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Esspee Tue 22-Feb-22 17:38:49

I am sure many of us have people in our lives that we love but who sometimes drive us crazy.
As an example my OH and I are a great match BUT he constantly leaves drawers, cupboards and doors open. I am constantly closing things and I have to check the outside doors as they are often unlocked.
He is 75 so I reckon I am unlikely to be able to change him so I try to remain calm and ignore it.
What drives you crazy about your loved ones?

lifebeginsat60 Mon 07-Mar-22 11:18:44

My hubbie once ruptured a disk in his back suppressing a loud sneeze and spent 5 days in hospital in agony. He just lets rip now. It's deafening and scares the life out of me, but rather that than the alternative!

DanniRae Sun 27-Feb-22 13:27:00

Ok mine doesn't leave cupboard doors etc open and it's me who sneezes loudly but when the heating is on and I get the room I am sitting in nice and warm he leaves the door open when he goes out and sometimes leaves the back door open too. I can't believe he doesn't understand that if you leave a door open all the heat will escape. It drives me mad angry
If I ask him to get out a pork chop or chicken breasts to defrost he puts them on the smallest plate he find which means they defrost all over the counter.
If he is in the kitchen clearing up after the dinner I have cooked I have caught him slopping leftovers onto the floor for the dog to eat! How disgusting!!
But I have had a bad back lately and he has been so good at looking after me - constantly asking if I need anything I am willing to forget all the above - well maybe not all the heat disappearing out of an open door...... hmm

MissAdventure Sun 27-Feb-22 00:27:06

Oh, the dreaded toilet. angry
I could commit murder about the "in and around" issue.

janipans Sat 26-Feb-22 21:14:13

Hmmm! The toilet is my main niggle - both in and around! Nuff said!

Florencelady Sat 26-Feb-22 00:25:50

This is like therapy . I thought my dh was the only one who does these things as my brothers are all very neat and tidy. He leaves all doors open including outside ones, took me years to get him to lock outside doors at night..loses everything but they are just in front of him..disappears to the garden/ shed just as l am about to serve dinner although he has seen me cooking it etc. Funny but comforting how so many do the same things

Mom3 Fri 25-Feb-22 20:49:49

Mine leaves cupboard doors open, too, but slams doors loudly. The most annoying thing is his loud throat clearing, several times per minute especially when we are reading before going to bed. He says he can't help it. He recently had a scan done so he doesn't have Garrett's Esophagus or throat cancer. Just when I'm about to leap at him and choke him, he fortunately dozes off. He does fix me coffee in the morning and he is a good cook who fixes dinner. He does make a giant mess but I don't mind cleaning up.

Ohmother Thu 24-Feb-22 18:58:46

My OH asked me to explain why I keep losing my rag with him.

He got really mardy when I produced the PowerPoint. ???

Tizliz Thu 24-Feb-22 13:14:04

Musicgirl

Chinesecrested

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

Same here.

And then ask what is happening in the programme ?

Musicgirl Thu 24-Feb-22 13:10:32

Chinesecrested

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

Same here.

Yammy Thu 24-Feb-22 12:00:00

My DD suffers even more than me, wet clothes dirty clothes towels all just dumped. She says her father must have been to training school.
When she was first married at the time when ISIS was very prominent, her other half decided to have an impromptu part and emailed her at work with a shopping list. She got home to their flat [ with an intercom ]she could not reach the button, the bag was not stable enough, all she could hear was "Who is it?" in a very professional voice.
In desperation, she put the bag down and all the bottles fell over and rolled under a car. She pressed the button again and when asked replied" Osamama Bin laden who the hell do you think it is." She got down to try and retrieve the bottles when he opened the door asked her what she was doing under a car and told her her sarcasm was just like her mother's. She shouted and fathers and left the bottles for him to retrieve.

FindingNemo15 Thu 24-Feb-22 11:46:11

Ditto - all of the above plus...

talking to me when I am out of range in another room and then I have to go to where he is and ask him to repeat what he has said. He also mumbles, but will not admit to it.

sweetcakes Thu 24-Feb-22 11:21:21

All of the above ?.

Chinesecrested Thu 24-Feb-22 11:07:57

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

Shropshirelass Thu 24-Feb-22 08:53:07

My DH has OCD for things having to be inline and even or straight, cleaning up before I have finished!! Drives me potty. Lots of other things too!! HELP.

Grandma2002 Thu 24-Feb-22 07:58:02

In my DH case it is age related so I cannot complain. If I point out (gently) issues concerning drawers and cupboards he apologises so I know he cannot help it.
My main issue with him he bangs drawers and cupboards shut which is not good for the furniture.

Pepper59 Thu 24-Feb-22 03:06:10

Im just as annoying as my other half. Got to be honest about that.

Kalu Wed 23-Feb-22 23:41:30

BlueSaphire ?

henetha Wed 23-Feb-22 23:37:29

Wiggy (cockatiel) can be extremely annoying at times. She hurls seed around with her vicious beak and grins at me when I'm cleaning it up, staring at me with her beady little eyes.
And exactly at 6pm when I settle down with my dinner to watch the news she decides to 'sing' loudly.
Have you heard a cockatiel singing?
It' s a cross between a bad tempered parrot and a cat being strangled.
Wiggy and I have a love/hate relationship.

happycatholicwife1 Wed 23-Feb-22 21:25:15

Mine is the best man in the world! I don't deserve him. Do I ever get annoyed? Yes, but it's certainly my fault at least half of the time, so I reckon that's fair. I have one funny story, though. I was always keen on getting the leftovers into as small a container as possible. We had five kids, so always needed space in the fridge. That tiny little habit carried over until they were all gone. He couldn't see the reason, then, to put things into a smaller container, but I insisted. One night he said, "You know, I'll bet when I die, you'll be saying to the undertaker, can't you get him in a smaller box?".
I laughed so hard I collapsed on the floor.

mistymitts Wed 23-Feb-22 21:15:04

@Auntieflo, yes, My DH does the same, washes up everything except for a couple of items. Always. I think it’s a mini rebellion tactic.
Also, wiping crumbs off a work surface but just onto the floor.
Slicing a mini gem lettuce rather than pulling off whole leaves for a salad, there by leaving a stub of half cut lettuce.
Turning taps off far too tightly.

Patsy70 Wed 23-Feb-22 20:19:19

BlueSapphire flowers

BlueSapphire Wed 23-Feb-22 20:00:47

On my own now, (and I don't annoy myself.....), but late DH had a habit of taking his tie off when he came in from work, rolling it up really neatly and putting it on a shelf in the living room. By the end of each week there'd be five ties sitting neatly in a row. Did he ever take them up to the bedroom? And he always disappeared into the bathroom just as I was ready to dish up our evening meal. And he hoarded every single thing...... But I'd put up with everything just to have him back with me.

Patsy70 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:47:19

I seriously believe it’s a question of evolution and that men and women weren’t expected to cohabit 24/7 for an indefinite number of years. ‘Men the hunters, women the gatherers.’ The first wives usually died during childbirth, probably having had a child every year of the marriage. The widower then went on to marry a younger woman, to ‘keep house’ and have more children! Men and women have different priorities, in my humble opinion.

Frosty60 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:40:58

My list is endless and there’s more than one person who I love but drives me crazy. I just wouldn’t know where to start, haha ?

Sarah59 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:10:12

Is it a man thing? My husband is exactly the same! No matter how many times I say ‘shut the door’ he has to be reminded even single time!!!!! Drives me nuts ?