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Are you a packer or an overviewer? (Lighthearted)

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Lexisgranny Fri 25-Feb-22 10:43:00

Some of us are now thinking of holidays and/or long overdue visits to family, this will involve packing. Are you in total charge of packing after minimal discussion, an overseer, or do you leave it until you get there to give your other half the benefit of your observations.

The entire procedure could be fraught with issues. If you do it all, you will doubtless have ‘forgotten’ to pack the disreputable, but ‘essential’ folding straw hat for example. If you oversee, there is a good chance the atmosphere could get decidedly cool before you even lock the front door. The final possibility is that something vital will have been left behind, or indeed packed, that the other party considered essential/dislikes intensely. It can lead to heated exchanges such as “did you really expect to spend the entirely holiday in flip flops./ your suit case wouldn’t weigh a ton had you not put three pairs of formal leather shoes in it for a beach holiday “.

Doubtless there are thousands of couples who sail through these dilemmas, but equally I know several who don’t!

Is there a perfect formula, or should the suitcases go straight back In the loft?.

timetogo2016 Mon 28-Feb-22 09:56:36

We also pack our own.
I have a small hold-all and dh has a large case which he rarely uses 10%of the contents.
He says it`s best to be safe than sorry,yehhh whatever.

grumppa Mon 28-Feb-22 09:40:30

We each pack our own. After boarding school and years of business trips all over Europe it would never occur to me not to pack my own case.

lixy Mon 28-Feb-22 08:54:30

Blondiescot

We only travel with hand luggage so there's very little to pack. Five minutes and we're done.

Same here - too impatient to stand by the carousels!
I always take a little bottle of handwashing liquid and a collapsible set of pegs on a hanger so we can wash as we go.

DD on the other hand can arrive here for one night with a huge suitcase for all her 'essentials'!

LindaPat Mon 28-Feb-22 08:39:43

I pack for both of us, always! Mr LP is slightly colour blind, so I would never trust him to pack for me.

I am a list maker, and I have a spreadsheet for holiday packing. This includes separate lists for our clothes, and what I call the "other" things - toiletries etc. The spreadsheet is updated after every trip, and items added or deleted. Separate lists for hand luggage.

The cases come downstairs and are put in the snug 1 week before we travel. I then pack at leisure over the week, checking off the list as I go. Like other posters, I pack half our clothes in each suitcase, just in case.

I have a countdown list in days, as to what needs doing before we go - hairdresser, cleaning, birthday cards to post, charging kindles, changing currency etc.

Take enough meds for however long we are away, plus an extra week - so glad of this when our return flight was delayed one January because of bad weather in the UK, and we spent 2 days at a hotel near to the airport. Always take copies of repeat prescriptions.

I do suffer with holiday anxiety, so having these detailed lists calms me down, as I can see what I have packed.

Mr LP is in charge of booking flights, accomodation ( once I have chosen it!), car parking at the airport, and anything technical.

It works for us. We're due to go away in May, first time away anywhere since May '19, so my packing skills may be a bit rusty!

Take care xx

SkyBird Mon 28-Feb-22 07:39:34

My DH is almost a professional packer having lived out of a suitcase all of his working life. He was a long haul pilot. He is very minimalist and incredibly strict. I on the other hand absolutely loathe packing. Leaving it right to the end. I then pack for every eventuality. I often don't wear half of what I pack.

BlueSapphire Mon 28-Feb-22 07:11:45

We each packed our own suitcases, would never dream of packing for late DH; was always up to him what he packed. Although he would sometimes ask "Do you think I need....?"

Used to try and split stuff after two cases of mine went astray for a few days. Flying to Cyprus, my luggage went to Istanbul, and then flying interstate in Australia , my stuff ended up in Melbourne instead of Adelaide. Luckily both times the airline delivered the missing cases the next day.

cornergran Sun 27-Feb-22 19:02:59

No lists now as we holiday in thr U.K. - shops guaranteed smile. A supply of essential medication is stored in an overnight bag along with travel sized toiletries, hairdryer, makeup and a razor for Mr C so no need to hunt for those.

When we went on cruises there was always a detailed list, the spare bed held the heaps of ‘stuff’ until they made it into a case.

I’m the packer, always have been as it suits me better that way, Mr C deals with car loading and luggage moving. We’re happy.

Shandy57 Sun 27-Feb-22 18:31:27

My late husband was the hunter gatherer from my lists for our packing, and we also did half and half cases as our luggage went missing when we arrived in Australia. It was January and I had travelled in stretchy velvet trousers, it was SO hot!

Mrst1405 Sun 27-Feb-22 18:26:07

It depends on the holiday. We cruise quite a bit and feel our luggage is always with us. In that case we pack a case each. If a flight is involved we pack half and half. We each sort our medication and reading out. I tend to do the wash bag and DH all the paperwork. He did forget 6 shirts on our Christmas cruise , so it was tee shirts or posh black tie.

mrswoo Sun 27-Feb-22 15:36:51

We each pack our own suitcases but DH refuses to actually pack his until the day of departure. He reckons it would be unlucky to do so! Inevitably he forgets something or packs all the wrong things. He will never change now but it drives me mad.

MerylStreep Sun 27-Feb-22 14:52:56

We’ve got 3 holidays booked. The Edinburgh festival for a week. Cornwall for a week and Spain for as long or short as we want because that will be in the motohome.
I do all the packing. I can’t trust my OH to put the right shirt/ top with the correct shorts/ trousers ?

Smileless2012 Sun 27-Feb-22 14:08:39

Definitely a packer and Mr. S. doesn't even qualify as an over viewer. He'll have a handful of items that he wants to take, of no importance to me so I don't even think about them, and if he forgets something which he invariable does, he says "we've forgotten to bring ......"hmm.

JackyB Sun 27-Feb-22 14:01:03

If we're only going away for a short trip and can fit everything in one case I put my things on the bed and DH packs it.

When my DS and DiL lived in America, on one occasion her parents went to stay with them. They were staying for a few days then going on a "road trip" for a week. They had brought 2 identical suitcases. Before going in their trip they sorted everything into what they needed and what they didn't need for the trip and just took one suitcase with them.

Youve guessed - when they got to their first hotel that night they opened the case and discovered they'd brought the wrong one. No underwear or suitable clothing for sightseeing and travelling.

As it was the US, getting new stuff at that time of night was no problem, but I found the story quite amusing. DH and I are both very "belt and braces" and would have checked three times that we had the right case. But we don't own 2 identical cases anyway...

Marmight Sat 26-Feb-22 09:23:56

The late Mr M always packed his own case although I did refold some of his stuff! We had matching cases but one was bigger than the other - mine grin. I start to think about what to take well in advance and lay it all out on the spare (kingsize) bed with a pile of ‘maybes’. It gets whittled down & packed the day before travel. I always roll clothes into ‘sausages’ which works so much better than flat packing. However hard I try, despite keeping an updated list on my iPad, I always forget something and take too much of another.
Ive started preparing well in advance for my forthcoming trip to Oz ?

LOUISA1523 Sat 26-Feb-22 08:45:22

Aveline

We each pack our own cases.

This
I have never packed or ironed for my partner in 37 years

aonk Fri 25-Feb-22 22:18:37

We each do our own packing on the bed in our spare room. I have a “master list” of clothing etc and make a list from it for the trip we’re packing for. I cross each item off as I put it in the case. It’s not infallible but very nearly. My DH laughs at the list but did have to go and buy swim shorts and flip flops on our last holiday abroad!

Cherrytree59 Fri 25-Feb-22 21:01:50

I do the holiday packing list
I pack the clothes, toiletries, hair paraphernalia and make up etc?

DH sorts his camera stuff, paperwork, passport if required and currency plus his holiday itinery dry and rain excursions (all researched for several weeks prior to hols)

If self-catering in UK then I bow to DH's car packing skills for what he calls my 'everything but the kitchen sink' ??

nexus63 Fri 25-Feb-22 20:45:24

at the moment i have 2 small suitcases packed, one for hospital and one if i need to leave in a hurry, i found my dad 5 years ago and first visit i packed too much, i buy most of my clothes from charity shops and the area he stays has 8/9 charity shops within a 2 min walk, so last time i just packed underwear and nighties and a few tops, got a great selection to bring home. i am always in the uk so it is easy to buy toiletries. when my husband was with me i did all the packing for the three of us and never had any problems, i am very practical and organised, family used to laugh when i packed our one bedroomed house in the morning and moved that night...lol

Kim19 Fri 25-Feb-22 20:25:50

We always each packed our own but we did it from a regular spreadsheet which we adjusted after each trip and removed any items we hadn't needed and added anything we wish we had taken. No problems ever experienced.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 25-Feb-22 16:45:15

DH gets his clothes out, I then pack two suitcases with a selection of both our clothes (beachwear, daywear, evening wear, shoes, toiletries etc) just in case an item of luggage goes missing.

Medications and spare set of clothes in our carry on luggage.

DH packs for our return journey.

Witzend Fri 25-Feb-22 16:36:39

We each pack our own. After so many business trips before retirement, dh has his down to a fine art, and he only ever takes hand luggage, however long he’s going for.

I’ve only ever forgotten anything vital once, and that was knickers ? when we were off for a wedding in the Czech Republic. We stayed for the first night or two in Prague, where I have never been so pleased to see an M&S in my life!

Judy54 Fri 25-Feb-22 15:12:41

We each pack our own. Unusually I am the minimalist and Mr J always takes far to may clothes. I tend to take separates and look at what tops go with which trousers/skirts and what colours go together. We have a list of basic essentials like soap, toiletries, towels etc and I check and double check ticking things of my list as I go. Sounds sad but I am an organised person who makes to do lists for everything!

Lexisgranny Fri 25-Feb-22 14:59:48

Agree entirely about splitting clothes, we also take a spare set of underclothes in hand luggage, since losing a suitcase twice in the USA. Unfortunately we once took a holiday in a remote village where it was not possible to buy the items forgotten. My husband sorts out his own medication and we are each responsible for our own in hand luggage, plus copies of prescriptions. Actually, though it would appear that Gransnetters are a fairly organised bunch!

Mollygo Fri 25-Feb-22 13:30:52

I used to do all the packing. Now we pack for ourselves but put some sets of our clothes in each case -you only have to lose a suitcase or find it’s been sent on somewhere else once, to make that a necessity.

Oldnproud Fri 25-Feb-22 12:29:21

We each do our own, but DH is much better at it than I am. His clothes will be neatly folded, and mine badly folded.
When we pack to come home, his will again be folded neatly, while my case will resemble a laundry basket.