Tactless remarks.

Before we were married my husband and I used to socialise with a group of friends we had in common. My husband went out with one of the girls for a while. Later his best friend took her out and they were eventually married, and my husband was best man. In part of his speech he found it necessary to say that he'd "tried out" the bride but it didn't work out! The groom that day later became our own best man, but luckily he had never "tried me out" !! We're all still friends

My mother always undermined me
Would have been less bother if you had been a boy
You couldn't do that
Nobody will look at a plain jane like you.
You need to do something with your hair.
Surely you are not going out dressed like that.
This started when I was very young and lasted until she passed away when I was 62!

Two days after I had found my mother dead in bed, due to a massive heart attack my mother-in-law was having a cup of tea in our kitchen. She told me that her heart condition was worse than my mother's. I might add that my mother-in-law never had heart problems but had suffered for a time due to an overactive thyroid, which had been successfully treated. She was an extremely unpleasant woman and told me one Christmas day whilst I was cooking the Christmas dinner that I wasn't a Christian. Presumably, because I didn't go to church regularly. She never went to church either. After that, I refused to have her in my home again and to my husband's eternal credit he told her the position on Boxing day. I said nothing about it on Christmas day as I didn't want to spoil my children's Christmas. Our children were not stopped from visiting their grandparents.

I had only met one 'friend' a few times and she said, 'Oh, you're not a bit like your sister. She's really nice!'.

They stick don’t they those comments: three come to mind my mum to me when I was about ten ‘you’re not pretty you’re not ugly you are plain’ (She denied this later in life and I found out that her grandmother had said this to her as a child over which she was ever very resentful). But she did. I was astonished.
Then workmate, male, saying to me ‘how come all your friends are so good looking?’ And finally ‘friend’ commenting on my new partner ‘ I’m surprised, you’re not everyone’s cup of tea’
All the compliments in the world don’t quite erase these barbs do they….

Mil had arrived for the weekend I I splashed out on a full roast dinner on the Sunday.
Her comment; "Pork! How sensible, so much cheaper than beef"
I could have thrown it at her.

I was the one who made a tactless remark. I was with my friend and we were discussing another lady. I said "she's our age and still has long hair". My friend also had long hair! I started gabbling, but yours is lovely, making it worse!

Whilst training to be a nurse, my tutor took me to one side and said "Nurse CurlyMops, YOU'VE got an asthmatic looking face, would you pose for a photo for my book I'm writing?" !!!!!
It was a nursing book, and he wanted me to pose using a Nelson's Inhaler!!! NB, I'm NOT asthmatic, but do have rosy cheeks.
He also said ....... after patting the back of my head one day ... Nurse, you've got more hardware on the back of your head than British Leyland!!! Hahahaha. Well, I've never been good with hair, and did have a whole packet of grips trying to hold it off my face! Fun times (grin)

Someone I used to work with who I hadn’t seen for some time said I didn’t recognise you because you’ve put on so much weight.

Both my parents are very deaf and have varying degrees of dementia. They constantly embarrass me with their loud, unfiltered remarks about peoples’ physical appearance

I cringed when a mutual friend said to a dd’s friend of 12 or 13, ‘You’re stocky, like your dad.’ I could have thumped him!

As proud newly weds with our first house we decorated the lounge room with great care and attention. MIL just remarked ,"at least its clean". I never forgot that one and she had absolutely no idea how it came across. She also asked at the market, of a handsome young African man, for some cotton in "n**ger brown". God, I shuddered.

I was leaving hospital after the birth of my second son and was picked up by my husband and lovely looking toddler, first son. 'Oh he's gorgeous,' said the nurse.
'This one is really ugly,' I joked of the baby. His face was bloated with squinty eyes and he was covered in pimples, though of course I loved him nevertheless.
'Oh yes,' said the nurse, 'He looks more like you!'
Good job I found it funny.

I have more.
When I painted my bedroom white, with black iron bits and bobs, and hot pink curtains, my friend asked to have a look.
"Oh, it's lovely!" she said.
"Looks just like a w****'s boudoir!"

My in laws used to live near Greenham Common when the Peace Camp was there.

Driving past with my MiL she had a long look at the women camping there and said " but some of them are so pretty!"

Some of you won't like this one but remember the man has dementia.
Came into his room as the Philipino care worker was finishing and he introduced him to me.
This is Fernando, hes from the jungle but he's very good!

MissAdventure

When my neighbour first moved here, she was very glam.
Short skirts, high heels and all that sort of stuff.
I didn't really know her, but she knocked at my door and said she had been after some slimming pills, but was told by the clinic that she wasn't overweight enough.
She wondered if I would go to the clinic and pretend they were for me.

I laughed out loud at this one. So funny just what’s needed tonight.

Had bought an antique fireplace chair. When my father first saw it he said, 'Looks just like you, Sharon. Low and wide'

BladeAnnie

My mum does it ALL the time with me!! Tactless or just B****y rude I'm not sure ?

BladeAnnie are we sisters????

A funny thread, thank you GNers ?

^ and she said "Oh, love, I am sorry. Mind you, you've really let yourself go lately".^

MissAdventure that made me laugh so much.

A few years ago, a friend was looking at photos of myself and others at a party in the late 90’s ‘you used to be quite attractive’ he said. Just laughed, but not forgotten!

My mother in law once said to me ‘I bet you are one of those who only ovulate when you have sex. (There was a four year age gap between my children)!

Great stuff MissA!

You have to laugh, I don’t think they realise what they say.

My tactless friend visited me when I had my little 3 year old granddaughter staying over. She just ignored her totally and said, I'm not too keen on little girls - I prefer little boys. I was just so angry....I only hope my little granddaughter didn't hear that and if she did, I hope it went over her head..

When my neighbour first moved here, she was very glam.
Short skirts, high heels and all that sort of stuff.
I didn't really know her, but she knocked at my door and said she had been after some slimming pills, but was told by the clinic that she wasn't overweight enough.
She wondered if I would go to the clinic and pretend they were for me.