Tactless remarks.

Met a work colleague whilst out with DH, next day in the office she expressed surprise that I had married "such a good looking man!"

Anniebach

My husband died in a car crash, one of my sisters said ‘ pity he
died today, it’s spoilt Mum’s birthday’

My God Anniebach! I'm very sorry for the loss of your dear Husband. You've certainly had a very painful path through life

Blimey hollysteers with friends like that who needs enemies?

Aged 14 and a new white mac/trench coat for Easter. Meet up with ‘best’ friend and she says
“Isn’t it funny, I’ve nothing new, but I still look better”.

Skydancer

When I told my elderly mother I was being tested for cancer she said “Oh I thought you’d probably still have 10 years left in you.”
I had tried to tell her gently thinking she’d be upset!
There are other comments too numerous to mention. All hurtful.

Similar scenario, I'd had inflamed lymph nodes removed for investigation.
Didn't tell my Mum until afterwards and the all clear. Her response?
"Thank you for not telling me sooner, it would rather have spoilt my holiday." ?

When I told my elderly mother I was being tested for cancer she said “Oh I thought you’d probably still have 10 years left in you.”
I had tried to tell her gently thinking she’d be upset!
There are other comments too numerous to mention. All hurtful.

My mother once told a young person off in the high street a few years ago, by making a withering comment about her muffin top outfit showing off a fat roll saying "love, did you not look in the mirror before you came out? That look is not a good one....." I did explain to Mum that really she needed to keep her thoughts to herself. She was lucky she wasn't thumped or worse!

When I was working we had to move to another office for a meeting. It was very cold in the room and my colleague said she would go and get our coats. We both had black jackets. She came back, put a jacket on and said to me loudly and in front of everyone 'Oh I've got your jacket on. It's so big I look like a clown'. I was size 12 at the time.

Anniebach

My husband died in a car crash, one of my sisters said ‘ pity he
died today, it’s spoilt Mum’s birthday’

Unforgivable.
There are some truly awful examples of people who really should learn to engage their brain before they open their mouth in these posts. Breathtakingly rude.

I went out with a “friend” years ago when I was struggling with the change. Honestly I had put on so much weight that nothing fitted so I bought a black jumper and some black trousers. She said in front of loads of people that she couldn’t believe just how fat I was!!!!! Then she topped it off with saying that I looked like I was going to a funeral. It could have been hers if she had made another comment. We parted company years later when she told that I was stupid to finish with my womanising partner!!!!!

My husband died in a car crash, one of my sisters said ‘ pity he
died today, it’s spoilt Mum’s birthday’

Sheilasue

Some of those comments did make me laugh, can’t believe what people. Say ?
I dont know if this is tactless or just down right nasty.
But my sister rang me 6 months after my son died and asked how I was when I said not good she said you should be over his death by now. I didn’t speak to her for a year.

So very sorry for your loss Sheilasue Take it your sister didn't have children? x

Years ago I went to visit my grandmother who was then in her 80s. It was a warm summers day and I was wearing shorts.
As I arrived she looked me up and down and said 'haven't you got fat knees'!

I remember my mother saying how hurt she had been (aged 14) when she gave her mother a religious painting (I can’t remember what) after my grandfather died, remarking “How morbid, I don’t want that in the house”.
Apparently I was tactless as a child when my mother, trying on a new winter coat, asked my opinion. I said “that woman over there looks much prettier in hers”

Some of those comments did make me laugh, can’t believe what people. Say ?
I dont know if this is tactless or just down right nasty.
But my sister rang me 6 months after my son died and asked how I was when I said not good she said you should be over his death by now. I didn’t speak to her for a year.

My father when I said to him about my new boyfriend being so interested in all the things I liked. “But you don’t have any interests at all”. Anyway 44 years on………

Feeling very insecure at the prospect of meeting all his colleagues at the Xmas bash, I asked my then husband to be ' do I look fat in this'? 'No' he replied, 'not TOO fat'!

Strangely enough I DID go on to marry him and ,27yrs on, we are still together and he's still coming out with the 'compliments'!

When my middle sister had a stillborn son my youngest sister said. "Well, you can have another one next year." When she got pregnant the following year another friend said "it was wonderful how fertile she was."

MyDM was putting on some face powder when her GD told her she could hear the sponge scraping on her wrinkles! Luckily she saw the funny side.

I was in a rather nice shop with my tactless sister, she found a lovely handbag and remarked in her normal loud booming voice (directed at the long suffering sales assistant). There is one just like this in the charity shop and it is only £10!!! My list is endless, she has no tact whatsoever and is quite an embarrassment. Needless to say I no longer go shopping with her.

I hosted on an exchange programme a few years ago... an African woman.
I informed her that my favourite exercise was swimming.
Her response?
"But how can you swim without sinking... you are so plumpy."
Yeah, thanks for that!

One of my daughters is very pretty. I met a group of her school friends’ mothers when I stopped to pick her up from school. These women made a big deal of pointing out how I looked NOTHING like my daughter. Another time when I brought my daughter to work my boss asked me where she got her good looks!

Before I got married my boyfriend often spent the night in my flat. My granny came round to see the flat and admired each room but when she came to the bedroom she pulled back the covers to feel what the mattress was like.I quickly pulled them back hoping she didn't see his pyjamas.

My grandad, who I'd loved to bits up to that point, told me that although I wasn't pretty, like my sisters, (he might as well have stopped there) I was 'attractive' and that would last longer than mere prettiness. I already knew I wasn't pretty, but I wanted to be...what young girl doesn't? Also, this advice came out of the blue. I had never asked for any reassurance about my looks. Very strange timing!

Fortunately, I wasn't exactly ugly and I was certainly more successful at school than both of my sisters, so I wasn't totally devastated. Also, I didn't lack attention from boys. Ha!

lovebeigecardigans1955 ..... I had a very similar remark from my mother to a friend of mine .. " why couldn't Susan have married a a husband like yours !!! " but the worst was when she said to me When I married my "soul mate" was >>> " your marriage will only last 6 months " it lasted 51 years until his death 3 years ago ! The kindest most caring husband ever !