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sodapop Tue 04-Jan-22 16:39:01

I've read a thread today where a poster referred to her elderly parents aged 75.
Aaaargh I'm not an elderly parent I don't feel like that, other people get old not me. Does anyone else get a shock when reading something like that smile

sodapop Wed 05-Jan-22 12:45:02

Wow TanaMa you put me to shame enjoy your life for many years to come.

Musicgirl Wed 05-Jan-22 12:48:39

BlueBelle

76 still feel a spring chicken most of the time although I m not stupid and know I m not but hey ho I m happy kidding myself
BUT I m far from geriatric ….by the way when I had my third child at 28 I was called a geriatric mother

Same with my mum. By the measure l was truly ancient in the nineties when l had my third child at 31!?. Many ladies these days do not seem to start their families until they are well into their thirties.
I have just finished reading a book where one of the main characters was repeatedly described as elderly or old at 73 and behaving in a way that we would expect of someone in their late eighties these days but how my grandmother definitely behaved when she was that age. I think we have totally changed our views on what constitutes middle and old age. My grandparents’ generation were elderly at fifty and old by sixty.

Humbertbear Wed 05-Jan-22 12:50:23

72 and nowhere near elderly. Still bouncing about, planning travel, caring for my own mum who is 101 and for DH as well as GC. Wearing jeggings and knee high boots.

flowerofthewestx2 Wed 05-Jan-22 12:50:59

I'm an avid reader of novels. I am always shocked when a character of 73 or so is described as a dear old lady of 70...whatever....stumbling along with her walking stick/frame/shopping trolly (usually with a combined seat.

MooM00 Wed 05-Jan-22 12:59:46

cc. happy Birthday for this Month, I also have a daughter who is 45 My grandchildren are 9 and 4 I just hope I am around a bit longer to see them grow. I also lost weight and did feel a lot healthier until last September when I broke my ankle and had to get around with a Zimmer frame.

BlueSky Wed 05-Jan-22 13:10:14

Minerva bless him! grin

Minerva Wed 05-Jan-22 13:28:39

BlueSky

Minerva bless him! grin

He makes me laugh a lot. Hopefully the laughter is keeping me young

Sue65 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:34:28

The term geriatric is no longer in use medically as it’s termed offensive
As in all language things change thank goodness

agnurse Wed 05-Jan-22 13:46:56

My late great-grandfather refused to go to the seniors' drop-in center in his community. He called it the "Drop Dead Center" and said it was for "old guys". He was 83 grin

PinkCosmos Wed 05-Jan-22 13:50:23

I think they call older people 'seniors' in Australia.

Sounds much nicer than elderly.

Someone told me that they have stopped using the elderly road sign in the UK as it was offensive to older people. There is still one near us so I don't know whether this is true or not

PinkCosmos Wed 05-Jan-22 13:51:32

My Grandma used to visit 'the old lady next door' to check if she was OK

The 'old lady' was younger than my gran!

grannyrebel7 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:58:16

Old, elderly I don't know the meaning of these words! smile

PamelaJ1 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:58:58

I’m approaching 69, perhaps I will think of myself as elderly when my mum dies?
At the rate she’s going I’ve got about 20 years left.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 05-Jan-22 14:15:02

My husband refers to a neighbour as ‘the old girl’. She’s younger than me …

JaneJudge Wed 05-Jan-22 14:20:05

God that made me laugh GSM, I remember meeting with my cousins and my husband saying 'don't they all look old' as if we hadn't aged at all grin

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 05-Jan-22 14:23:06

Of course we haven’t Jane. It only happens to other people!?

Boyzone Wed 05-Jan-22 14:24:09

As I’m reading the comments ‘Forever young’ came on the radio. I’m with Lucca ‘elderley’ (hate that word) is anyone about 15 years older than me! (I’m a trombone)

Bazza Wed 05-Jan-22 14:35:47

Isn’t it really strange to be the same age as elderly people?

Bijou Wed 05-Jan-22 14:55:58

As many Gransnetters know I am 98. Until I was in my mid eighties was travelling to America and Barbados every year. My son will be 74 in April. All my grandchildren are over 50 and eldest great daughter is 23.
Still manage with just one hours help daily.

sandelf Wed 05-Jan-22 15:19:32

Bit of a serious note. When 'IT' hit and we were all advised various stuff because we are 'elderly and vulnerable' it really got to me. Since then whenever I hear this sort of gibberish I remind myself that I am RESILIENT!

Mummer Wed 05-Jan-22 15:22:27

My mate regards me as a "baby" at 65! She's 8years my senior. But we were discussing the fact that the younger gen all appear to have 'lost '10-15 years somewhere along the way and are trying to have baby#1 well into 30s if not 40s !! How will this all pan out when these late babes hit their 20s their parents will be geriatric! And very sadly their subsequent babes will have few doting fun to be with active gransmums and grandad? We wondered if the huge numbers using IVF nowadays is a symptom of 'leaving it too late' or did folks just accept no babies and adopt in days gone by? I was a little annoyed if not a smidge angry to read someone aged 62 being described as elderly lady(!?!?!) When she'd been asked in street interview about vaxes!! The cheek! But a funny thing happened when I went for my booster and met new GP for first time she literally did a double take when I gave my name! I think she expected an 'elderly' 65 year old with chronic arthritis...... At a shapely 5'8' sporting leather pants high boots titian red crowning glory and a really sharp jacket, she was disappointed.......yet pleasantly said "oh wow, hello!" Made my day tee hee......

TanaMa Wed 05-Jan-22 15:25:10

Well done Bijou - I have a way yet to catch up with you!!

Mummer Wed 05-Jan-22 15:26:37

I just didn't get that they meant us when they were talking about elderly and vulnerable in early pan-days! I was visualising my mater at 93 in carehome, not me and me mates all giggling and singing away at choir gigs! And regaling each other of hangover cures we'd just had to try after one night out or another. I wonder if it's because we're the rock n roll gens that we appear to have kept our fun modules in fine fettle?!

Mummer Wed 05-Jan-22 15:29:23

PinkCosmos

I think they call older people 'seniors' in Australia.

Sounds much nicer than elderly.

Someone told me that they have stopped using the elderly road sign in the UK as it was offensive to older people. There is still one near us so I don't know whether this is true or not

Hilarious!?? I never understood why the old gal was clinging on to the old gimmers coat?!? That's the last person I'd trust to get me anywhere safely in old age, they're bad enough when they're young!the times I've 'lost my husband....' .....in the shops! Honestly they're like toddlers?

Vlsnoozy49 Wed 05-Jan-22 15:31:33

We have an autistic grandson .when he was told his grandad was 82 he’s said wow he should be planning his funeral. We didn’t tell grandad as he’s quite fit and agile , but it gave us all a laugh ?