Daughter-in-law thread - please don’t look away!

My son's partner of 9 years is awesome. She had two children from a previous relationship who are an absolute credit to her. She didn't want any more children but when my son developed very good relationships with her own children she decided to give it a go, so now I have a beautiful 4 year old grandson.

She's good for him, and he's good for her. I feel valued and have an excellent relationship with her.

My sons girlfriend is lovely. We have coffees and cakes out when time allows( they live on the other side of London)and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. Something I can’t do with my own daughter as her narcissistic partner won’t allow it.
I also get on very well with gf’s parents.

I have 2 beautiful daughters in law who I love as though they were my own and in September we will be adding another one who is as much of a joy. Added bonus for us their families are delightful too and have become close friends, we are truly blessed

Your DIL, your son’s choice of partner, is testament to his good taste and the values you taught him.

He and she ate a credit to you and his father.

My Daughter and Daughter in law have split up after 10 years of being together including 6 years married..I understand the reasons Why but I will miss her ....

I too can sing the praises of a beautiful, accomplished, kind and loving DiL. I honestly couldn’t imagine a more perfect wife for my beloved son. I always secretly worried that no one would be good enough for my boy but there we are, she is more than I could ever have wished for.

As a DiL myself, I hope you have told her to her face how much you appreciate her. I went through most of my married life thinking that my MiL didn’t care for me at all. Only when she got dementia, and often didn’t realise that I was the one she was talking about, did she say nice things about me

I am extra lucky as I have two truly lovely daughters in law.

I have 4 sons in law, 3 are wonderful but 1 not so much but I figure 3 out of 4 is pretty good. I love them all, however and avoid clashes with the difficult one. It is really good to hear the love mothers have for their daughters in law, it is as it should be in an ideal situation.

I have 2 wonderful son in laws who treat my daughters with so much love and respect. They are the best

I too have a lovely DiL. She's the mother of my GS and I'm very happy to have her in our family. Later today the family are coming to stay for a week so probably should be tidying up, not wasting time on here!

I don't have a DiL but it's lovely to hear about these warm and positive relationships. I'm guessing that the MiLs in these cases are lovely and loving women themselves - it takes two to tango...

It’s down to personalities or MH issues. I have lots of in-laws. All fine except one. They come from a family where a acrimonious divorce has occurred. . So acrimonious that they haven’t seen one parent or a sibling for years. They have a huge well of lack of self worth. They are really lovely but
they see my love as a Mother for their partner, as a threat. They are horribly jealous of me and despite my considerable efforts, cause me and my husband a lot of pain.
I feel so sorry for them ( and us) and concerned that their marriage will end in divorce. I have to try not to dwell on it and get on with my own life and enjoy the other in-laws and grandchildren, who are welcoming, but it’s so sad.

I too am lucky enough to have a lovely daughter in law who I consider to be one of my very best friends. We see each other several times a week, text daily, go on holiday together etc. And I'm forever grateful to her for sorting out my son ?

I don’t have a DIL although my son has a lovely gf. Maybe she’ll move on to the next status this year. Fingers crossed. Ex SIL turned out to be a foul narcissistic being who was abusive and violent towards to daughter and is an awful father to her sons. The other SIL would not have been my choice, but he is a loving, caring husband and father who would do anything for his much loved family. I admire him and his ethics which continue to support his family through a range of very difficult times and health circumstances. A real treasure.

I have one daughter in law who is fantastic. When her mother died we had a rocky time but 3 years later we are very close.
I have another daughter in law who found it difficult to accept my role in her husband's life as I am a step-mother. I kept quiet for the most part but when I found out I'd upset her inadvertently with something I had said on Facebook, I wrote to her and apologised. Strangely enough, it wasn't about her or my stepson but she took it very personally. For some reason, that seemed to do the trick and although I doubt we will never be best friends, we have found a more relaxed relationship.
My other daughter in law is more difficult as she is on the spectrum and can be easily upset. It always strikes me that my son has a lot on his shoulders as his daughter is on the spectrum too. His wife doesn't work clean, cook, do the washing or anything which would be helpful to the household whilst my son has several jobs before coming home to a takeaway and an evening of chores. She only really values her family and avoids us like the plague although she is always really welcome. I really don't see what he gets out of the relationship but he seems happy enough most of the time. It sounds like I don't like her but actually, there are things she has taught me with her ideas which I value and I enjoy a chat with her. She just obviously doesn't want a close relationship and I have given up trying. We've found our measure and I respect that.

I have 2 daughter in-laws. My younger son's wife I get on with really well but we aren't what I consider really close. She makes me laugh and I enjoy seeing her. I see her regularly with my son but not on our own though. My other Dil has been in my life since she was 18 and she's now 38. We lost our son to cancer age 26 and she became a young widow. My son dying has not changed our bond. Even after 11 years she is still my friend and comes to all our extended family celebrations. It's 11 years since my son died and she still sends me a Mother's Day card and texts me a few times every week. I love her.

What a great idea for a thread.
My DIL is an incredible woman. She’s strong, focussed, considerate and resourceful.
The day our son met her was the greatest miracle of our lives. Over the past 5 years he has transformed from a depressed, unemployed uni dropout with no friends to a cheerful, determined father and husband with a job where he seems highly valued, a circle of friends and exciting plans for the future.
My only fear is that one day she will get so exasperated with our son’s messiness that she will throw him out…my DH says she’d never do that.

We're lucky to have two great son-in-laws. Yes I know we were talking about daughter-in-laws but have just had a lovely Christmas and wanted to praise my son-in-laws.

Lucky ladies. You are truly blessed.

I don’t have one. But I have a lovely son in law. He’s so kind and helpful. Bought me an I pad for Christmas and set it all up for me. He’s just lovely ?

I have three daughters and no DiLs! My SiLs are lovely. I was a bit sad not to have a mixed family as I was one of three sisters myself but now, having read of so many hard cases and my own experiences of being a DiL, I am relieved not to have had sons. I know my daughters are valued DiLs to their husbands' parents and that is good enough.

I’ve two delightful dil’s. They’ve brought so much to all of our lives, not least because one is American, the other French, opening up new horizons for us. I can’t imagine life without them. My youngest dd was only four when we first met them and she can’t recall a time before she knew them. They’ve watched her grow up, too. ❤️

I can’t finish without a word for my son-in-law, too. He’s a charming chap, and can’t do enough for us. His parents adore our daughter, too, so it’s a win:win!

I have three daughters and could not ask for nicer sons in law - so I’m out!

We have four sons, two actual daughters-in-law, two ex daughters-in-law who we love as the mums of our grandchildren, two partners not married in to the family but very much a part of it with their children, 5 of the 6 are wonderful women who love or have loved our sons. Only one is a bit difficult but we take it in our stride and try our hardest with her.
We’ve been very lucky and do miss big family get togethers not allowed during covid times.