Big age gap in relationship, what is your view?

Sadly, the ageist horrible comments are much worse in the newspaper concerned. I actually feel quite sorry for the lady, I'm sorry to say but the body language in the photos is quite telling. I certainly don't think it is at all fair to bring a child into this situation. The child's life will be made a misery from the ridicule and scorn they will receive from nasty people. Just look at the comments section in the paper. I understand folk being shocked, but some of these comments are awful and unsurprisingly mainly aimed at the lady.

I didn’t see your deleted post Serendipity, but fair play to you for apologising. ?
It’s a rare thing on here

GagaJo many famous examples here of older men marrying much younger women, who obviously don’t worry about their spouse’s ‘elderly body’!

Quran McCain and his wife, mother-of-seven Cheryl McGregor, from Rome, Georgia, first met in 2012 while they were both worked in the fast food chain Dairy Queen, when he was just 15 years old.

Reverse the sexes and what would be the first thoughts?

People seem more offended that the women hasn't aged very well!

From what's written there is no visa or riches involved - they're both locals and have known each other a long time.

Joan Collins is 30-odd years older than her husband but she has a legion of fans on GN.

I hope that Joan and Percy don’t have an Only Fans account!

Has anyone seen the TIK-TOK short video of them dancing? Before I came on Gransnet I was just looking at ordinary news on my computer and when I saw the photo of them and the age gap difference I looked at the tik-tok video.
If they are so in love as they say they are good luck to them, it takes all sorts in this world so who am I to ridicule them.

I do think that the age difference is huge and she looks more 75 years than in her sixties as for wanting a baby not something I would want at that age perhaps she should leave the babies to her younger daughters.

she looks more 75 years than in her sixties

I don't know any 75 year olds who look that old!

Calistemon

^she looks more 75 years than in her sixties^

I don't know any 75 year olds who look that old!

Hear hear Cali!

Welcome to double standards

How many 60 something year old men with adult offspring marry 30 year olds or younger and keep on having kids?

Nobody bats an eyelash at that, but when it is being opposite, sacrilege!

It’s not really a story about age gaps; surrogacy; or even relationships.

It’s just a glorified ad for their pay per view porn site.

I’m sure that an oldish woman with a ‘fit’ body and a younger male black partner will cater for many men with niche interests.

Self publicity wise you’ve got to hand it to them

Hithere

Welcome to double standards

How many 60 something year old men with adult offspring marry 30 year olds or younger and keep on having kids?

Nobody bats an eyelash at that, but when it is being opposite, sacrilege!

Because they keep producing sperm!

She met him when he was 15 and she must have been 50+.
Now, a man would immediately be accused of grooming, having an unhealthy interest in young girls etc etc.

Are you applying double standards?

Gosh, she looks as though she's had a hard life, oh dear.

Not blowing my own trumpet but I'm 20 years older and don't even look anything like that. 50's in comparison maybe.

FannyCornforth

It’s not really a story about age gaps; surrogacy; or even relationships.

It’s just a glorified ad for their pay per view porn site.

I’m sure that an oldish woman with a ‘fit’ body and a younger male black partner will cater for many men with niche interests.

Self publicity wise you’ve got to hand it to them

This is exactly what I think. No need to look further than it being publicity for their web site. My son explained what Only Friends is about ( I was asking for a friend) so if anyone is interested in seeing this couple’s true motivation subscribe and let us know if it is a genuine relationship.

Riverwalk not offended by how she looks, but if we can comment on someone appearing much younger than they are. surely it is reasonable to comment that they look much older than they are. It is a statement of fact, an observation, Why should anyone be offended.

Similalry on the question of the revers when the man is old. I read recently that Bernie Eccleston who is 90+/- recently fathered a child and i reacted to that exactly as I reacted to this storey.

However we now know this is merely publicity for a porn site. what could be more disgusting than using the potential of new child in this world for self publicity for such a business.

BlueSky

GagaJo many famous examples here of older men marrying much younger women, who obviously don’t worry about their spouse’s ‘elderly body’!

I think that most of the time, the younger woman tolerates an elderly man for his money. I have to admit, I look at Michael Douglas and wonder how Catherine Zeta-Jones can do it. Although, they have been married a long time and she probably sees the person, rather than his physical condition.

But in a new relationship? No. An elderly person may have a wonderfully attractive personality, but a 30 year age difference is not based on sexual attraction. It is based on tolerance, physically.

That is so offensive Jo
I certainly don’t ‘tolerate’ my husband.
It’s not all about sex, for God’s sake.
I’m so glad that I don’t feel as you do.

You know, perhaps CZJ and MD aren’t ’doing it’, and what is wrong with that?
We don’t all have to be at it like 18 year olds!

As I said FC, I understand it in a long term relationship completely, that is normal and is life. But a 40 year old woman is not going to start a new relationship with a 70 year old man because of sexual attraction. And vice versa.

How do you know?

Common sense. Those relationships are transactions.

But not all relationships are about sex Jo
I’m going to be totally candid here.
I haven’t had sex since I was thirty.
And I’m now 50.
If relationships were less about what you do and don’t do with your genitals it would be a much better place

I have to agree with you Fanny, it's certainly not the be all and end all.

GagaJo

Common sense. Those relationships are transactions.

What do you mean ‘transactions’?
I think that you are judging everything by your own experience, which may not have been a happy one.
But trust me, we don’t all have to be at it like knives to be happy