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I do love them BUT……

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Esspee Tue 22-Feb-22 17:38:49

I am sure many of us have people in our lives that we love but who sometimes drive us crazy.
As an example my OH and I are a great match BUT he constantly leaves drawers, cupboards and doors open. I am constantly closing things and I have to check the outside doors as they are often unlocked.
He is 75 so I reckon I am unlikely to be able to change him so I try to remain calm and ignore it.
What drives you crazy about your loved ones?

Rosina Tue 22-Feb-22 22:50:33

Cupboard doors open, drawers open, clothes spilling out of drawers, death trap items in middle of floor, outer doors left open till house freezing cold, outer doors banged if subsequently closed, front door never locked, fridge never shut properly, freezer too several times (WW3 ensued) car keys constantly lost, never replaced on hook, can't find house keys, train ticket, glasses, wallet, towels dropped on floor and never hung up, chaos everywhere...he is a disaster , but I guess he is my disaster. Kind, patient, clever and witty - he'll do.

BigBertha1 Tue 22-Feb-22 22:04:27

TH is wonderful in many ways but he is a cushion slayer. He doesn't understand they are for leaning against not sitting on.

sodapop Tue 22-Feb-22 21:02:30

Same here Pammie1 my husband's annoying traits are more than compensated for by his kindness, tolerance and skill in the kitchen

Pammie1 Tue 22-Feb-22 20:57:39

My OH makes himself midnight snacks and I regularly come down to a kitchen I cleaned the night before, to be greeted by a crumby breadboard and dirty dishes in the sink. He’s also an absolute master at walking past little jobs asking to be done - waste paper baskets and kitchen bin needing to be emptied for example, and he’s one of those infuriating people who will leave washing by the laundry basket and not in it !! He’s just generally untidy but I think it’s a bit too late in life to spect much change.

I feel I have to balance my complaints out with the positive things though. He’s a good cook and will plan and cook at least a couple of times a week. He will also tackle any DIY task with gusto and generally make a great job of it - and I have lovely front and back gardens as he’s a keen gardener. So all in all the positives outweigh the negatives and I love him just the way he is !!

TillyTrotter Tue 22-Feb-22 20:41:56

My DH washes up each night but never wipes the hob where saucepans have boiled. I go to the sink, get a cloth and clean the hob.
When I asked him why he never thinks of cleaning the hob his reply was “but you always come and do it so I don’t need to”. ?

Doodledog Tue 22-Feb-22 20:30:17

Kate54

Draining board and worktops never wiped despite excellent washing up skills.

Mine too. Or if he does wipe them he leaves mountains of suds all over them ?.

I am the fridge-blind one in this house. I'm cupboard-blind, too. I am always having to shout for him to come and locate ingredients.

Redhead56 Tue 22-Feb-22 20:11:00

I won't even go into what drives me crazy when I get down the stairs and for the rest of the day.

Kate1949 Tue 22-Feb-22 20:10:50

Mine wipes worktops when he's washed up but never the hob, which is always covered in crumbs or spills.

Redhead56 Tue 22-Feb-22 20:08:03

My husband always brings me a cup of tea in the morning a lovely gesture. Often forgetting to take his dog walking shoes off. Then letting the dog run all around the house soaking wet shaking her fur everywhere. That's just a great start to the day and it gets my temper going. That's before I even get down the stairs!

Katyj Tue 22-Feb-22 19:58:24

Mine can’t find anything ! He’ll be looking in the fridge and shout from the kitchen where’s the ham, me on the 2nd shelf at the back, him you must have eaten it all ?
And why can’t he use the grill I’ve explained at least a dozen times which setting to use, still try’s to grill using the oven. I give up.

glammagran Tue 22-Feb-22 19:50:44

I don’t think H has ever washed a pan up satisfactorily. I’ve told him (must be a 1000+ times by now) he needs to use more washing up liquid TO REMOVE GREASE!!). Saucepans which have boiled over have muck all down the outside but he only cleans the interiors. And like Casdon mine is unable to ever find anything even at eye level in fridge or cupboard. And zero chance if whatever he is looking for is not “on top”.

Casdon Tue 22-Feb-22 19:40:17

Fridge blindness. Opening the door seems to render every man in my life blind and dull. An item can be right there at eye level, at the front of the shelf and neither of them can see it. If I hear ‘Mum we have run out of butter’ which is the cue for me to find it, one more time I’ll scream.

Serendipity22 Tue 22-Feb-22 19:37:55

Ohhhhh blimey, where OHHH WHERE do I start ?!?!?!

Edge26 Tue 22-Feb-22 19:37:23

My OH is forever whistling, it drives me mad and what makes it worse it's always the same tune!!

Coastpath Tue 22-Feb-22 19:33:56

Kate54

Draining board and worktops never wiped despite excellent washing up skills.

Yes. How do they not see that!!

Kate54 Tue 22-Feb-22 19:30:52

Draining board and worktops never wiped despite excellent washing up skills.

Auntieflo Tue 22-Feb-22 19:25:56

My DH is also a keeper, but, he will put on a light in the hall cupboard, and then leave it on.
If there are things to be hand washed, he will do all of it except one thing!
We have lived here for over 50 years and he still can't find the right cupboard to put some things away.

He does make me many cups of excellent tea and coffee. ?

Baggs Tue 22-Feb-22 19:19:29

Putting mugs with wet bottoms (cos he's just rinsed them messily) on the worktop right next to the cloth I've put there for him to put wet things on.

cornergran Tue 22-Feb-22 19:11:37

Mr C is in the not shutting doors (of any kind), or drawers gang. Never has as far as I can recall. Items find their way into cupboard by dint of some magic, as do clothes into the wash.

One totally bemusing thing is someone who worked as an engineer and IT specialist finds the washing machine unfathomable.

He does have oodles of good points and is remarkably patient with my foibles. Think I’ll keep him smile.

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tobyandsocks Tue 22-Feb-22 19:01:08

grin

Cherrytree59 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:58:26

Crumbs!!!
I have a Crumb phobia grin
Food in bed or actually taking food upstairs is a no no.

Dh will make sandwich or eat digestive biscuits whilst happily watching the birds through kitchen window.
All Good but no plate under biscuit .

The worktop is by now covered in crumbs.
He can't see them as not wearing reading glasses.

AND then in his head he is wiping crumbs up.

NO he is using tea towels to spread crumbs across work surface or onto floor

Ho humhmm

Elizabeth27 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:57:15

I am one of those annoying people, I live alone now so only annoy myself. I am a very tidy person but am always leaving drawers and cupboards open.

It has to be me, there is no one else in the house but I go into a room and am surprised to see a cupboard or drawer open.

Kim19 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:37:08

When I was having a little vexed rant I asked my husband what irritated him about me. He quickly took the fifth!!

JaneJudge Tue 22-Feb-22 18:35:00

collection of crockery in bedrooms
expecting washing to just be magically done
the where is the washing? t be folded outside of the tumble dryer
the ;what have you done all day' to the response of invisible daily grind

Kate1949 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:33:17

My DH takes the last biscuit, cracker or whatever and leaves the empty packet in the cupboard/fridge. He constantly can't find things although he's 'searched thoroughly'. I usually find it straight away.
Another favourite is 'I put a piece of paper on the table this morning and someone's moved it's. I say 'I assume you mean me?'. He says 'I didn't say that'. Well there are only two of us living here. He usually remembers that he moved it himself. hmm