Things I worry about ?

B, aren't men without this problem lucky?!!

Kim19

B, aren't men without this problem lucky?!!

Is this directed at me?

Fanny How sad. I have been diagnosed with anxiety but wasn't honest with my GP about how bad it is. As I've said on GN before, I was frightened every day as a child and am now, at the age of 72, frightened every day, waiting for the next bad thing to happen. I realise how ridiculous this sounds but it's the way it is. I know people will say 'Go to your GP again'. They are not interested to be honest. I am on edge all the time waiting for the next trauma.

Amalegra I agree. It does make the world frightening and lonely.

Cabbie21 So sorry to hear about your DH son. Awful news for them, and you. Hope everything works out for you all

Cabbie21 That is a real worry

Thank you for your kind responses. Yes, it is a real worry, but until I find out if there is anything we can do to help, I am trying not to worry. But DH will worry, and won’t say anything, so that will be tricky. I wouldn’t want him to think I am ignoring the situation, but there is no point trying to talk about it unless he wants to.

I worry that my osteoarthritis will mean I end up in a wheelchair like my lovely late Mum did. Mum had my amazing Dad to care for her and my brother and I phoned and/or visited several times a week. I worry how I will manage as I am widowed and cannot imagine either of my young adult children being able to help much as they have their own lives. Am hoping some amazing new treatments will appear and I will remain reasonably mobile.

Not directed. More gentled.

Throughout the pandemic all I worried about was covid and whether my family (or me) would be ill or die. I actually stopped worrying about all the things I usually worry about ie everything. But as the danger from covid has lessened all the other worries are reappearing. The whatifery that has clouded most of my adult life, especially since I had children, has now come back with a vengeance.

Kim19

Not directed. More gentled.

I have absolutely no idea what this means, so I’ll just quit this thread.

I haven't got the worrying gene. I just go with the flow and believe things will work out. I'm a born optimist. It drives my DH mad as he worries about things that would never enter my head.

I worry that I won't be able to pack my shopping bag quickly enough at the checkout.
Aldi and Lidl cause me real anxiety as I near the front of the queue.
I worry that people waiting at the lobby door to be let into the block of flats where I live, will hear me having a poo, because my toilet is just the other side of the waiting area.

Did you want a 'tweet' or an esssy? The older I get, the more I seem to worry. I try to put it down to hormones, but life experience & knowledge also play a part: I have so much choice ? of things to worry about these days.
What will the world be like for my GC.?
Did I turn the cooker off?
Where are my glasses?
Have I got my keys? - and my DDs ( in case she needs them) ditto DMs.
Why isn't DM answering the phone when she should be in?
Did I upset that person?
Did they understand what I was really trying to say?
Will I get somewhere in time?
Will I be burgled (again) when I'm away from home?

Oh dear, oh dear. So much worry for so many of you and I'm sorry to read your posts. I do have concerns for my nearest and dearest and do what I can to help, ease their load or just listen if they need to offload. But it is with great thanks I was born without much of the worry gene. What will be, will be.
Tomorrow is another day.

Kate1949
I will pm you later x

MayBee I felt like I coped with the pandemic really well too.
It was almost as if I’d been in training for it all of my life!
I was ultra prepared.

MayBee I’m sorry that you are finding things so difficult

I am blessed I think as I am not by nature a worrier.

I tend to look no further ahead (apart from planning good things, like holidays etc) than one day.

I wake up - haven’t heard from the family so they are ok, I feel ok and off the day starts.

One period in my life I became a worrier and was full of life draining anxiety which ended in a complete breakdown.

I built back from that and was emotionally much stronger by adopting strategies that refuse to allow me to become an unnecessary worrier.

That doesn’t mean that I don’t take mitigating action - say like for covid, or whatever because I’m not by nature a risk taker, but I don’t waste my emotions worrying about it.

Saying that I do understand how draining and exhausting it is for those who do worry.
I think adopting a strategy that works for you is a good way to go.

For example I went through a period in my life convinced that I had lung cancer. Too frightened to go to the doctor I spent month after month in exhausting anxiety. Then one day it occurred to me that if I actually had lung cancer I would be dead by now! I built on that thought and it worked! To the extent that when I did get cancer I went at the absolute first sign determined to get shot of the bloody thing and I was lucky to catch it so early.

I also tend to attack potential worries head on and deal with them immediately. Further than that I cannot go so refuse to worry about anything that I can’t control.

Not easy but it is better to be pro-active than reactive I think.

Reading some very sad posts on GN today, I apologise for my whingeing post.

FannyCornforth

MayBee I felt like I coped with the pandemic really well too.
It was almost as if I’d been in training for it all of my life!
I was ultra prepared.

That’s how I felt, as did one of my closest friends. We both love meeting up with people and chatting with them but at the same time are perfectly happy with our own company. Her son also said it was as if she’d been in training for it throughout her life. I did feel that I could at least do my own research and take preventative measures. I’m quite good in a crisis, which surprises people that know me, but it’s the worry about what might happen that overwhelms me sometimes. I think it’s because my parents were quite old when I was born and I grew up with a Victorian/Edwardian way of looking at things, a sort of ‘I’ll see you next week then, if we re still alive’ way of looking at life. I can laugh about it though.

I worry about everything, and if I can’t immediately think of something to worry about, I worry about that!

Kate, I think this thread has given us all a chance to post how we feel. No post is a bad post here and it's helped many, including myself to share our worries. No bad thing at all.

Kate in no way were you ‘whinging’. There is no need to apologise at all.

I've been thinking; there are different types of 'worry' but being the stoic society we are, our language doesn't entirely cover it.