longer young with dreams and plans.

And then I remember.
He’s the man I love. Who puts us all first. Who shows his love not in words but by being a provider. Dependable and true, over those years. My sweetheart.

Who irritates the life out of me sometimes.
As I’m sure I do him.

Marydoll Sun 14-Nov-21 20:13:53

You are correct there Chewy. The women behind the throne! wink

Chewbacca Sun 14-Nov-21 20:05:30

Quite agree Kim19; "behind every great man is an even greater woman"!

Kim19 Sun 14-Nov-21 20:01:51

Sounds absolutely lovely and a perfectly gentle transformation. Maybe, just maybe, you played a small part in moulding this treasure?!!

kittylester Sun 14-Nov-21 19:56:06

He was just out of university where, despite coming out with 2 degrees, he had had a rip roaring student experience. grin

Prior to going to university he had led his (public) school out on strike, been on numerous student marches and was often in trouble at school much to his parents' despair.

Last night, he happily drank 'tea' made by an 8 year old, listened to a 10 year old read a story she had written, having already taken them to the pizza shop to choose a take away and then he cooked me a curry.

He has matured quite well.